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What do you think about a woman in her forties being emotionally involved with a guy that is nineteen or twenty?

Recently someone asked about a guy that is in his forties being with a nineteen year old girl.I wondered what the response would be if the ages were switched.

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fritzmerde

They're both adults & are free to do as they wish. How long does the average marriage or relationship last today? Maybe 3 to 5 years if you're lucky, so why make age a limiting factor. Odds are great that it won't last anyway. When I got married all of my male friends were thrilled, but their wives & female friends put me a step above Satan. 1 of my best friends was giving odds for the time that our marriage would last. At the reception they kept saying that they can't wait to dance at my next wedding. My odds making buddy, a marine, is working on wife #5, the green card girls I call them. So you never know, I'm still married, we have a great marriage, wonder boys, both have professional careers, & we actually like to hang out with each other - so go for it on either side of the coin

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Well, I have to admit that I am curious why they thought you were a step above Satan!
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khang0190

if its love then its good

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Well, thats Illegal so, a pedophile.

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Not than I'm a fan of the practice, but It's not illegal at all, illegal would be if the girl is younger than 18.
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Oh, I thought it was under 18 OR too many years apart by age.
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so what would you do if you were nineteen and im in my forties and i asked you out

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I'd say, "What's your sign?" Lol Seriously, if I were nineteen, I'd keep an open mind. I'm not, though, so we'll never know! :-)
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my sign is cancer whats yours little one
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bye have a nice day
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Libra and you have a nice day as well!
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Cougar. It's not accepted as easily as the older man/younger women scenario. 20 years is big gap.

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This is perfectly acceptable. In fact, it should be applauded.

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Cute answer!
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I tried to vote on your answer, but it won't let me!
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It's quite a large age difference, but he's over 18 so at least it's legal. Personally, I don't have a problem with people having these types of relationships; whether it is the woman, or the man, who is the much younger one, but...

I just can't help wondering how much someone in their forties can have in common with someone who got out of high school a couple years ago..?
My b/f is 7 yrs. younger than I am, and that's kind of a big age gap, so I really can't imagine myself dating someone who is 1/2 my age, or younger... :)

If you're happy together, that's all that really matters.

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My thoughts exactly-How much could they have in common besides the obvious!
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Yeah... I know -- haha! :)
I think about my b/f being born the yr. I was in 2nd grade, he was only 10 when I got my license, etc., etc., & it bugs me a little, but we have a ton in common. We were "BFFs" for about 7-8 yrs. before we became a couple (4-5 yrs. ago), and 7 yrs. is not a HUGE age difference... he helps keep me young-ish! :)
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Great attitude! I hope you continue to have a great relationship and thanks for commenting.
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Well, society will look at it as "weird". But honestly if they really love each other, who cares? As time goes on larger age gaps are frown upon, but why? People used to do that a long time ago and I don't see why it has to keep getting more and more unacceptable, now they're saying that 5 years is pushing it. Love. If it's love, it doesn't matter to me personally.

But don't get me wrong, anybody under 20 probably shouldn't be pursuing somebody 45 years old.

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This is a recent syndrome called "DemiMoorism" and is usually short-lived, depending on the financial or business networking resources of one of the partners - typically the older.

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Enjoy the ride!!!!!!

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Cute!
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I feel like I should say this is just a curious question, not my real life!
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It is legal, but awkward...

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I've been around a few women in their 40's that I was attracted to and I'm a 19 year old male, so I wouldn't think much of it

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