I think if I really cared for them, to begin with, I would allow them a second chance, but you bet your booty I'd watch them like a hawk. Unfortunately from the few times I have given people second chances, it hasn't ended well.
It depended. Like if it was only once. But sometimes people make mistakes, especially at young ages. I think I'd have a nice long talk and even make them wait till I committed to them to prove they were love worthy of my trust and all my love
That is a really debatable question but honestly you should listen to your heart. If you really love the person and if that significant other is willing to prove to you with everything it takes that they have changed and will not do anything like that ever again to you then maybe it's worth another try....i know it's really hard
I speak from experience on the cheater side. My wife and I were going through rough times and I wound up having sex with another woman 3X. The first was my own doing and the other two time was out of fear because the other threatened to bring it to my wife. In my eyes I am lower than dirt, but I did own up to it and tell my wife because I could not continue to do what I was doing. My wife, though her heart was torn apart, stayed with me and forgave me. I text or call her on my way to work and on my way home from work. I don't go out with friends right now and once trust is built up enough I might go hang with only my closest friends. My point being, though I am a horrid person for doing what I did, my wife kept me as she loves me and I her. Now 6 months later she is faced with expected emotions of weather or not she loves me and wants to stay with me. I deserve what I get, but I pray to god that I don't loose my wife and dearest friend.
Never. I may not be Miss America or a Victoria's Secret Angel, but I KNOW I deserve BETTER. And better is exactly what I expect. If anyone ever even THOUGHT about being disrespectful to me, I would have my people take care of him. Because they'd be easier on him than me. I do NOT have time to waste on people who won't respect me, life's too short for that. I do NOT need a boy in my life to complete me, and no boy will EVER define me.
Absolutely, if I loved them, they were honest about it and it was extenuating circumstances leading to the situation. I know it can cause trust issues and has done for the times men have cheated on me, but there are different levels of cheating. A drunk disco pash is very different to sleeping with someone. Drunk anything is very different to engaging in an ongoing emotional relationship, with or without physical contact. I believe you need to asses each situation independently and make the decision based on what you feel in your heart and if you feel you can move forward together as a couple and leave it behind you.
The bible says to forgive your enemy up to "70 times 7" times (basically forever), and it says to "love your enemies", but it doesn't say you have to let them back in your life. I wouldn't go out of my way to do them any favors.
I am a Christian and also I am a realistic person. I would definitely forgive the person. However, I would want to know WHY the person cheated on me in absolute detail! If it was something that I was or was not doing that caused the person to cheat I would want to know why he/she didn't tell me. If I got an answer I was satisfied with, I would expect he/she go to marriage counseling with me to possibly work it out. PEOPLE DO CHANGE!
DukeEll, I don't think anyone should be calling you names, due to what you did. NO ONE IS "SIN" FREE. I feel bad that you are trying so hard, but in vain, to make things right. However, your wife is human, and you have to accept what she decides. Not everyone is like I am. Maybe you can suggest marriage counselling to her.
Everyone makes mistakes, but If they treat you bad and get mad at you all the time. Give up. Everyone that I date gets mad at me and then they leave me, and they are the ones who cheat on me, and I keep going back. Im a foolish princess.