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My girlfriend thinks i cheated but i did not ?

What can you say if your girlfriend thinks you cheated on her but you truly did not ? The situation i was in is really weird to explain.
That problem begun when i and a couple of friends went to a bar downtown, fyrst time for a long while.
Later that night my very old ex ex girlfriend ( 10 years ago ) saw me and said hallo.
The complicated part was that we havent spoke for all these years and later that night i met her outside smoking.
Than began the talking about some sad drama thinks long time ago. I was a bit to drunk, but she was not so. we talked and talked for some time and than hugged a couple of times ( no kiss etc. ) And thats about it.
The problem is, a friend of my girlfriend saw us together outside the bar and told her the next day.
I was thinking of telling her, but didnt now how to start or what to say.
i truly was not cheating in any way, the hug was just ment to be friendly. ( my side at least )
My girlfriend does not belive me and thinks that more happend that night.
We have 8 month a baby together.
What can i say, the relationship is really shaky right now, i dont want to mess things more upp by beeing angry couse of this distrust issue

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The best thing is to be completely honest. Sit her down and tell her exacually what happened that night. It might not be that she dosnt trust you. She might have gotten cheated on in the past or what not. I know one night my bf didn't come home and I accused him of cheating. Even though I knew he didn't. I wanted to see if he fessed up anyways lol girls are brutal sometimes. Just be honest with her.

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hi im not so experienced in the dating business but from what your telling me it seems like you really love her. I suggest retrasing anything that your ex could have done to show she was interested, already seeing someone or just wants things to be ok and not awkward between the two. ask your friends if you need to. since you said u were drunk u might not remember details but thats ok. next talk to your girl friend even though she might threaten or doubt you about that night and other ocassion she might be afraid of losing u and having to raise ur baby alone finally fix urself u might want to lay off the booze, hang with ur friends moderately spend some romantic nights with ur girlfriend and BE A FATHER!!! explain the situation with both girls and things will work out fine. if not just call the maury show or jerry springer. lol.
hope this helps....peace

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Well either you hurt her in your past or she is feeling guilty about something and is trying to blame her problems on you.

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She either trust u or she doesn't. She either knows u won't hurt her or she unsure. Is her friend more important to her than what u mean to her. She needs to know that u want and care for her too much for u to hurt her. Wether u go out to the club or the store she needs to know that she and your baby come first. She needs to get rid of that friend feeding her bs and step her game up so she know from the hard work she put in that u don't need to go anywhere else.

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hi, you need to try and sit her down, calmly let her know how much you love her and that you would never do anything to lose her. a relationship with no trust is no good. you have given her a motive to not trust you, so you need to show a solution. you can tell her that from now on you will not put yourself in that situation because you saw the way it upset her, and if you really love her try spending more time with her and not at bars...take care of what you have.... a womans mind will go in all kinds of directions especially if her friend told her you looked like you were having a great time with your EX....think about this: What if your friend saw her at some bar with her EX, Would you be upset??

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You need to own up, you made a bad choice, you set ur self up and now you need to 'mend the fences' sorry if that seems hard but you want to not do that again right?
Be sincere, own up it wasnt appropriate, say something about how you should of thought about the consequence of how it would look, but you blew it. You didn't do it for any other reason other than forgiving the old drama that happened. Ask for her to accept your apology. You love her and your baby.

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Girls will believe anything their friends tell them.
(Most of the time.)
Why don't you just get your ex to call her up and tell her?
Hope that's helpful.

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you should have a friend like i do she gets me out of everything like tonight

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