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What should I do about my boyfriend? He's my first love, lost my virginity to him, and have dated for 4 months.

he has no job, no phone, doesn't go to school, and wants me to pay for everything. I guess it's just so hard for me because I'm so I'm love with him I want to do everything to make him happy but it makes me miserable feeling like I have to take care of him. I know he loves me a lot and I love him too, but is it worth it?

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He's a loser. Ditch him.

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pinky1125
dude thats brutal
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How can you say that about someone who you never met
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Did you not read the description of him? How can I say that about the people who live off welfare? I don't know them, but they use my tax dollars to buy brand new cars that even I can't afford. That's how I can say something about someone I've never met.
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^ Yes
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Maybe the people saying you're mean or brutal is a "boy loser" or supports one cause they "love them". I wish we could green more than once. Shucks!
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Nope . Matter of fact its the other way around he should b taking care of u!

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BeastBarn

no......a real man would take care of you and provide for you......move on

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green to you
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Green. Very true
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green!!!!!
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Green beans gator!
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BeastBarn
thanks :)
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I don't have enough thumbs to green you with. I would need about 100 but it will only let me click the button once.
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are you his girl friend or his mother?!

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EpicZombieKiller

I feel bad for you, because you gave your virginity to a loser, and why would you want to act like his mom and take care of him

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Of course you KNOW he loves you.. He shows it every day by.. Ummm.. By.. Ummm.. I'm sorry, help me out here.. He shows it by.. Making you feel guilty, making you pay for everything, all while sitting in his lazy backside.. Oh, and don't forget.. You gave it up for this loser.. Yep.. Sounds like true love.. I wonder what advice you'd give your best friend if this story were hers.. Hmmmm..

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I think it's true love FS, who are you to judge?? lol
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Don't forget he plays the Xbox too probably! All day
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I play xbox. Is that bad?
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Lol no cj. But some "boys" like this description is bad. I know a 33 year old who still lives with his parents. He don't do Sh!t but play Xbox and sleep all day. Real
Winner. Hasn't worked in over 3 years
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Oh okay, shoo. I play xbox a lot. But I work 2 jobs, so I guess it's okay then. LOL
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Darn you people. I'm trying to run the same thing with my girl. One look at this and I'm screwed. Carp.
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newbuddah13, lol. Just don't invite her to ask and you'll be safe! Shh we won't tell *cough*
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Lol.. Cracking me up.. How's CJ and gator and Stacy?
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<< doing great! Need to get ready for work thou :( You?
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Done with my day.. Yay.. Hey buddah.. Shhh we won't tell her, right everyone?
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:). Yep, nothing wrong with a person who works. This guy I know actually broke mommy and daddy's plasma tv cause he threw his controller at the tv when he lost. Smh. Boys
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After 4 months, I'd hardly call it a "true love" scenario, but to answer your question... leave. You'll realize later it was the right decision, regardless of how difficult it is now.

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He's using you as his mommy! Ditch the loser! A real man supports himself and the woman he loves. No way would I support him nor stay. He will never change. It's sad but true

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green
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It is sad :(
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goose lips
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Abso effn lutely!!
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you would probably be helping him more by breaking up with him and making him learn how to stand on his own two feet.. who knows.. but you should not have to take care of him.. he needs to get his sh!t together

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Yep..
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Good bye

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leave. there is nothing this guy offers you except heartache and loss of time and money

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You are suppose to be a girlfriend, not a mother. Tell him he has 3 choices, go to school, get a job, or hit the road. And you would prefer both of the first 2.

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it is great when sometimes you gotta take care of your bf. i like it when mine gets gentle and does not act manly 24/7. but he is still the head person i guess you can say. i am the one who rely more on him then he does on me. and i think we can have a great future together. and he is a good person, in the relationship, sometimes i feel like im more of a guy and he is a girl though, because like, i am way more badass then him, like by a lot. he is like those kids that does good in school, and gets As, and does not do anything bad. i am a little more on the wild side when compared. but yeah, maybe have a talk with him, and probably leave him. he should be taking care of you, or atleast 50/50. this is like 90/10, if that. if he truly loved you, he would have acted different.

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you sound like ur high*
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says the person with the fvked up bf
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XD..=p
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Hahaha... NO get serous

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Sure he loves you!!! You make it possible for him to continue to be the blood sucking slug he is. If you want to continue to be an enabler that's up to you, just lay down and be his door mat.

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And she did lay down, unfortunately..
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If he actually loved you he'd get off his lazy @$$ and learn to be self-sufficient whether he's going to school or working
He's a loser

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How old are you??? Regardless of your age, you don't need an unwanted, unexpected "child" to raise. Tell him when he grows up, if you haven't moved on, to give you a call... (If that's what you want) From now, learn that you'll only be treated how you allow yourself to be treated!

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Do u change his diapers too ?

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Mr_FadedGlory

You gotta know when to hold em, and know when to fold em. Kenny says to fold em

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Why would you give up one of most precious gifts to a husband to some shmoosing looser? Why are you so easy?

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I know you love him but he should be trying to take care of you, honestly I've broken up with people I really liked just cause I know I can't provide them with the lifestyle they're used to and it made me incredibly uncomfortable whenever they would pay for any outings or things.

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Look into the relation you have with your father, it is usually an act of rebellion to fall for the "bad" guy.
BTW, it is not gonna work out, it's based on the wrong premises.

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what ever feels right to u

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i totally agree with u
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but if it was me i would dump
him and find someone else.
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i don't think it's a good idea, only because, eventually you won't have any money left. He needs to be there for you! you might as well end it now before fate doesn't have to end it for you. It will be less drastic.

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tell him..if he wants u he will have 2 stand on his own feet or else...just 4rget u!

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Tell him he has to start taking care of himself or your gone. And mean it!

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hes not a keeper. find someone who takes care of YOU. thats the right guy

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This might just be infatuation : /

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