Sometimes, it is racism and sometimes it is a matter of the person being from the "wrong side of the tracks" as they say. It is one thing to date someone of another race - however, a parent just want to see their child with someone that is headed on a successful path.
If you are dating someone who is obviously headed no-where fast - I truly do understand your parents position. It is not about race but the class of that person from that race. (1 Corinthians 15:33). You can be with someone of your same race but if that person is "bad news" - your parents will probably respond the same way.
No matter what class the person you will date outside of your race is from - you will deal with enough opposition as it is......however, to be with someone from another race who do not have any drive or ambitions or uneducated - will only worsen an already challenging situation.
Your parents are hurting for you. Try to understand that it may not be all "racism." It just may be that the person is "no good" for you despite their race.
Proverbs 13:20 - “He that is walking with wise persons will become wise, but he that is having dealings with the stupid ones will fare badly.”
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NO!! that is totally not right if you really like just keep dating him maybe they will warm up to the idea :)
its not okay
That ain't right at all. You need to talk to your parents about the whole thing and why they shouldn't be racist. Some people won't listen, but if they don't, then they're bad parents.
Half of my family are racists, and my parents are racists. Also, my oldest sister -.-
Keep on dating him
NO!!!!!! What you should try is have him over and let them get to know him and they can see why it is you like him!
I'd keep him clear of your folks, at least for now
"colored"? That's racist.
It's perfectly fine. Ur parents have the right to do anything they want. Many black families yell at their kids for dating white ppl. Racism is just apart of our world
Well, that sux, but you live in their house, therefore you have to follow their rules. When you turn 18 get, a job and move out, then you can do whatever (or whomever) you want.
no it's not right, that is looking down on someone because of there race, and not looking at them for the person they are.
That is not ok you should date who you want and no matter how dark or light he/she is your parents can't stop your relationship just do whatever feels right
Well a lot parents are racist. They grew up in that time where racism wasn't really considered bad so it unlikely your going to convince them to not be racist. And just because their racist doesn't mean their bad parents. Their views have nothing to do with their parenting.
Your parents may be looking beyond the immediate relationship. It's still hard to live in two cultures. Most can, very successfully. Others find the pressure difficult. Follow your heart.
Racism is one of the worst failings of human beings. Racism is like the Indian caste system: the darker your skin, the lower on the caste your pushed down - one of my best friends - for real - is a mathematician (Ph.D.) who is also African American - he grew up in a rough neighborhood like me: Compton, CA. I asked him once about when he first encountered racism - he had memories of discrimination back to when he was just a child - he told me - most black mothers have, at around puberty, "the talk" - where they explain what they're going to be facing more and more as these kids get older. Just listening to him quote his mother made my skin crawl - was this the 21st Century? To answer your question - of course you can love anyone of any color - but you have to understand - there are many people that absolutely do not accept "intermingling" of the races or "inter-racial marriages" - they typically have been indoctrinated into racism at a young age and it stuck - my advice is for both of you to follow your hearts - and grow thick skins against the bigots.
If the only reason they disapprove of your relationship is racial prejudice that is wrong.
WHAT!? UR PARENTS R RACIST! IF I could, I would put all caps in here...
ANYWAYS IT NOT OKAY, it's not like your boyfriend goes to gangs or does drugs or killed someone, can't judge a book by it's cover, so don't listen to what your parents have to say.
Go your own road.
That's just messed up. (your parents)
You're allowed to date whoever you want, of your parents can't see how happy and content you are, then it's their fault
no its not right.u should be able to date whoever you want to date
Forget color ....not culture...
We all bleed red !
um...NO! thats never ok! my grandmas racist too, and i was dating a mexican and she was all like "oh no, u gotta find a white one!" but she didnt really yell. im srry bout ur parents, dont let them hold u back from love!
Heck no it's not right! My Dad can be racist sometimes, but I'd date whoever the heck I want, age 15 or not! I can't stand racists, and I'm kind of a rebel anyway lol
Black, white, Asian, Hispanic...blah blah I'm so SICK AND TIRED of people letting color cloud their judgement when it comes to a persons character. We were all born into this world the same and we will all eventually die! I say speak to your parents don't give up because if our ancestors would have given up a lot of us wouldn't be here today.
If you know your parents have a problem with other races, then why would you bring your boyfriend home. I can only see one reason for this and its to rebel. If your a minor living under your parents roof and you know that they have a backwards view on human life then your just at fault for subjecting your poor boyfriend to something so ugly as racism. In short form no your parents shouldn't yell at you or anyone else for any reason.
Generally, it's never "right" to yell at someone, unless it's to tell them the house in on fire and they need to evacuate! Just a general rule of thumb. Yelling demeans the yell -ee's personhood, and that is esentially harmful. Apparently, your mum & dad have strong feelings regarding inter-racial dating relationships. Congratulations on surviving this environment and remaining sane and open-minded. Hopefully, YOUR enlightened attitude will positively impact your folks' ideas and beliefs. In the meantime, appeal to local counselors / advisors / support groups, as you are doing, here. Bullies never REALLY win, by the way. Keep the faith,and keep youself SAFE, please. My thoughts and prayers are with you, Be well.
do not listen to your parents. that is really messed up
thats really messed up i think u should keep dating him
hell no if u like black men you like them
You should go with who you love. Lots of parents expect you to be like them.
no that is not right you have the right to date who you want. you should keep going with him
A wise parent would recognise the conflict of parental concern and racist undertones is a possibility.
One would hope by dating age they have already placidly and informally run through some issues as a third party so as a daughter you can pick up some ideas for screening would be boyfs yourself.
eg how they treat their mum, how they treat alcohol, how they treat clients and what religious and societal rules run through other social groups.
I read "I married you" which is about African society in preparation to marriage to my wife of 12 years and twins.... very interesting situations are described where I could be judgemental by my own thoughts. instincts and conclusions.
No it is not. You should be allowed to date who ever you want!
All human's began in africa, then over generation's migrated to cooler/less sun land mass'. So really your parent's don't realize your bf is actually same race, "the human race" P.S. I'm caucasian and my gf is native north american. White vs Black is all just pigmentation.
not at all, they need to see that just because he has black skin he is the very same in every way besides skin colour due to the fact same bone structure intestines heart lungs every part of a human is him and us..
Be with who ever makes you happy, it isn't your parents who are going to be with him, it's you, and they need to open their eyes and realize the happiness of their child is worth more than the grudge they bear toward another race.
It is not right.
Now, I think if you like the person you should date them. No matter what skin tone they are. The one thing you must look out for is religion. I dated a Muslim and that relationship ended awful. So, try and tell your parents that you really like this guy. Therefore the answer is no, your parents shouldn't have yelled at you. If you really like him then stay with him. Follow your heart and stay with him. Hope this helps you! Xoxo
It isn't "right" to yell but they have their opinion and you are going against it. It would be wonderful if everybody loved everybody else but some people have strong feelings about this sort of thing. I don't know how young you are or what other reasons they have, so stick with this person if you really like him and are not trying to get back at them or teach them a lesson. It might be as simple as their worry about how hard you life can be if you marry or true racism. If it was racism, you probably already knew about it. You might want to finish your education, get a job, and move out on your own -- take on adult responsibilities so they can see you know how to accept responsibility.
It depends. To me, that doesn't seem right. Everyone should be treated equally. But to your parents, they believe something different. I'm not saying they're racist exactly, but that's what it's sounding like. For whatever reasons, your parents don't think you should date him. Have you asked if it's because of his race? Maybe they just don't like the guy. If that's the case, maybe they aren't trying to be racist but they just think you shouldn't date the guy, for whatever reason. If you have, and they just don't like the color of the skin, there is something wrong. They're not treating him fairly, and he doesn't deserve to be treated like that. So either, get them to warm up to him or end it. He doesn't deserve to be judged by his race for your entire relationship. Good luck.
Keep dating him. Your parents have no right to make you stop dating him based on race.
I have to ask 2 things that could make it difficult for you 1) do you live with your parents 2) are you over 18 but to answer your question.Your parents are way off base and by there yelling at you the risk of you being more rebellious in there eyes rises.
