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okay I'm 18 soon to be 19 in about 4 months. my parents are divorced and my moms always had joint custody with my dad having visitation. well my dad got this car for me that was wrecked, an '01 Saturn, and fixed it up basically for me. salvaged title mind you. took all the money out of my savings (2500 bucks) when I was 16. well since then he tells everyone he 'gave me the car' and such. I pay the taxes on it when they come due. pay my own gas. pay the tag and inspection. well the problem is when I was 16 he held the car over my head because he didn't like the girl I was dating a girl he didn't approve of. the car's in his name so I felt I had to end it with the girl. fast forward to now, 140 bucks in insurance is due on the car. and he's expecting me to pay it all. well I told him I'd like the car to be in my name and he basically said yeah right. I don't want to pay that much money for a car that's going to be held over my head. I'm about to be 19, starting college next semester, and I can't have a car being held over my head. plus 140 bucks is a lot to pay for someone that doesn't have a full time job. I don't want to pay that if the car could be taken at any moment, but I feel the car should be mine. please help. what do I do? I mean I basically paid for the car and most everything else...

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As a parent of 3 kids that were once 19 it is time for you to be straight with your father DO THIS CALMLY, WITHOUT ANGER, EVEN IF HE RESPONDS IN ANGER suggest that you ask for a time to meet with him, in a public place, at MikyD’s or something casual Buy his lunch, that will shock him Tell him that you appreciate all the help on the car (even though he didn’t) it is time for you to take full responsibility & car needs to be in your name You may risk his anger - be calm & tell him again thank you & I love you & walk away, do not argue Your adult behavior will set him back on his heels One thing you might consider is that if the car is in your parent’s name & your insurance is purchased under their name with you as a student living in their home INSURANCE IS CHEAPER Check rates before you make the final move If you love this car - sounds like you don’t - then make him an offer to either take over all responsibilities once the car is in your name, otherwise, walk away Even if you will struggle without transportation It is important you learn to take care of situations by yourself You may never gain his approval - but you will have your own self-respect - good luck.

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It should be , but since it isn't in your name don't pay for it , let collectors come at him , if he keeps telling you say you'll pay if he changes title , stay strong and don't back down on your word

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The car should be yours. If he he would hold it for you its kind of your but not legally. You should try to make a deal with him- Like tell him to put the car in your name but then ask him to help with the $140 And when your well enough on your feet slowly pay him back.

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That's the thing though, he is expecting me to pay it. He won't put it in my name because the car is like his hold on me on how he can control me.
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Well then I would forget him and the car. Have your mother help you
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My mom is working two jobs just to get by . . I wouldn't ask her to buy me a thing if I could help it.
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Well your in a pickle. Save up, don't by useless things that you don't need. Show your father that his trick wont work, Earn a car for yourself.
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Sounds like it's his car to me. Sorry you're going through this, but I went through the same thing. Got the car at 16, went to college but during that time, no freshmen could drive so they wanted me to pay the insurance...yeah right. Sophomore year I got it, pay the insurance...nope, so I drove it until they paid it for having strait A's. He is holding over your head, why don't know. Mend you relationship and ask him.

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It's not about whose car it is, it's about what I'm supposed to do... I don't have the money to just go buy another car or I would've done that when I was 16..?
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But it's about control, sorry to say. Parents do that all of the time, why who knows, but it's not right. Are you a good kid?
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Never been drunk, never smoked, never partied . . .
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Me either...sorry, but some people love control...period. It's your car, but he really has the keys. I hope it gets better for you or you'll end up hating him in the end.
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Who paid for and did the repairs? Who paid into your savings you had at16?
Do you think your father doesn't want the best for you?
Step back, listen to your parents and be the best you can in your studies!
If you don't like it, use a bike!

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I paid for the parts for repairs an helped do them! Who paid into savings? Many people other than him. Either way that was MY money do check your tune buddy.
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So*
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I clicked like - but disagree - I don’t think the father wants the best - I think he is a control freak & unreasonable. I had a father like him - tried most of my life to gain his approval - wasted too much time on a man that was selfish & really didn’t give a hoot about me anyway - this dad is all too familiar to me
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Thank you to the above answer for understanding. My dad is only worried about money and material things. Tries to control everyone and tell them how to live their lives. That's why my mom left. The guy thinks he's better than everyone else and does no wrong. His girlfriend even says he thinks he's God.
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If it's in his name, it's his and there's not much you can do about it! He can take it & keep it!
It might not be right but it's legal!

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hmm...that is a bad situation. i am the kind of person who asks nothing from no one. if there is something i want/need i get it myself. why? for the very reason you are facing now (and i've been this way since ur age). any parent who plays games like that needs a reality check. if i were you..i'd tell my dad to take his car and shove it. sorry..i dont mean any disrespect...but i'll be damned...cut your losses with the car. its really not worth the stress & hassle of wondering when/if that car will be taken back on a whim...because he doesn't like something you're doing...thats wrong on so many diff levels...jst my opinion.

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But my problem is I basically had my money stolen from me. He took the money for the car, as payment for it. I dont have the money to just go out and buy another car and if I take out too many loans, a car, school, one day a house I'm going to be swallowed up in debt before I know what's going on
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i know someone whose was away in the military and left his car back at home. his father sold the car & kept the money so when he came back he had nothing. your fathers actions are a very clear defining moment in your life (this act is something you will not forget). he is crossing a line that no parent should cross. its time to grow up. get resourceful. when there is a will, there is a way. find alternate transportation. if you just sit back and THINK of real options that are available to yourself in your life...you will figure out a way to make it work for yourself. have a little faith in yourself!
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I understand where you are coming from, however what are you going to do for transportation if you don't pay the insurance? If $140 for insurance is tough to pay, buying another car would be even harder. Are you going away to college? If so than I don't know what the problem would be because he won't be there to approve or disapprove. If you are going to be living at home and he is going to be around then I see your problem. Most people don't share much of their social life in college with their parents. Just keep your grades up and share as little info as possible. Good luck.

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No it's much deeper than that. I'm going to community college and basically he thinks I'm his worker and slave. If I don't come work for him or come around to his house, it wouldn't surprise me for him to take it. Basically if I don't play the game and be his little clone then I'm out of luck!
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Well you have another option tho not a great one and it is worse the further north you live. Give him the car back and use the $140 to buy a bicycle. Or if you have bus service use it and try to save up for another car. It isn't fair, but it is what it is. You can get a job somewhere else. In most states at 18 your are legal to do what you want. Take him out of the equation and don't let him control you.
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