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Is it wrong to date your BestFriends Ex-Boyfriend?

My BestFriend started dating a guy I liked for years. I didn't go for him because of a rumor, that I found out wasn't true after they started dating. She knew I liked him, so when they break up can I date him? I would never want to hurt her. She IS my BestFriend. Lol I probably sound evil, but I don't have anyone else to ask. I don't want somebody to know and tell her I still like him. I want to be happy, but I want her to be happy more.

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She will hate you if you do. I once had a friend that was a girl and I wouldn't say she was a good friend. I didn't even know her that long. Maybe a couple months. Anyway, I started to really like this guy and I spent a lot of time with him. Then one day I find out it is her ex bf. I really like him and he liked me so we started dating. Well, this happened about 10 years ago and she still hates me with a passion for doing it. She won't even look in my direction. So if you care about your friendship, I suggest not doing it.

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Sisters before misters.

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YeS DuHHH

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It might be immorale but if i were the bf i'de be happy for you to do that ;)

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Wait! So she knew you liked him and she went for him? That doesn't seem right.

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ShaylaisAwsomeYES
Because it isn't! Lol that was why I thought it might be okay for me to date him.?
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You have to consider how they broke up, for example, if it was a bad break up for her and she still has bitter feelings it wouldn't turn out good. But you have to ask her after all she is your bestfriend so she should understand. And not freak out because you didnt freak out before. You also have to decide who is more important having a best friend or having a boy friend. Assuming he likes you back.
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ShaylaisAwsomeYES
That makes sense. Right now they've been dating a little less than a week and things are already falling apart. That's why I'm pretty sure they'll break up.
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Well you shouldnt go for him right away, thats for sure. You need to wait and see what happens, if they do break up, you need to wait awhile because shes gonna need to your help to get over it. And he might not be looking for a relationship after either.
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No some guys find other girls the next day when things like that happen.
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Ah true, i was just hoping he wasnt one of those guys. Lol.
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Most are. im not i need time ya know
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What I go by is give it 2-3 months, then go after him unless he asks you before then.

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Yes it's like back stabbing them

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YEH! never do that to a friend!

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TwilightGirl

YEESSS!!!! It will NNNOOOTTTTT end well....

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don't do it. not worth losing a friend.

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I would never do that to my bestie <3

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I don't think there's any harm I would just talk to your friend first and make sure that there won't be any serious problems. Don't start dating him before you speak to her though, I'm sure your best friend will want you to be happy :)

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I wouldn't because even if she says she's OK with it, she will feel awkward when you are together with him and her. Lots of guys to like. Keep looking. But if you insist, talk with her first. It would be instructive to find out what went wrong with them other that they were going anywhere with the relationship.

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I met this guy years ago and have dramatized it ever since and turned it into a Drama - Only if your making a series ..

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yes, thats gross. Sloppy seconds.

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Friends should not step those boundaries, at the if go through it you may not have a Bff anymore.

It's best that you see or date other guys, that ur Bff dont know. This will safe alot of hurtful feelings.

Think with your heart...

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She went out with him while you liked him first and she's probably over him

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It can be very awkward to date a good friend's ex. If you knew and liked him "first"and he knew you, why didn't he make a move on you? Seems to me if he had the chance and didn't act on it then, he wasn't ''into'' you. It would be better to just let it go. It is never a good idea to act on a rumor, you could have just asked him about it.

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Its very wrong you date your bestfriends ex boyfriend. I wouldn't do it. Not just because she dated him,but also because it can ruin yalls friendship and you don't want that just because of a boy. It isn't worth it.. So just move on and another person will come along :) & never believe rumors by the way!

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PuppyTongue

No, but it might be awkward.

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Isn't it awkward already since she hooked up w/ your guy. Did she respect u enough to talk to u before she started going out w/him?
Depending on how their relationship goes like for how long & how much time they spend together etc is also something to consider if&when the time comes. It may just turn out to be a competitive thing for your friend. Now that she's hooked him before you did she may not have a problem w/u when she's done w/ him. Don't think about it til then.

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If you're looking for a long-term relationship and you know he wasn't the reason that they broke up then it's better for you to go with him. If you're married to him 30 or 40 years from now she's not going to care what you did. But if you're just looking for a fling then of course not.

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Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!! It is wrong!!!!

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sagittarius1997

She wronged you by knowing you liked him and going out with him anyway. but two wrongs don't make a right. they make a freaking collision. then again, it is her ex. so you need to sit down and talk with her abt it. it will only be ok to do if she gives you permission.

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Either don't go with him and keep your best friend or go with him and lose your best friend forever it's your chose

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