Submit a question to our community and get an answer from real people.
Submit

I'm terrified of driving. How do I get over this fear?

I don't have my license yet and my parents are trying to convince me to get one. I tried driving in my moms car in june, hit a curb and freaked out. What should I do?

Report as

I've been a mentor for a number of Motorcycle riders and I also taught my wife to drive a standard transmission truck.

First, find a very large parking lot, such as a church or school. If the only vehicle you have access to is your parents, ask them to take you there then get out of the vehicle.

Start with it parked in a spot. From a parked position in a spot, back up then forward and park. Do this until you are comfortable.

Once comfortable with that, back out, turn and proceed to the end of the row and stop. Turn and go down another row and stop. Do this until you are comfortable.

Once you are comfortable, expand your circle and continue until you are comfortable.

Once you are comfortable, proceed down one row and pull into a space and park. Back out, proceed down the row 5 spaces and park. Repeat this until you are comfortable.

The entire process should take 3-4 hours. Don't let up, don't think you can't do it and you will be fine.

At any time, stop and regroup if you get nervous. Have NO ONE around you to distract you.

Helpful (2) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (1)
Report as
very good answer mr. maverick. school, church, or empty mall parking lot works well. have driven for 40 years but had to start driving with my left foot only last summer, so i went to an empty mall parking and just started practicing starting and stopping over and over again to make the physical and mental adjustments.
Report as
Add a comment...

Practice makes perfect! Don't you worry. Just keep on practicing in place without a lot of cars and remember this: You need to get over this fear because sooner or later you will need to get a car. After all, facing our fears is one of the best things we can do in life! Go out there and learn how to drive! It'll only do you good.

Helpful (4) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Practice on a smaller vehicle first. Borrow a neighbor's lawn tractor, drive a galf cart around, something like that. ATV's (four-wheelers) and dirt bikes are probably not good. Also, you'll get used to it. Nobody has a clue what they're doing at first. Drive on easy roads, too, like relatively straight back roads, or a deserted parking lot (maybe on a Sunday). Avoid city streets, routes, and ESPECIALLY interstates if you can. Just remember: the brake pedal is your friend.

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (1)
Report as
Large cemeteries work well too since you are supposed to drive slow.
Report as
Add a comment...

Drive it has been proven that when u are afrade of something face it don't think about it just do it of you think about it you will back out

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...
SoundsAboutRight

ask your parents to take private lessons. they could be part of the problem making you more nervous..and the way to get over it..is to do it more.

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

My daughter is 26 and she doesn't drive. Because of this, she does not work much either. She is reliant on others to get around. You will become like this also if you don't drive.

Helpful (2) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

If you have Grand Theft Auto 4 or something similar where you use the trigger to control the speed of your car instead of a button, try practicing on that. It's highly accurate and handles well. Burnouts are fun, too. I'll tell you a story that might help. My father asked me to back up the truck on day at work. The back doors were open, so I thought I could hit the gas, slam on the brakes and the doors would slam shut. It didn't work and I hit the person's shed. The back door bent backwards, I panicked, hit the gas and went a few more feet. My dad had to hit the door with a sledgehammer to get it to close. After that I didn't drive for five months. But the urge to drive and go places on my own overtook my fears. So don't worry too much; worse things could have happened.

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (2)
Report as
-_- Are you kidding me?

Report as
No, it's all true. Yet as I was standing there, staring at the truck, I saw a little white and brown mouse run across my shoes. It made me chuckle and realize that it wasn't as bad as I thought.
Report as
Add a comment...

Simply, drive. Take your parent's car (if you don't have one) to a large, barren parking lot and practice stopping, turning, and parking smoothly. I'm in the same situation- I'm only fifteen and a half, just out of driver's ed- and now I can't wait to drive.

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Play realistic car video games, like Need For Speed, Gran Turismo, Driving Simulator, etc...
These game will give you a general look of what you should do in every (situation),(road),etc...
Moreover, you can buy a steering wheel and a pedals FOR YOUR COMPUTER and try to press the pedals as slightly as you can, that will give you the ability to control the car slightly without any sudden gas pedal press and the full control moving car very slowly to very fast... yes that will give you close to reality driving experience, later after you adapt on driving comfortably and confident, then you can go apply your virtual experience in reality.
In reality, drive relax and don't care for what anybody thinks when your are behind the driving wheel, and begin to drive slowly, and gradually increase it.

NOTE: nothing happens in a sudden of eyes, so you must be patient, doing a thing for a couple of day won't work, so just be patient.

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (3)
Report as
Like Keskeitz, these games won't help much at all unless the screen literally surrounds you. The most important skill in driving, just above being able to 'being able to make instant, responsible decisions' is to learn to constantly search your surroundings, and far ahead. Video games can't do that- they don't offer depth. The player also won't be making the real motions or decisions as they would in real life.
Report as
I meant that the virtual world will give her the knowledge when to turn and when to slow down, etc... And the rest will be easy for her in reality, cause the rest would be things that don't require a prior experience, like looking around and in mirror, etc... .
Report as
Great bro!
Report as
Add a comment...

practice and stay calm. Focus on the road and pray and hope for the best. :)

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

have someone with u

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Get a bike

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

The way to get rid of a fear is by practicing/ doing it!(: If it makes you feel any more comfortable, go to an empty parking lot. That way you won't have to worry about other cars, people, stop signs, etc. Hope I helped(:

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

My older sister was afraid when she started too. I think you should just do it so much that it is like second nature. So be safe, have fun, and good luck!

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Drive. Take it slow. Be with a friend. Read and learn first. Take lessons (optional). Face your fears.

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

I'm 31 & don't drive. I often have people telling me to get over it. It's just not that easy. I have my permit. I drive but have been in many accidents (none in which I was driving). The fear gets so bad I close my eyes & have panic attacks. I choose to stay off the road so no one gets hurt or worse. Drive when you are comfortable. If your fear is not this bad then I agree you practice w/ someone you trust to teach you. Stay off busy streets. Dirt roads & parking lots are the best. Good luck.

Helpful (2) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

I have that same problem like i constantly have the fear that I'm going to die in a car accident because theres just everything that could go wrong so your not the only person with this fear.

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

its ok every one has a fear. The best think to do is try to get over it. :)

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

i was also like u but now i can drive.i got 1 month training in driving school with full of rule s and regulation and punctuality i gave full respect of my teacher although he was 10 year younger to me.after 1 month i bacame perfect now i have my own car and drive it

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

What you need to do is very simple. You need to practice driving more and more. Start with driving in some empty street and once you think your capable enough to drive on busy roads, then start driving on those high traffic roads. The fear will automatically go with practice.

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Driving school is the answer ,they will overcome those fears.

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Ask your friends or their parents for a name of a good instructor; if in school, take a drivers' ed course. If you get your license, your good judgement will help your driving. Don't get your license until you feel ready! I can tell you that not having a license in some parts of the USA (Fla.) will really keep you back especially if you are looking for work; and, you will feel a sense of accomplishment! Good luck!!

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

She has to practice and drives as much as possible to remove fear. It is constructive to take sombody with herself during the driving. Her boy friend is excpetion in order to erdicate root of communication during the driving or prvent endangering.

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

I'm 31yrs old and am from the country... i was fine to drive...where i'm from. ....but then i married a city man, moved to the city and I was utterly PETRIFIED to drive anywhere!!... even to the grocery store!!! ....for 7yrs!! ....i let my license expire and didnt drive out of fear for 7 grueling years. ....if I was behind the wheel, my hands would literally shake. .....Well it came time for our children to start kindergarten; and I couldnt expect my husband to drive everywhere himself any longer..... so the day I got my license... he saw me take the test and pass... he literally was yelling "yes!!! finally!!" and jumping up and down!! SOOO Excited!! ..... and seeing how pleased he was and I'm sure' relieved too... motivated me a lot. .....I started out, driving around our neighborhood ..then down a city street... to the airport and so-forth ... my tension eased .. my fear dissipated quickly. ....so do what I did... Just doing it... slowly... is the only way you'll get over your fear. ...Wishing you well!

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

oh i don't know, drive?

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Wait. This may not be the right time in your life to drive.

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Find a parking lot that has no parking blocks and go nuts. Speed up fast, break fast, turn fast (all within reason) and get used to that feeling. Use cones if necessary to practice curbs and parking. One thing I had trouble with was which way to turn the wheel when in reverse. Picture the wheel going into your right butt cheek to reverse right and into your left butt cheek to go left. Sounds strange but it works to this day! Good luck!

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

You may be in a situation someday where knowing how to drive may save your life. To assuage your fears, although you do not have control over outside factors, you can control your driving habits, weather conditions you choose to drive in, where you choose to drive, maintenance of your vehicle, tires, etc. Learn from a good and calm patient driver who has taught someone before. Learn in huge empty parking lots. Although video games might help, you might also learn things that you should not do as a new driver. When teaching my teenage son, he sped up going into curves. He learned that from video games. Practice frequently for short intervals to avoid frustration. Good luck!

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (1)
Report as
Well said!
Report as
Add a comment...

While I was learning to drive, I made the mistake of having friends and family try to teach me...I always felt intimidated...go to a driving school; they don't know you or judge you; so you can just be yourself and relax and learn...plus you get a break on insurance! Good Luck!

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

You just drive, once you see how easy it is you wont have to worry. It may seem scary but if you follow the rules you'll be fine. The scariest part about driving is driving with your parent s in the car.

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Depends on if you HAVE to drive. To get a job you need a reliable way to get there. Public transportation works too. It's just nice to be self reliant and friends & family will appreciate it to. Figure out if it's a fear of learning due to the pressure of your past instructor(s) or if it's something else. Most people are nervous when they start - try the most deserted areas to practice - closed shopping areas, cemetery etc. It'll take time - but be persistent.

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

people do mistakes, so you can try again this time with someone with you or you can go to a place where you practice driving!!!

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Practice makes you perfect! hey all please visit my youtube link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4L088v2ZPgY

Its worth watching. Its my university project I need the most views, likes/dislikes and comments. Please spread in your circle. Do this before the 26th August 2012!!! please ill do the same too if you any blog or vdo or anything!!! Please please Help!!!

Thanx loads

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

keep driving up and down the streets and then for a challenge, drive on bridges

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Practice driving down dirt roads, empty parking lots, When I started driving I was afraid of interstate driving but the more I done it the more I got use to it and enjoy it. I now drive tractor trailers on the east coast. So just keep at it and dont let little mistakes tear you away from driving.

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (1)
Report as
I agree with you because I've lived on a farm all my life and I started driving when I was 6 years old (just tall enough to see over the dashboard). Usually just around the yard and sometimes on the road, its much safer on a farm anyways because you dont have cars that would be a distraction all the time. Just assure yourself that nothing is going to go wrong, maybe you hit a curb, oh well its a scuff on your tire or rims, not that bad of a problem. Make sure you aren't rushed or anything because that will make you tense and then you may overcompensate when doing something ending up in something bad. Hope this short story (not much of an answer) helps.
Report as
Add a comment...

Being terrified, flustered, confused, or simply feeling overwhelmed by the situation when one is doing something, which involves responsibility, has to do with lacking the capacity of being poised, or having mental equilibrium. Scientifically, it means that someone who gets emotionally overwhelmed by a given situation stops using the brain cortex frontal lobe, letting other primitive regions of the brain to take over (hippocampus, amygdala). This happens to persons who lacks self-esteem and confidence. iHolland, you have to regain yourself, that is to say, your frontal lobe, by achieving self-confidence. You have to really value yourself, by feeling solidly in one indivisible whole, because you are a good person!

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

soundsaboutright is right. lol. I took private lessons and I was way less nervous because I knew that worst case scenario my instructor had break pedal as well.

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Bind the spirit of Fear! Tell it to get out in Jesus 'Name!! And it will flee!!

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (1)
Report as
oh please.....bible pusher
Report as
Add a comment...

Read this, from Rookie Mag (awesome amazing prolific godsent online zine): http://rookiemag.com/2012/08/drive-on-driver/

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

if you are driving a motorcycle, maybe you can change another fairings.
www.rockfairings.com

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Hey, you should go get a license, you can not drive without that.

By the way, you will get rid of the fear if you practice more on driving. Try a motor with fairings. www.rockfairings.com

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

I would pray when I got in the car and ask Jesus to take away the fear- and whenever fear came up I would rebuke he spirit of fear- not trying to be "religious" but it really does work

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Play car simulator (Gran Turismo, Need For Speed,etc.) free run and race games (Midnight Club,etc.)

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...
Do you have an answer?
Answer this question...
Did you mean?
Login or Join the Community to answer