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anonymous142: 10 months ago

3mths ago I broke up with my ex. she called me today and told me she was 4mths pregnant. I'm only 19. My parents are going to kill me. help!

This is my 2nd year in college. I am not ready to be a dad. I want to do what's right. This news is going to devastate my parents.

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SkilletFan98: 10 months ago

Just sad. No one should have to think of their soon to be born child as a "mistake". If you do then they shouldn't be making children. Their is no excuse for you or your girlfriend to not be the best parents you can be and not give the baby your all the love you can. If not then you could try to find a good home for him/her. Then the new parents can do what you couldn't for you: Take responsibly, Give your child a happy and loved life, be the parent you can't be. You shouldn't be worried about your parents being disappointed in you. You should be disappointed in yourself.

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anonymous142: 10 months ago

I have no plans in being with my ex. I could barely get along with her. Our relationship is not what it used to be. As for my parents, they've only met her once and it was very brief. To tell them that she is pregnant would look bad on me, and I don't want them pressuring me to marry her because that's NOT going to happen. I'm just 19.

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SkilletFan98: 10 months ago

You don't have to be married to her, but as for the kid you can't brake up with him/her. If you think it looks bad then you should have worn protection. If you can't do that and you did't want to have a kid then you should have done anything to a girl at all. Your parents can not make you marry her. It doesn't matter if you are 19 or 90 it's still your responsibly.

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hawkmann: 10 months ago via iPhone

Should of wore a condom bro

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horselover96: 10 months ago

You made a mistake, so now you gotta face the consequences.

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sunshine2: 10 months ago via iPhone

Well kinda of to late for regrets now! That's why there's a thing called protection! Sorry but your going to be a daddy so get ready! Your parents well they are going to be grandparents your of age the rest is up to you!! Good luck!!

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racheeeel100: 10 months ago via Android

nothing you can do mate. stand up for your responsibities to your ex and your soon to be child. next time, think twice before you have unprotected sex. good luck.

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Lovelyderp: 10 months ago via Android

Should of thought about that before you broke up with her,tell your parents,get a job and support your son or daughter

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SmittyJA24: 10 months ago via iPhone | Last edited at 9:41AM on 8/27/2012

Paternity test, ...
That's all I got to say.
(betcha the kid is born "2-months early" as well....)

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hawkmann: 10 months ago via iPhone

Yes it happens some girls are known to do this

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sammy30: 10 months ago

well just do your best and dont take the easy way out thinking of abortion, i know it seems crazy right now even thinking of being a father but in the long run you'll be proud of being a dad.

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ellemacgregor: 10 months ago

When I was younger we used to have this saying..."dont be silly, wrap your willy"....you ought to have followed that, mate.... Tell your parents, talk to your ex, make a plan, be a good dad... Best of luck

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chargers17: 10 months ago via iPhone

R u sure ur the father

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anonymous142: 10 months ago

It's a huge possiblity. However she did cheat on me. But do I wait to until the kid is born to tell my family, or do I warn them now just in case? confused....

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chargers17: 10 months ago via iPhone

Hmmmmm I'd say warn them now they will most definitely flip but they will, at some point, understand. I'm obviously assuming u did it and didn't use protection, do they even know you're "active."

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dunaway2121: 10 months ago via iPhone

I would get proof she is prego before you go tell your parents, ex's do crazy stuff sometimes!

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carterscool: 10 months ago

First thing you might wanna do is get a paternity test, unless your sure its your kid. If it is step up to the plate, do the right thing and be honest with everyone about the situation. Most people are more forgiving and understanding then we think..

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1Dhugefan: 10 months ago

Well that why you don't do that when your so young

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JennFTW: 10 months ago via Android

You should of wrap up the sausage, dude.

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fritzmerde: 10 months ago

First, do you know for a fact that she's pregnant? If so, it may not be yours, you'll have to wait for a DNA test. Did she say that she was going to keep the baby? You need to sit down with your ex & find out exactly what is going on. If she is pregnant & it's yours, your parents will be the least of your worries. The choices are limited, you'll either stand up & be a man or a mouse. You're 19, an adult by law & yet you're worried about mom & dad, typical for folks today. Be a man & take care of your business.

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ravenevan: 10 months ago via iPhone

Assuming she keeps the child and it's yours she will likely file for child support and your wages will be garnished for the next 18-19 years or a debt will accumulate at a high interest rate when you're unable to pay.

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anonymous142: 10 months ago

We should probably consider abortion!

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ravenevan: 10 months ago via iPhone

There is no longer any "WE" in that consideration. Legally, it is her decision alone.

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CalTex: 10 months ago

@anonymous: I can relate to your predicament. My girlfriend got pregnant when she was 19 and I was 22. The saddest part is that we both had something we needed to talk with each other about after work. When we met, it was decided that I should go first, so told her I wanted to break up. Then she told me she was pregnant. In that instant everything in our lives changed. I said I would support her whatever she wanted to do. For her abortion was out of the question, so at that moment, I pledged my love to her and that child. We would be married and I would do the best I could to make a decent life for that child. The hugeness of that situation dwarfed any worries about parents. We had suddenly become fully adult and responsible for ourselves.

We got married and it lasted for two years, but our differences NEVER were allowed to impact our son even as we both sued for custody. The child is now 35 and just got married to a wonderful woman. His mother and I were there with our respective spouses to share with each other that we did the best we could for him and it paid off.

So like Raven said, the decision is hers to make. You and I had a decision to wear a condom, but that ship has sailed. Your life is now centered around supporting your girlfriend in any and every way possible if she makes the painful, life-altering decision to abort. If she decides to keep the child, your life will be centered around providing for that child every step of his or her way to adulthood.

Sometimes life gives us huge, life-altering ramifications that seem totally out of whack for a simple momentary lapse in reason. But that's just life.

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ravenevan: 10 months ago via iPhone

CalTex, thanks for smoothing the edges of what I had to say. You can be grateful that your situation turned out as well as it did.

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rubberduckie1121: 10 months ago | Last edited at 11:19AM on 8/27/2012

(With all respect and no hate), You two HAVE TO face the fact that your gonna be parents. Now either dont be so stupid next time and wear a condom. Just go tell her parents and your parents and talk about the kid. Good luck.

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artellamehim: 10 months ago via Android | Last edited at 3:04PM on 8/27/2012

Make sure it's your baby if yes keep it love it protect it and be happy.I had same story well it wasn't an accidents thou I wanted a baby but me and my boyfriend well husband had to go through that telling parents getting married finding place to live but we loved each other and were also Russians and Russians always work out Congrats to you babies is a Blessing from GoD and not everybody gets these blessings that are given

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Grandus: 10 months ago

i say screw college be a dad and go back when you can. make the best of it, you only have 1 chance to live

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glam9: 9 months ago

Yes, you're still young! Yes, you're parents might be disappointment BUT you made a beautiful person that will come to earth sooner than later! so be Responsible & be a good daddy to him/her:)! The baby does not have the fault of you two not using protection! I'm pretty sure you're parents will come to a conclusion and there's nothing they can do now! Good luck:)!

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