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Why are so many kids these days so rotten and rude lately?

are parents too lazy or neglectful today? is there just not enough family time & discipline anymore? a lot of kids seem so mean & miserable, whats going on? I have some theories but not sure

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Maybe because their parents are rotten and rude too.

Children use their parents as examples for behavior. And too often parents don't teach correct behavior because they don't know it themselves.

Well behaved children exist but generally only to parents who teach proper manners and behaviors and the parents themselves must be the good example.

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well said
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Sad but true
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Kids are the same way they always have been. Humans have a selective memory and create "the good old days" when things were always this way.

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I don't believe that but maybe it is so in your case. I've been noticing lately quite a few kids acting in a manner and saying things neither my siblings, friends or I would ever have had said or done. It just seems like this generation is being raised much more different than mine or my parents generation. But thank you for your answer. Take care.
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A lot of kids are just spoiled, & it makes them think they can get whatever they want

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Parents are trying to let their kids have what they didn't and are attempting to be friends with their kids and not parents. Kids today in general have no respect for others and expect to get everything they want. With parents who spend less time with their kids, they compensate with gifts and giving the child whatever they want to stay happy. Parents are mostly to blame, but society as a whole needs to change

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I've noticed everything you've said too. I definitely think those reasons are big contributors. It makes sense, I see quite a few answers that make sense (definitely including yours). Thank you & take care.
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Wow, as a parent I have made those mistakes. That was a very insightful answer. Thank you. Sincerely.
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Are generation is the worst ever period.

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I will admit the younger generation can be pretty selfish but I think they still have the potential to change themselves. My hope is once they mature they realize there are other people that matter. Every generation goes through a rotten period, but becoming an adult has a funny way of changing attitudes.

(and by the way, I think you meant OUR generation, not are)
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Is that a joke?
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I think that came out wrong...sorry... Are you serious about thinking your generation has the worst period ever?
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...and what's 'are generation'?

Do you mean 'worst ever spellers'?

(it's OUR generation - it doesn't even SOUND the same)

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Lol... I've been noticing that as well. English, grammar, & spelling has really declined.
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Parents need to teach children respect.

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My personal opinion is, is the law took away parents rights to discipline their children like we were disciplined. We were more of afraid of our parents then anything else. My Opinion.

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This is true to a certain degree but there are so many ways to discipline without being physical.
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They have it to easy now

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Parents are more anxious about having kids these days and even more anxious about disciplining them. Parents have to worry that everyone is watching how they are raising their child and they worry someone will turn them into CPS as a bad parent.

Parents even worry their own kids can become angry and call CPS and lie to CPS to get their own way.
Consequently, a lot of parents are afraid to set clear guidelines for their child, least it appear as abusive.

The end result is, kids are now becoming more unruly and getting away with murder! : (

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There is a kind of over-riding rudeness in the air. Not just with kids tho. You can hear it in the music too.

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Ten years ago laws were a lot less strict when it came to discipline. Nowadays you can't even raise your voice to them without someone crying abuse. Because of this parents are limited in child discipline which causes kids to take advantage of it. And as already mentioned, some people just aren't cut out for parenting and let their kids do what they want. It's created generations of spoiled brats who have no respect for anyone and figure they can do whatever they want. It's quite sad really.

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People ( especially kids) have developed this mentality where they don't care about respect, can't see reason, and have no common sense. No it is not all of them, a lot, but not all. It's kind of concerning to me though because eventually i might have to work with them or something and that's just not good.

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The Oompah Loompahs say it best in the movie, Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory. They sing, "You know exactly who to blame... the mother and the father!"

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It's this generations fault -.-

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Most kids like most people are good. Parenting skills have decreased and we have spoiled children because they have not been taught otherwise. Look at the parents.

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Because parents today would rather be talking on Facebook then disciplining their children. Also with the implementation of "time out" it doesn't really teach much. When I was a kid a time out was when my dad took time out of his day to beat our ass, and guess what, it didn't take two or three time outs, it took one! We learned very quickly.

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Yeh that's right. And it stuck. Didn't have to have one every day either. You would remember for months...... Years.......
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Yep and it stuck... Didn't need one every day either... You would remember for months......years
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That's exactly right. I'm 30 years old and theres still things I won't do just because I don't want to get my ass beat lol.
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Kids are constantly trying to fit in. They also are allowed to watch violent movies and shows. Also listen to music which advocates violence. I also agree that discipline has been thrown out of the window. When I was a child, I was disciplined the old fashioned way. Out came the belt and away went any privileges. I knew I had crossed the line and better not do it again. I still love my parents and look to their example when I raised my kids with yes mam and yes sir. This is just my opinion but kids want to emulate strong figures in their life and we have to careful to talk to them to see where their mins are at, even when they don't want to.

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Music doesn't advocate violence if a kid is dumb enough to get angry about a song or movie etc. Then there just dumb
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I'll bet Adam asked the same question.

Each generation seems to deplore the (*insert the gripe of your choice*) in the next. They're too loud, too ill-mannered, too selfish. I've been hearing it all my life.

There are certainly some unpleasant kids and the problem is that they stand out, and it's easy to judge the whole by the few. There are some unpleasant adults, too.

Two things probably separate the present generation from those who went before. Information and discipline.

Through the medium of TV and the Internet today's kids have access to information that I never dreamed of. Sex is part of it, of course, but they're also getting the world's news served up to them in bite-sized chunks that are easy to digest, if not to understand.

Then there's the drug culture and all the heart-ache that it causes. I was fortunate to grow up at a time when there were no drugs. And had I indulged in under-aged drinking my parents would have whopped the bejesus out of me.

That's where the discipline came in. We grew up accountable for our actions -- both under the law, and to our parents. These days kids are fire-proof so they can do pretty much whatever they choose.

Another factor is the ground lost by the church. Children brought up with the superstition that God is watching and the Devil is going to napalm them if they're bad is tantamount to child abuse, but it was a very real threat back in the 1940s. It was another form of discipline that, these days, doesn't hold much water.

Kids are still kids -- some better than others -- and if we're to avoid their excesses, we need to be able to guide them toward a better understanding.

Sorry about the sermon.

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I appreciated your sermon, rev Dozy
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waldorff
Great sermon! I actually especially agree about the waning power of the church. Every silver lining has a cloud..
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@Linda: Thankee, miss.

@waldorff: Clever :)
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I'm a teenager and in don't feel like im disrespectful I just feel like just cause I'm young that doesn't give me the right to stand up to my parents or adults for what I believe.

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I agree and I am only rude to those who are rude to me as well
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