Being pushy or seeming like you're trying is one surefire way to remain single. Just be yourself, and get out more. But don't go to bars if the bar scene isn't your thing... that's asking for disaster. Take a class at a community college in whatever you are interested in... creative writing, photography, etc.. Do things that you like, and put yourself in the world where you will be around people with like interests. At the very least, you will enjoy yourself and meet new people; and who knows... you might just make a love connection.