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I'm trying to fix my relationship with my girlfriend, what should I do?

I really messed things up the other day... and the result was her breaking up with me. she said that we need time apart to mature a little and become responible people then we have a chance of going back out. but no matter what I can't take the pain away, all of a sudden 2 1/2 years with someone I love so dearly is now just painful memories. today I actually risked my job as well with how emotionally hurt I was. I really want to win her back and show I care but all I see is me messing up instead of helping. I know she's the one I feel like I can't be as close and comfortable with anyone else in this world because of how much we've been through including a rape, and no matter how many girls there are in this world she's truly the 1 in a trillion I'd rather have for the rest of my life. I just want her to see how much I'm there for her again and fix our relationship, the intense pain, and me messing up all the time

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You need to straighten up and do a good job at work! Live your life to the best of you ability. She wants maturity! It's not completely over, she want you to do some growing. So, don't screw up and loose our job. Because, then you become real unattractive. Good luck to you! If you are doing well, she will want to be with you!


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Thank you, everyone including my pastor at church is saying give it time, I'm trying, time is probably the longest part of it especially since I'm out in the sun all day at my job doing 8 hours of just watching people swim, gets boring lol
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Awwwww... that's soooo sweeet ... mayb u should call her and tell her that... but then again what exactly did u do for her to break up with u?(if u don't mind me askin) because there might be a better Answer for u if u say it(jus sayen)

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I've been having pretty bad anxiety/ panic attacks which caused me to keep calling her if she doesn't answer when she goes out cause I have a wondering mind and I think bad things after a while if she doesn't answer, and also it's hard for me to do house work cause my parents babied me as a child, don't get me wrong I'll do it but I just have trouble so I don't know, ever since she broke up though I've been doing house work like crazy trying to get in the habbit of doing it
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well, i dont think those things r ahh good enough reason for a relationship to end. ummmm ..mayb its best for u that this happened . mayb u need to be with someone that would look beyond those stuff....i mean damnnn ..its not like yur f***ing someone else. atleast yur concerned about whats goen on and yur not out too..and u cant help it if u were raised a certain way.....i know its hard to deal with right now and what ever is suposed to happen will happen...just re-evaluate everything ..idk...but ummm ..God only serves u a plate of wht he knows u can handle...goodluckkk b strong
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Well because of the anxiety and panic causing me to keep calling her quite a few times she felt controlled and just wanted to have fun with her friends and I ruined that fun as I started getting out of control, and the house work stuff can be hard for me at times considering my childhood but that wasn't a reason to put it off till it gets bad, it needs to be done and I'm realizing that now
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I agree^^^ You have matured from breaking up and learning a lesson or 2. That's good!In person talk to her and tell her the things you did wrong and say the mature things you do now. Tell you you realized you were nothing without her and you can see the rest if your life without her and you love her:) I hope you do well and hope for the best!Hope this helped!!

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Thanks feeling a little better just have to give it time
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Good idea
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Communication is key- but give her a few days, and the space she wants. Focus on work, and priorities, and she may grow to miss you, and reach out. Take deep breaths, it's only hard right now cause it's so fresh. If it's meant to be, it will work out, but there is no reason to lose your head. Stay calm, rational, and breath. Best of Luck!!! ; )

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Ok I will, I have the weekend to get my bearings together, and since I was babied as a child I found house work hard but ever since I've been kicking myself into gear and doing more house work when I used to rest after work or play Xbox, I'll give it time, do what I need to do for me 1st and see if we will be able to talk after possibly a few months or something
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Just following up, looking back at old posts... did it ever work out with your girlfriend??? It's been 11 months- just curious! LOL
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I'm sorry I don't know if this was I type o but did u said ur first rape????

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No she was raped
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Hello boss, First off all you want to know more about yourself, what you are? how much positive you are? what all commitment you have? make confident about yourself whether you settled in your life ? and then analyses what all matters which she won't expect from you or she won't likes? then,

Ask her to have a cup of coffee with you , yaar discuss what all things she expecting from you, and what all things you expecting from her. in that definitely there will be some common factor which can lead to old memories . build up that . In every love failure there will be a reason of complex or ego. if you really loving her first of all you want to take away the superiority complex or ego.and take all the words of her in a positive attitude find out one right in every word. if its occur, i am damn sure that definitely you will win .

LOVE is a good feeling , but its a sweet poison too, it will effect to our heart and mind and gradually sink into a stage of real mad. Every human beings have this love feelings in their inner mind , some will express that and others will keep inside there mind itself.

Please don't treat this as an advise, please treat this as a suggestion , sometime it will work out

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Ok I'm going to give it some time and see where it goes
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You could tell her you are sorry is the any thing I can make it up to you.

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in my opinion just tell her what's on your mind..and tell her good reasons why you want her back not dum reasons:)

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sorry wont solve duh problem im a girl nd it happens 2 me nd my friends a lot! but u know wat u need 2 talk 2 her make her feel like the only one! i know u cn do this! tell her how u always mess up on wat ur doin! im counting on u:)

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That's reasonable, Im going to see her at church anyways today, after or before should be a good time right? And I know she cares a lot for me so I'll start things slow and ask about her hopefully that will be alright
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But I'm also giving her the time she needs an the time I need to do whatever I need to do as well
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