Then you might need to let him be responsible for it instead of having to nag him which he doesn't listen to anyway, he can show up without it being done and face whatever consequences he has at school. Then instead of nagging about homework you can enforce consequences for not doing it that he has to comply with. I would say" I will no longer beg you or nag you about homework, but I will punish you if it isn't done and you will be in further trouble if your grades fail and you will be grounded in your room if I have to have a conversation with the school about it not being done. you may not listen to me beg you to do it, but you will hear me and obey my rules about NOT doing it from now on."
I'd say you have two options. The first one is to be strict and punish him. Have him come straight home from school and do his homework and then study for at least 30 min. If he won't obey you, take away his things, like his phone, his music, or his computer and tv and hanging out with friends privileges until he gets his work done. If you don't want to discipline him, then you could decide to just let him mess his life up and learn from it later when he's older.
You have 'talked' to him ? That will never do it. Stop trying to be his 'friend' ... and be his parent. Although you have enabled him into his teen years already .. it may be a little tougher. YOU created this monster by not setting boundaries.
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Take him to the local Home Depot parking lot and have him count how many unskilled workers are hoping for a day's work for little pay. Does he have any chores? Pulling weeds and washing windows is always an eye opener.
Do not just "ground him" from electronics, TV, etc. You need to physically take them away and box them up. You also need to tell him a specific date and time they will return (like after lunch in 3 weeks).
And in place of the banned materials, have a written check list of jobs and chores needed done and when they are to be completed. If the check list is not completed in the time required, another week or two will be added to the storage time of the box.
My 17 year old daughter is really such a good kid. Being that she is the youngest of 5, I've learned that at the first sign of anything wonkie, I take a preemptive strike and physically take away her smart phone. That does it for her. FYI. She earned the money to both buy the phone and pay for the service.
Explain to him how it really works. School is your job, if you do well, you can move up to a better job, like college, and from there to an even better job. If you don't do well the only job you move to is Walmart or McDonald's, so does he want to be rich and have fun when he grows up, or does he want to work a crap job, for a crap wage? It's really only up to him.