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brooke1229
brooke1229: 9 months ago via iPhone

can you help me?

I have a friend that is 14 and she got pregnant. I told her she was way to young and she wasn't ready. I'm telling her to get an apportion even though I know that isn't right. now she is yelling at me and telling me that I'm not a real friend cuz I ain't happy for her. what do I do?

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mamatembo53
mamatembo53: 9 months ago | Last edited at 2:27AM on 8/18/2012

She is your friend and you need to support her, no matter what she decides. If you really care about her, you will help her with whatever she wants to do. Look online for teen pregnancy organisations in your area and help her call the numbers, to get support for her pregnancy.

My grandmother was married and pregnant by 12 years old, had a total of twelve children and she did just fine. It is hard to be pregnant at such a young age, but let your friend decide what she wants to do about it. Be her friend, not her judge and jury.

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koichan: 9 months ago
Good luck, Little One, you sound very wise.
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iamassasin
iamassasin: 9 months ago

Ignore her. It's probably the hormones. -Sighs- Kids these days

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TheItalianDude: 9 months ago
AC 3 nice. Cant wait for it.
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Zoedawn
Zoedawn: 9 months ago via iPhone

Just support her decision and let her u r there for her

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cookieroma
cookieroma: 9 months ago via iPhone | Last edited at 12:35AM on 8/18/2012

How about bringing up her putting the baby for adoption? As far as your not being happy for her, she is delusional.

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Jadefers
Jadefers: 9 months ago
Kids ! you gotta wonder.
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StockedFina
StockedFina: 9 months ago via Android

abortion and if she cant understand den let her learn the hard way..

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iGO_BoNkErZzz: 9 months ago | Last edited at 12:34AM on 8/18/2012

Your just her friend. Let her do whatever she wants. Just focus on what YOU would do when your time comes.

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PinkLights: 9 months ago
exactly!
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TheItalianDude
TheItalianDude: 9 months ago

Support her decisions

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PinkLights: 9 months ago
right!
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TheItalianDude: 9 months ago
Thank u for agreeing ;)
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ThaSupaboi
ThaSupaboi: 9 months ago

She knows she's too young she doesnt need someone telling her that just be by her side with whatever she chooses to do.

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PinkLights: 9 months ago
agree with you :)
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ThaSupaboi: 9 months ago
Thanks :)
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VictoiaV
VictoiaV: 9 months ago

Well you should support her, she is your friend. Maybe if you get her like some baby clothes or something she'll feel like you support her decision

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brooke1229: 9 months ago via iPhone
She is only 3 weeks pregnant, she knows she is too young but I'm sorry to say but my friend is a whore
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PinkLights: 9 months ago
I agree with VictoiaV
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PinkLights: 9 months ago
Brooke, you're trying to make her kill her baby and you're calling her a wh0re...I'm sorry but you don't sound like a very good friend to me :/
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PinkLights: 9 months ago
You're trying to make her kill her baby and you called her a whore? Sorry but you don't sound like a very good friend to me :/
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PinkLights: 9 months ago
Excuse me Brooke but first you're trying to make her kill her child, then you called her the W word...? Sorry, but you don't sound like a very good friend to me :/ I kind of feel sorry for her...
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PinkLights: 9 months ago
Sorry I didn't mean to post it that many times...this site is such a screw up, i swear it said that the third and fourth posts were going to be deleted because "they were too colorful for this site" I also realize I sounded kind of rude. Idk, it's just that she's your friend, you know? And being a mom at 14 she's going through a lot right now, she's going to need to be surrounded by supportive people!
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brooke1229: 9 months ago via iPhone
She has already had sex with 4 other dudes, you would call her that 2. I don't like abortions anyway, it is the only thing she can do since she is only 3 weeks preggys..... I just don't wanna see my friend go through pain, school starts on sept 4, I don't want anyone making fun of her
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PinkLights: 9 months ago
Just stand up for her if she gets made fun of! If she was my friend, no I would NOT call her that. Maybe she wants to be a mother? Why would you try to stop her if that's what she wants to do?
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PrincessArabella
PrincessArabella: 9 months ago

I know your heart is in the right place. However she is going to make whatever decision she is going to make. The fact she is 14 and having sex shows she isn't good at making smart choices. All you can do is let her live her life and try to be there for her even tho' they are making choices you wouldn't.

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ManavT: 9 months ago via iPhone

U guys say support her but if u try to talk her out of it or have her suffer and she will come crawling back herself

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PinkLights
PinkLights: 9 months ago

Maybe she doesn't want to kill a baby who could have a chance at life? Maybe she thinks she can actually raise that child? I know you're trying to look out for her, but it's her body, her baby, her life and her decision. I think it's just best to back off on this one!

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ThaSupaboi: 9 months ago
Nice :D
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PinkLights: 9 months ago
Thank you! And I added you back :P
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letoforde
letoforde: 9 months ago via iPhone

Be there for her in any decision she makes.

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carlcab
carlcab: 9 months ago

She made her choices and chooses to live with them and live her life --- and so shall you ---

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luckyloops555: 9 months ago

What's done is done. Even if you don't agree with it, if you want to be nice, help her and don't make the same mistake.

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stjoes80: 9 months ago via Android
exactly what I was gonna say.
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insanemonkey75: 9 months ago

i would try to support her descisions. even though she may have not made the right choices, a true friend wouldnt let that get in the way.

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koichan
koichan: 9 months ago

How about considering what kind of friend you are when you judge her and call her a "whore." I would suggest you keep your focus on your own life, and learning to be a better friend. Your friend has some huge decisions to make and doesn't need the shade you're throwing on her.

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geniusgurl: 9 months ago

Im 14 and pregnant to! And i would just help support your friend and let her do whatever she wants to do. Im sure she didnt mean to yell at you. Shes probably just stressed out right now. Trust me, shes still your friend!

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mamatembo53: 9 months ago
Nice answer; : D
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SweetGalBritt
SweetGalBritt: 9 months ago

wow your the right one,just ignore her.

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aec98
aec98: 9 months ago

just ingore her she is the one that made the mistake

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