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my grandfather may be dying and i dont know if ill be able to cry if he does its not because i dont like him its because i havent had much chace to get to know him and im afraid my father will hate me due to my lack of emotion.What can i do?

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I'm so sorry to hear about that. I agree that if you haven't had much time to get to know the guy, faking emotions is the wrong way to go about it. Comfort your father. My grandfather with whom I didn't have a great relationship with died this morning and I'll just stick to comforting my mother, father, and grandmother.

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BuckElk
I got on chacha last night and there is some gnarly , sarcastic answers ! Good laughs !
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lucky. lightspeeds the name blockin sites causin pain.
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:D hahaha
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Hey how about we start a question were you just post the funniest q&a's you've ever heard on ask or any other site.
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They'll just cut them ! My Dad tried it before and to many people flagged them or the Mods took them off ! Look at one the questions I asked on my profile and you'll see ! They cut everything here !
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Yeah I know it sucks.
Strike ! :D loljk
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hurry up and get to know him!

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I think when it comes to the time when you see him in the coffin and everyone else's emotions are going around you will end up crying. Your dad shouldn't hate you for lack of emotion it's sort of his fault you diddnt get to know him.

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If you act like you're crying and you're not then your dad will be offended so don't try to force any kind of emotion or act like something you're really not feeling. Just attend his funeral if he does die and try comforting your father, that's the best I can come up with.

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that's why you are going to cry for that reason but try to now I've been through that and that's the most hurting feeling

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That happen to be before but it was my grandma,i dint even know her.First time i seen her. Everone was crying but me then next thing i know i was crying so might end up crying

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Everyone deals with death in their own way. There's no right or wrong way. I can't imagine your dad hating you. If anything, it should bring you closer together. I said a prayer for you & your family.

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Everyone grieves differently. If you cry, you cry. If you don't, you don't. To be honest your father will be so involved in his own grief he probably won't even notice if you cry or not. After you grandfather passes you dad may tell you stories about him. Listen. You may not know your grandfather well now, but I bet afterwards you will and you are going to be sad you missed out on getting to know him better.

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don't worry about crying when the time comes, everyone reacts differently. now, before it's too late go talk with your grandfather. learn as much as you can/ he is a great resource for information about your past. get hiim to tell you family stories, have him identify any pictures that don't have names on them, record him interacting with family, get generational pictures, really listen to him. you'll learn alot about him, your family and yourself. he is a valuable resource that won't be around forever. show hiim all the love and attention you can. you'll be glad you did, and your dad will appreciate it too.

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I have lost a grandmother, my older brother, my brother-in-law, and my favorite aunt. I never cried. I was VERY sad, but I just didn't feel like crying. I cried privately later...
People deal with emotions differently. Your dad should understand that.
(I wouldn't laugh or anything though. That would be considered rude.)

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Then instead of worrying about crying for your grandfather, take a look at someone you know really well, your dad, that's his father, he loves him and grew up with him. That man you don't know very well gave you the father you love very much. Look at your dad and feel him hurting. Imagine losing your dad, imagine him being there dying and imagine how he feels looking at his dad doing the same. Empathy is needed here as well as sympathy. When that awful time comes, go to your dad and be thankful you have him to hug, feel his pain that he no longer has a dad to hug. Losing your father (or your mother) is the most devastating thing that to have to face, (next to losing a child or spouse) later in your life. You don't have to cry for your grandfather, but be sure to hug your dad and tell him that you understand that losing his father has to be very very hard because you can't imagine losing yours.

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