Do you text? Texting is a new way to spice up your relationship. Try sending him lovely text messages filled with hope, love and appreciation for him. Through text messaging share your emotions and show him your respect. Do not expect him to reciprocate, only text him enough so that he can have time to think about you. If you get upset if he doesn't text you back then he will not participate. If you don't text, try writing some nice love letters and leaving them in places he will find. Don't bring it up to him until he brings it up to you.
When You Want Drastic Changes, Be Ready To MAKE Drastic Moves; ie, Make-Over Yourself And your Bedroom One Weekend. Find Things To Brag To Others About Him. Eat Cho- colate Dip- ped Fruit In Front Of Him SEX- LY
Learn to speak his language, his love language. Gary Chapman wrote a book, The Five Love Languages, that really opened the eyes of my wife and I. We read it together. The five primary love languages (LL) are (no special order): - quality time - gift giving - acts of service - encouraging words - physical touch and closeness
I can't repeat the whole book. But if neither of you know what your or your spouse's dominant LL is, you might as well be literally speaking a foreign language. It was fun to learn this and practice it. Even our kids learned how to speak the other's LL and it dramatically improved their relationship.
That said; there could be other issues. So get him to agree to go to a 1-day or weekend marriage seminar. There are some great resources at your local Christian bookstore as well. P.S. If your husband never saw his dad as a good role model, this could explain a lot. God bless.