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Is my mom's parenting normal?

I am a 15 year old girl. Since I started dating (and even before that), my mom is extremely paranoid about every guy I talk to. My mom was going to make me quit cheer leading because after practice, right before she would pick me up, she was afraid that I was going to talk to a boy. It doesnt matter what I do, she finds that I am too young to have a conversation with a boy my age. She wants me to have absolutely no relationship with any person of the male sex. Last night, I finally got my phone back and my best friend Christina started texting one of her friends (who is a boy) from my phone. Knowing I was not going to school the next day, I couldnt sleep, so I texted both him and Christina until around 1:30 am. My mom today took my phone saying that I had been using it too much and that I needed a break -.- So reluctantly I gave it to her, but she read my text messages. She found out that I was up texting him, and grounded me for the next month. She said it was because I shouldnt be texting boys that late, but she didnt get mad that I texted Christina.

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For 15, you've got excellent writing skills. Ok - my take is that this is all about trust - and quite possibly your mom's own history with males - did she get pregnant young? She may also be very aware how innocent girls are taken advantage of by street-wise guys who are all about seduction. This is where you need to build her trust that you know how to handle predatory males - and not allow yourself to be placed in dangerous situations. If you find boys that you like - just keep it light - and keep your mom in the loop - and don't lie to her - if you want to socialize with friends - and there are guys there - use your head - don't get pressured into se...xx or drinking or doing drugs because " everyone else is doing it" - don't fall for that peer-pressure bs - your best bet might be to have your friends over to watch a couple of movies and chat about stuff you're all interested in - but your mom is in the house - ask her to keep a low profile - and you have a fair compromise where you are safe and you get to socialize.

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Thank you! This helped my understand her a lot more. But no, she didn't get pregnant at a young age.
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she is afraid u gonna have sex

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She's just worried about you! And I think you might be exaggerating a little bit lol

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i figured people would say that, but my dad also agrees with me on this subject 100%. my mom used to be much more... abusive.
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I don't believe your mom won't let you talk to boys in general.
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yeah.. im guessing youve never met her right? you dont exactly know what shes like, and im not going to be open for you to understand how she really is, im just looking for advice based on the situation im in.
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nevermind that. fine, dont believe me. lets just say, for laughs, that this situation is 100% true. would it be normal for a parent to restrict her daughter from boys in general?
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Um... maybe she is very crazy.

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i am 14, and also a girl, and personally, i think it is way to far. i do have a bf, and i do have many guy friends, and i think it is crazy to not let you talk with guys just beacuse they are guys. its normal for moms to be concerned, and actually they should be, but not to this extent. my thougths anyway

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My mom is the same way, just listen to your mom, you'll thank her in the future.

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She is overprotective.

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Try to look at it from your mother's view, she just wants to protect you. In my opinion, she's taking it too far. You need to explain to her that you won't go off and get screwed. She's afraid that you'll do things that will take away your innocence. She's most likely scared after seeing all these teenagers nowadays messing around doing drugs, having sex, etc that you might end up like that. But you're most likely smart and won't go do crazy things. Just explain to her. Not aloud to talk to people of the opposite sex, that's really far. Too far. Shes just trying to protect you and is trying to keep you as her little girl for as long as possible. Just sit down and explain to her

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thank you! trust me, ive tried to talk to her about it, it works for a few days.. but then its back to normal :P
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That's normal for a mom to protected her baby against predators. You should be happy with your mom. You will do the same things when you growing old and have your own children.

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She is looking out for you, yes a little crazy, but looking out.. Maybe she doesn't want to be a grandmother young, even if your not sexually active. One day your understand when you have kids..

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She wants to protect you from harm and danger. You'll understand when you get older.

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You have to look at things from her perspective. I hear no mention of a dad, so I'm guessing he's not a real player in the family so your mother is a single mom, was she married when she got pregnant, if not, you just found out why your is so protective. If that's not the situation, she knows men. We're dogs, why deny it, especially when young. If it's available we're open for business.. She doesn't want to see you end up like so many others. Knocked up at 16, the man of your dreams gone, maybe you can swing school or a GED-but check the stats on that 1. Yep it's a pain, but anything for your good usually is

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haha, well i didnt mention my dad because theres not much he can do about it without causing a huge argument, so id want to avoid more family problems by making my dad talk to her. my parents arent divorced, and my mom gave birth to me at 27, my dad 34. my dad and i have the best relationship in the world
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She's semi crazy no offense

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Did your mom have you at a young age? That may be the reason, she's afraid you'll be the same way she was. Ask her to have faith in you. Tell her she taught you how to act as a young lady. She's too over protective and that can be bad. My mom was the same way. I turned 16, got my car and turned into a wild carefree girl.

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my mom gave birth to me at 27, my dad 34
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Oh okay. My mom was that old too. It's because she has strict morals. Sorry I had the same thing. My parents were married. But as you know, what momma says goes.
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If you did something wrong before your mom probably lost your trust so you have to earn the trust back by changing ur image.

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She has perspective you couldn't possibly have at your age. Listen to your mother.

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okay, well whats that perspective...? how am i supposed to understand if she doesnt bother to explain anything
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You're intelligent, figure it out.
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first you tell me I wont be able to understand... then you tell me im smart enough to figure it out. -.-
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i'm a 15 year old boy and to be honest the one thing i have on my mind is sex. your mother is being over protective by a little but she knows how we think. Don't hate on her but try to explain you wont be her little angel for ever. just don't hang out with the junkies and kids who you know will try to get with you for one thing.( your panties) i'm sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear but this is the truth.

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its alright, its probably a more helpful answer. thanks
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Awesome answer! Bravo
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Green for u boon
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As a mom we worry so much for our children. I don't believe my girls should be dating either. As I tell my 15 yr old, she has plenty of time to date! But school first because a boy won't get u a job, a house, credit, etc. Boys at that age is more into the growth in their pants. Some parents like me know that my daughter doesn't use her better judgement!

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Emilyviolinpuppy

shes worried about you. she loves you and doesnt want u to do anything u might regret

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woooooww! she looking out for you but she way to paranoid

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no

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