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MrNibbles: 8 months ago

I want to drink so bad cause im sad, but its so hard to control. i do not know what to do

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Lelu: 8 months ago | Last edited at 11:49PM on 9/10/2012

Busy hands are happy hands, learn to build something (birdhouses, etc) or something you like to do.
Alcohol IS a depressant, it's a temporary fix, you'll feel good for a little while, but it will compound the problem, tell yourself "I'm not going to drink today" and tell yourself that everyday, until you get to the point it doesn't even occur to you to reach for it.
I'm sober for over 10 years now, and it's not even an option for me when things get bad. I use my energy for something, anything, constructive. You'll feel better once the alcohol is out of your system, you'll get stronger everyday and be a better person for it.
Try doing something for someone else, it will make you feel better seeing how happy you've made them.

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Terradoxy: 8 months ago

Congratulations

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caluvox: 8 months ago

Some people have a hole in their life, some fill it with alcohol, others with religion, etc. Just realize the hole is there and find a hobby or something that won't damage you or anyone else.

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Terradoxy: 8 months ago

Hi cal !!!!!

Shot from the hip and hits the mark.

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caluvox: 8 months ago

Hiya Terra =)

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Cjkenkel: 8 months ago

How long have you been sober? Think about that. Hold onto that. Don't let the time you've been clean, all be for nothing. Find something to do, to get your mind off drinking. Find a friend to talk to. A family member? Someone.

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dashing_native: 8 months ago

yeah I'm having problems too. with school ruining my life now. me being sick and my family thinks I'm faking it. been burning inside my body. yeah. idk what to do either. might as well become a disappointment my family claims they see me as. more hard being a native to. anyway lets fight it. may lose some battles but has a lot of hope to win the war.

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Terradoxy: 8 months ago

I have never "lived up to" my family expectations either.
Quit trying. I know that sounds harsh.
Live up to YOU.
I didn't and every day I pay the price for that.
And read my answer below.
:-))

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sadiesmomma: 8 months ago via iPhone

I had the same problem. You should go get blood work done and have a few test ran. I was always sick. I ended up being diagnosed with the worst case of mono my doctor ever seen. My liver and spleen was very badly infected as well.
But my mom always held high expectations for me. She also told me I'd never graduate I worked full time while going to school. Well I did graduate! But then something new always would arise. She always wanted more and more from me. Don't let anyone tell you you're not good enough and believe it. Set your own goals. You are the only one who can make yourself happy. I hope you listen to me, you don't deserve to feel your not worthy of nothing.

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lilgummibear: 8 months ago | Last edited at 11:41PM on 9/10/2012

First of all before I answer your question I have to tell you this,Mr.Nibbles is the most adorable username I have ever heard.Second of all maybe you should try releasing your sadness by doing something else.Maybe you could try taking counseling talk to a friend,or a family member.No matter what happens I will pray for you and I hope you feel better sweetie :)

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Bubblious: 8 months ago via iPhone

Nice

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knifemkr: 8 months ago via Android

drinking only makes it worse, than tomorrow you wake up sad. . .and sick. I don't know you, so I can't suggest any specifics, but something to take your mind off it. ( whatever "it" is) hang in there, it will get better.

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techisbrad: 8 months ago

Let's drink til we can't feel feelings anymore ; )

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Terradoxy: 8 months ago

Sounds like you really really need to read the other answers here.
I hope your perspective on life changes before YOU can't find YOUR way out.
I mean it....I will hope for you.

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bahboh: 8 months ago

Please call a friend, go to a meeting (AA) immediately. Tell them all about it. They know exactly what you are going through... so do I. Now its been 15 years since I had a drink but I remember being sad because booze was my best friend, and I missed her. My best friend wrecked my family and nearly killed me.

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Terradoxy: 8 months ago

Wow !
I admire you for that

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MitchWinstanley: 8 months ago

i fight the same battle every day.. let your desire for self improvement and making good changes give you strength.. its hard to not drink for some of us.. i feel your pain.. stay strong my brother.. keep it up..

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Terradoxy: 8 months ago

Kuddos for speaking up

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bobbybridge: 8 months ago via Android

I know all about that and for me I know I can't drink , I'll be right back in that same old squirrel cage, begging to get sober again and unable to . I ask myself is that first drink gonna be worth all the pain it's gonna give me trying to quit again !

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Terradoxy: 8 months ago

Good of you to step up.
Do they have marker for that?
I'd give you one if I had one to give.
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A_J_Momma: 8 months ago via iPhone

If you're already sad drinking only causes you to be sadder!! So just breathe and think about something that has helped you get over the feeling in the past.

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paul1951: 8 months ago via iPhone

As previous answers have pointed out, alcohol only makes you more depressed.
"I tried drinking in order to drown my sorrows, but they learned how to swim." An old joke, but true.

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Terradoxy: 8 months ago

Yes they do !!!!

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Terradoxy: 8 months ago

I love ALL the above answers but I would kinda combine them
Doing something/anything to distract yourself is great but....
Self doubt and low self esteem are usually what get us started looking for the "escape" from the world as we know it.
People are usually the CAUSE of why we think that BUT....
People are also our way out.
Find what you do well and like.....find others who like that too....and COMBINE.
Just remember...YOUR goal for being there among them is SOBRIETY even if some of those others drink.

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Terradoxy: 8 months ago

Thank you for the thumbs
But I must that MrNibbles himself
That's a real compliment sir and...
I must agree with lilgummibear.....what a cool name !
:-))

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Terradoxy: 8 months ago

I must *thank* MrNibbles ....

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smurtih: 8 months ago

When I am sad. I get something to drink, apart from alcohol, have a fair amount of it. Get gum and chew it for long and then I write my problem on a piece of paper and burn or rip it.

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koichan: 8 months ago

My observation is that this kind of a challenge does not have to be met alone, AA is very effective because you work with people who have been through what you are going through. It is a tough road, and you have to walk it, but you do not have to walk it alone. Call someone that can help you.

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xXBaByDoLLXx: 8 months ago via iPhone

Go for a long jog and listen to your favorite music, that's what I do it really is a stress reliever

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