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First of all, why would you have sex of you know how babies are made? Wait let me correct that, why would you have UNPROTECTED SEX if you know how babies are made? And if I see this"I'm on the pill nonsense" then I'll say was he wearing a condom?

A kid isn't a damn towel you can just throw away!!!! Is a life !! A SOUL! it's HALF OF YOU!

With this being said. PLEASE find an adoption center that will find a nice GROWN UP COUPLE that would care for the kid.
As for you, please attend church. And get in touch with God and your soul before you have sex again.

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I wont even try to answer this question,you said it all. Fantastic answer.
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SOunds like postpartum depression to me. A real medical condition.
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Are you saying I have it? Or she does?
And thank you whotookmydog.
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10 thumbs up to you, beach.babe, for setting people straight!

Yes, post partum depression is very real, but way too many women won't give their kids up for adoption, when that's really the best choice. And of course, either double protection, or no sex is the best.
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Thank you coolmom (:

I truly mean no disrespect to anyone. Bu it is very frustrating to see kids and young adults make dumb decisions. I think being pregnant and having a kid is such a blessing. I'm 20 married and childless and no my husband wasn't my first and I was smart enough to be careful and not get pregnant. Even tho I'd love a little one I wanna enjoy my husband for a couple years before PLANNING a child and having both of our families be more than and only happy for us. (:
Kids are such blessings it hurts me that immature humans are so careless.
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ummm..? i know?? my mom doesn't want me anymore and i can't move out as a legal adult YET so that's why i asked from HER point of view....i know where babies came from i'm not THAT stupid...
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and where do i find an adoption center in canada??
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You can safely abandon your child at afire station no questions asked. But this sounds like it's possibly postpartum depression. Talk to your family before you do that.

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I get red thumbs for what? What could you possibly give a red thumb to with this answer?
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Well your leaving a child
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I'm not. I'm telling someone who seems determined to how to do it safely. Had I said something horrible like: put it in a dumpster, I'd deserve the thumbs down. Telling someone to take it to a fire station is telling them to do the right thing if they are determined to abandon the child.
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I agree with rain. If she is having thoughts of abandoning her child, she is at least telling her a safe way to do so, so they don't find another kid in a dumpster!
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Actually, the problem is that it's hospitals, not fire stations, that will take care of the child. Plus, the child has to be pretty much a very young baby that you want to put up for adoption.
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In my state it's both hospitals and fire stations and both are presented as such on the news every time someone abandons a baby in a dumpster or some other horrible place. Even if the law isn't the same nation wide, I'd think a fire station would be a heck of a lot safer than most other places.
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ummmm......i'm not a baby i'm 13 it's that my mom doesn't want me anymore so yeah...
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Talk to your family if your seriously thinking of giving up your child. Maybe a close relative can care for the child in the meen time your feelings might change.

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So the kid is supposed to way until she grows up and matures?

You make grown up actions you sure as hell gotta make sure you are grown up enough to take on the consequences.
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Leaving the child in the hands of someone who clearly does not want them anymore could end up a tragedy remember little Kaley Anthony?
Letting a relative that will love and care for the child is a far better and loving thing to do.

It's not the childs fault, so they should not be punished by staying with a parent that do not want them in the first place.
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I'm with you there k. You just wrote it as if a relative is suppose to care for the chile with this person matures and is ready, as if putting the child on hold.

She should go to an adoption center to find a good couple to care for the kid.
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Yes an adoption agency or family would be a good choice. We don't know the situation the parent is faced with, but counseling is a good idea too
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Hopefully this is just curiosity. But if you do feel that way fire station is the way to go. Talk to family or minister or social worker or someone first. Adoption is an option if you just can't take care of it. Maybe a family member would be willing.

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Good advice CD!!
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Talk it out first. If you really want to give the child up Adoption is the best

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You should definitely turn to your family for help if you can. Maybe they can help with the child while you get some much needed help. Not wanting your child anymore are very big words. I don't think you mean them. I think you need family, and professional help. Just a good time out to regroup. Good luck.

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Oh hon, every mom has felt that way at some point. If you're overwhelmed, get some help. Please talk to your OB or GYN asap! They offer confidential help that will lift your confusion. They also can put you in touch with good people who can help you whatever your decision may be. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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I agree with most of the above. Also heard that you can bring the little one to a hospital as well. Just make sure you do what is best for the child.

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I of course agree with everyone else. Just please don't think of just yourself at a time like this. You sound as if you need someone to talk to. Please don't make any rash decisions that you may regret later.

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How would you feel if your flesh, and blood was being raised by someone else? 10 years from now knowing it's your grade schooler, 13 years from now knowing it's you teenager, 16 years from now knowing it's you little driver. 18 years from now knowing it's your little graduate. Get my point? It's yours, it looks like you. It's made from you. Times may be hard now, but hang in there. If you give up now you may never get the chance again. All the above to what everyone else says. But just remember. This child is a gift from our creator, he who will never give up on us.

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If that other person who takes responsible care for this kid I would feel so much better that my kid is being taken goo care of and is given what I couldn't. A parent isn't the one who creates but the one who loves and raises.
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Find a good family to adopt the child... My heart sunk to see your question. How would it make you feel if the one person in the world that should love you didn't want you? It is damaging. It happened to my friend as a child. She still feels bad about being dropped at an orphanage.

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ummm.....yeah i agree (How would it make you feel if the one person in the world that should love you didn't want you?) my mom doesn't want me so i asked that from her point of view....
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Honeybee, the funny thing that they neglect to tell you in maternity books is that you will feel some resentment. I've had 4 friends have babies in the last year, and all but one has told me at one point that they wish they had never had their baby. They have all come back crying, saying that they have no idea why they would ever say that, they have such perfection. Perfect, crying, puking, pooping, milking, perfection. So if you're having troubles, you should.And I think that you should remember that raising a child is mostly up to you (if you're a single parent), but your community is responsible for taking care of both of you. Ask someone for help. So if you're having troubles, you should. But I've had 2 friends give to adoption, too. Their hearts broke, but they knew that they did the right thing. So I want you to know that is that's what you decide, then that's okay, just make sure it's what's right for you and your baby. Also the lady that's in the top answers is a bitch.

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Thank you for your answer. And I agree with your last statement. She needs to fall off of her high horse. Not everyone has the same coping skills and stress and life events can bring on mental illness and some single moms actually become suicidal because of the stress.
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Seriously, I'd take em. I can't imagine not wanting a child. I had 6 (grown now). They are a wonderful blessing in my life...All of them! I was a foster parent for a few years but the system is too corrupt. Whatever you do, don't give them to the state! If I could help anyone I would. wjan32@yahoo.com

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