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advicegirl13: 9 months ago | Last edited at 11:36PM on 8/22/2012

What is something I can do for my friends?

I'm really good friends with these two girls, one is 19 and the other is only 13! they're father had just passed away yesterday due to cancer. I feel extremely bad considering they're mother doesn't even care about them, she left and hasn't seen them in over a year! I'm attending the funeral, and writing a speech to read it to everyone. my friends mean a lot to me, and I don't know what I could do for them both to make them less depressed. I understand they'll still be upset, but I wanna do something that will take their minds off of it. I'll pay money, I'll do anything! I just really wanna do something for them! any suggestions?

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Cjkenkel: 9 months ago

I lost my father, and my mother in law within a month of each other. And the one thing I found very annoying, that a lot of people did, was say I know how you feel. Please do not say this to your friends. No-one knows how another feels when they lose a parent.
My suggestion, is just let them both know, you care about them, and will be by their side no matter what. And that if they need anything to let you know, you will help them no matter what. This costs you no money, and it's one of the greatest gifts one friend can give to another.
Good luck to you, and your friends. You sound like a very sweet girl. Keep it up! <3

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Raffy206: 9 months ago

I am sorry to hear about your father and mother in law.

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Pachiefico: 9 months ago via iPhone

I know how you feel.

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Cjkenkel: 9 months ago

Thanks Raffy.

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advicegirl13: 9 months ago

Thanks :)

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Raffy206: 9 months ago

You are welcome Cjkenkel.. :)
Tell me how is your flue now !? I hope you are feeling more better...

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Cjkenkel: 9 months ago

I'm still ill but feeling much better than the previous days. Thanks for asking :)

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Raffy206: 9 months ago

No need, you are always welcome
Have a nice day or night (I don't know :D)

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Cjkenkel: 9 months ago

It's night here. :) Thanks, and you do the same. Day I presume?

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Raffy206: 9 months ago

Yes :)

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M4_Sherman: 9 months ago

d@mn, uh do fun things with them, it will take a long time for them to get over it, if ever.

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advicegirl13: 9 months ago

Thanks ;)

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M4_Sherman: 9 months ago

oh, wait!!!!! don't say anything about him, it will make them cry like i did before.

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advicegirl13: 9 months ago

Okay, thanks again! :)

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M4_Sherman: 9 months ago

your more than welcome :D

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Raffy206: 9 months ago | Last edited at 11:53PM on 8/22/2012

I am sorry to hear about your friend's father.
You already doing something, because caring about your friends and asking to do anything for them is something and something great.
I suggest you write good and sweet words about their father in your speech, be with them even after the funeral and if you can sleep at there house this day..do it, they need somebody to be with them and makes them feel comfortable not just physically but also mentally.
Offer any thing you can do to them and tell them cancer is a painful thing, now he is resting happy.

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Raffy206: 9 months ago

I am sorry to hear about your friend's father.
You already doing something, because caring about your friends and asking to do anything for them is something and something great.
I suggest you write good and sweet words about their father in your speech, be with them even after the funeral and if you can sleep at there house this day..do it, they need somebody to be with them and makes them feel comfortable not physically but mentally and emotionally.
Offer any thing you can do to them and tell them cancer is a painful thing, now he is resting happy.

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advicegirl13: 9 months ago

Thanks raffy!! :)

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Raffy206: 9 months ago

You are welcome Advicegirl13
And sorry for posting my answer again in the commenting, I did it wrongly but looks stupid !

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advicegirl13: 9 months ago

Haha it's okay, stuff happens :)

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lalala_me_away: 9 months ago via iPhone

Dont say 'im sorry for you' or 'sorry for your loss' or 'poor things'. It makes them feel worse. Smother them with hugs

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FredAsk: 9 months ago

life hurts us sometimes. All you should do is to be with them and give them courage.

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rebelution: 9 months ago

dont be apathetic...just be their for them.tell them youll be there.ive had several family die.that helps me the most

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advicegirl13: 9 months ago

Apathetic? Excuse me? -.-

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rebelution: 9 months ago

not interested or concerned; indifferent or unresponsive.sorry wrong word.anyway dont be all "im so sorry ,you must feel bad"

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advicegirl13: 9 months ago

I'm not like that...

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rebelution: 9 months ago

thats good then!

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