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I caught my boyfriend sex texting with a male friend he plays online games with. He said it was just joking around. Can I believe him?

The messages were graphic and made me sick to my stomach. He said guys do that sometimes and it doesn't mean anything. I just can't stop worrying about it.

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He's^^^ right.. People.. Guys or girls do not do that to be funny.. There is something there.. You need to focus on the issue and not the gender.. Your guy sent sexually explicit texts (sexting) to another person that was NOT you.. You have a relationship problem.. HE has an identity issue.. Get out and be with someone who wouldn't do that to you regardless of gender..

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Where the hell have you been FS!? Haven't seen you post a comment in a while. Good to read your voice.
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This is the best answer and advise!!!!
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So true. I know a man who was married over 30 years and finally came out as being gay not bi. I always knew he was gay. But why can't people be honest with themselves first? The innocent ends up getting hurt when they try covering up their secret
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Hiiiii SB!! Been busy with my therapy clients.. Apparently they NEED me, or something.. Sheesh! And thanks BB! Very nice of you!
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I think I need some therapy! Been at work for almost 6 weeks and have another two and a half to go. Time is going slow and I'm ready for a drink second. You can guess what I need first. Hope your doing well.
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Whew.. SB! Then the countdown's on for you, (and I doubt we are talking about a drink, first ;0).. Hang in there!!
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Hi Stacy!! Yeah.. Sad when that happens!
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NO!! sexting with guys as graphically as you described, is NOT 'joking around'!! EVER!!! Keep worrying, cuz u got a gay one!!

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im not saying hes a bad person for being gay cuz i am in no way against the gays/bis/lezzies
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I'm a male gamer, and I've never done that. I think he was exploring the "other side". Sorry :/

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He's g^y

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Yeppers.. Silly boys and their online games ;0)
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Well I certainly am happy for once my husband is a TV guy...
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Um... Well sometimes it's fun to... But... Not... While your online gaming...

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Gurl hes gay male dont joke around on this .

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Hhah ya sounds like you need to talk to your boyfriend Haha

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My hubby has never done that and wouldn't. I agree with Domenioski 100%

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Agreed!
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There's my favorite lady :)
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Um sorry honey but I thing he hopped the fence, unless he's caught in the middle.

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Either he's gay (and using you to prevent people from finding out), or is bisexual. Either way, he's in denial. Sexting another guy is not something straight guys do.

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Yeahhhh imma guy.... Preeetttyyy sure that's not normal, sorry

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Those sick feelings u have in your stomach are your instincts giving you the answer. His words are meaningless, actions show the truth. Sorry:(. Move on quickly. Good luck.

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He's definitely gay or bi.....straight guys DON'T do that to each other!

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Listen to your intuition. Even If he was telling you the truth and I do mean IF there's still something wrong with that. It's NOT normal for a straight guy to do that. He could be confused or just plain weird. Don't waste your time with him

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I would look through his phone to make sure

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I never ever do that with a guy nor do any guys I know

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Gay.

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Yeah
He's gay -
Gay
Gay
Gay - all day

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For ever and ever
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man is always a man, what your BF doing when you caught him is not an activity of a real man and it is not a joke as he said.

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Brokeback mountain boys

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I bet the other guy could be a girl.

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Ohhhhhhh.....I never thought of that!!!!! Very smart!!!!!!!
Green for thinking outside the box (or is it in the box? Lol)
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Lol!!! Well, if the other person mentioned having a "package" downstairs, it was either a guy or a she-male.
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Theres something more to this sorry

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Sorry but he went back to the closet :(

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Guys don't normally do that with other guys. They pop off colorful remarks to each other and move on. They don't explore it in graphic detail within a conversation for an extended period of time. Unless...... there's more to it. Keep looking into this.

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lol he's obviously rooting for the other team (; your welcome.

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What?! Yeah, guys do that all the time. I have a friend who is 100% straight and he sends another friend of mine sext messages (jockingly around) once in a while. The other guy answers something stupid and we all laugh about it. However, he does this when his wife is around, and the wife is okay about it becasue she knows he is just playing around. I know guys that are in the closet, and I will say, if you can....check his phone. if he does it alot and there is not jocking around, just pure sexting he is probably gay. If he is gay, just think that he was born that way, and that he might not have known that he was gay. Is not your fault if he is. So DON'T EVER think it is.

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leave these silly messages enjoy this life each and every second with your loved ones make your mind free.......

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I strongly believe that he likes men(or just that guy), now that you know there's no need to worry anymore. It is what it is!

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im a gamer and i would never do that, but honestly you should have a real conversation about before you jump to conclusions and lose him, but if he doesnt have a GOOD reason then he probablly gay and just move on

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You just need to talk more about this with him and then trust what your gut tells you. There's a difference between people making jokes and people sexting each other. If what you read made you sick to your stomach and you had to "catch" him at it, then he probably shouldn't be texting like that with anyone except you - and he knows it.

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he might be gay.

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He could just very well be bisexual. -.- People are not confined to one gender. To judge so hastily is so ridiculously ignorant. So what if he is texting a male friend? Get over it and accept that you cannot provide him with both male and female genitalia or end the relationship.

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He's gay! and he cheated on you.. leave him!!

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donest even matter if it was a guy or girl samething.. cheating! leave him!!
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If I were you, I choose to trust him.

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maybe he is curious. dont shut him down maybe thats not how he wanted u to find out. but maybe u should be supportive and explor with him look into trying new things

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Well if you have the proof to him "SEXTING" a guy than give him his space because obviously he want to explore the sexualities. I have not once seen another male friend text a male friend very graphic SEX messages. So give him space to explore himself.

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thats just wrong

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DONT TRUST HIM!!! just dump him and move on, thats what i would do

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Well,your boyfriend has a problem source,NO guy should do that...

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Well if i was you i wouldn't at all! I would say no!

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I would worry about it. Times have changed but he should be too much into you and into his life to mess around "innocently" sex texting another male. Believe what you see and know and not a lame excuse.

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No not at all the same thing happened to me and to find out the weren't playing!!!

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give him another chance and don't dump him yet get the facts first

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dump him

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Weird!

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its better to trust your boy friend what he said not this people ....

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I'm Gay and I would don't that.

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