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John_8715

My idea of a good wife is someone who will enjoy sitting down while I do the dishes after making her dinner, someone who will laugh at my jokes, a lady always, who carries herself with pride, and is proud that I am her man, she will take the time to learn 500 Rummy, and laugh at me when I fall to the floor in mock tears when she beats me.

She will know that love making starts while we are slow dancing in the living room and talking sexy, and liking the fact that I like the intimacy to go on for a few hours, she will like to lie in bed afterwards tangled up in each others arms and legs while we talk and laugh until we fall asleep.

She will know how to lift my feelings when I am sad, to support me in my endeavours, she will be my friend, confidant, my lover, my wife, and the mother of our children, she will always be true, as I would be with her, she will be a safe haven who's arms are always there to hold me, her lips to kiss me, and her body to surrender.

She is at this time lost to me, for I have not found her yet, I have come close, but it was not meant to be, but I have hope, and a place in my heart for her should that day ever arrive, and I will love her, support her, and always make her feel like the woman that I know she is...

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Will you marry me? I'll let you wash dishes anytime you like {^_*}
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Pure poetry with just a touch of the quest for the holy grail.
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Dozy, I couldn't agree more. I'm not given to these thoughts (cuz I simply do not allow my mind to dwell on what I do not have), but John's answer had me tingly all over.
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haha, thanks TL

Dozy, the grail remains just outside my grasp, I had all that with my ex, but it didn't mix well with her booze...
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He laughs! I like that...guess you'll just have to be the man of my dreams. <^_^>
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You know just what dawned on me?!? Unmarried men are so much more romantic than husbands! Makes me inclined to never get married again (even if I DID find the right guy)!

And we ladies could tell right off that you're "looking". No husband would list very first thing: wife will sit on sofa while I do dishes after cooking dinner. ;-) And here I'll insert: Why, yes, John, I will marry you!

You and Dozy... the only 2 men on earth I know that will cook and clean up afterward.

And I agree with Dozy on the holy grail, however, looks like he's found it! Why shouldn't you? (and, btw, after a post like that, they'll be pouring in!)
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All women are in my dreams...
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Well then if all women are in your dreams, and I dream of a guy like you described...then I'll be seeing you after I'm tucked in and off to sleep...I can almost hear the music
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Raleigh, that is my end game, I lived this life with my ex, everyday, I couldn't type as fast as I thought, it was easy, I don't start off slow and tapper off, I start slow and ramp up, and then stay there...
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Ok TL, but I spoon to the right...
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Wow, that's tragic, John. Really. You must've felt like there could be SOME way to save it. How is she now? Do you 2 keep in touch? Any way to reconcile? Too many questions?
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She choose booze over me, I talked to her last about 4 months ago, she was my Jr. High shool sweetheart, my 1st love.
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Remember the question what star do you resemble, I talked about her in one of the threads, I said she looked like a cross between Natilie Wood & Ann Margret, she was the prettiest girl all the way through high school, she was 13, and I was 14 when we met.

I still miss her deeply.
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Man, I thought my story was tragic. You trumped me. (What a way to win, huh?)

Hang in there, John, you're a fanastic man.

As I just posted on the mirror question (definition of great husband) the problem is, it's hard to find that certain something. It's not a listable trait. Once you have found true love and lost it... well, I've found it's hard to find that "IT" again.
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Oh man, I asked my husband his answer. I'll put it below. He will be mad when he reads your beautiful take on it and I'm guessing he will say," Um, yeah that's what I meant to say." LOL.
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Wow John, you had me at doing the
dishes! ;)
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You should be married by tomorrow! You sound like the dream husband, I didn't know men like you existed in real life!
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Michelle, you have a warm place in my heart, and Belly, if he says that, tell him you know he did, and Raleigh, would you and kivetttome like to get a cup of coffee with me? ;~)
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Threesome, huh? And I thought hang gliding was walking on the wild side! ;-) Who knew the 40's could be so crazy?
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Kiv, do you really hate doing dishes? I know this sounds weird, and it's probably due to the extensive amount of time spent living in a truck, but I kinda like it. I guess that will wear off eventually :0
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Raleigh, they deleted my post, it wasn't bad, or naughty, it's just ask, there are children here though, so the adults need to check our game...
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Will you marry me, Truckerlady? Lol!! I hate doing dishes! I'll marry John too if he keeps that romantic talk going!
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With all these proposals we will need to move to Utah, and I'm glad you put a period between me and TL, kive, thought you were switching teams, and we need all the players that we can get !!!
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And kivetttome, I've got my nose to the grindstone, shoulder to the wheel, ear to the ground, but I only have eyes for you...
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Kivettome, I'll do your dishes whenever I deliver to Florida!
And John, does this mean I can't dream about you now? {^_^}
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No way TL, I dream about you too, in fact all of you...
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He'll marry both of us, TL! It will be the new version of Sister Wives. We just need to add two more wives to make it official!
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I'll be one of the other wives! :-)
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Ok! I'll do the dishes! Y'all can fight over who has to ride with me!
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We can all take turns, perfect plan :-)
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I can't respond, but if it there was one to I choose, well,....thanks Michelle for your comment... ;~)
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You're welcome...
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I'm melting....
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Hey I live around the corner from the Sister Wives family on tv! No kidding, I see them all the time. He's a real... Um.. Nevermind. Creepy doesn't come close enough.
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Too funny, bellydancr! They're all smitten with that creep, aren't they?! You're in Utah or Vegas? They all moved to Vegas I believe... Hey Michele and TL, we just need one more gal! Hmmm...... You better start practicing your poetry, John! ;)
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I'm sure he'll come up with something good today, the 4th wife will be found...
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I've seen bits of sister wives, and Belly you're right, that guy does seem a little creepy, in the end, fun is fun, but I could never do that, I believe in one woman for one man, one at a time...
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I'm in Vegas, the women seem nice but let's just say his attempt at flirtation was gross. There is a reason he doesn't have a Spanish spitfire bellydancing wife...his household would be turned upside down!
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I feel sorry for the wives, it's like they don't think they deserve their own husband. It's also gross that he's in a different bed every night, yuck!!!
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I agree Michelle, seems they lack self esteem, and to much mixing of DNA, like you said, yuck!!!

Well I'm off to the beach, bye all ;~)
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Ditto John, couldn't have said it better!
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Thanks focus...
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So beautiful John...may she come into your life...
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Thanks so much V... :~)
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That's it!!! Virginia is our fourth wife!! I knew we'd find a good one! ;)
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Shes trustworthy, comforting, always there for you.

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Good one, momo.
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Thanx dozy!
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That depends on the era of history and which circles of society you're talking about, as it's different for different social circles, not to mention religions (of which there are many). In Victorian times, the definition that momo004 gave was the working definition until the settlement of the West in the U.S. where pioneer women did more than just support a man. Often it was the men who died leaving widows and so a good wife also helped with ranch work too.

Women's Suffrage, Abolitionist and Temperance movements changed that in the U.S. as did the sexual revolution of the 1960's. The definition of a good wife has evolved to today as simply being a good partner in life, a fellow teammate.

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A lady on the street and a freak in the bed

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Now I've got that song in my head,LOL.
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Read Proverbs 31. Who can find a virtuous woman, her price is far above rubies.

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The perfect wife is one who endures countless repetitions of her husband's stories without looking bored, and still laughs in the right places.

All other qualities are a bonus.

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There you go bragging about Daizy again... ;~)
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Afraid so. I don't know how she puts up with it.
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I do...
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This question is very telling of the husbands. Really interesting.

John, I'd like to hear your answer. You game?
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You inspired me Raleigh, see below...
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Well, first let me say I've been with my hubby for 17 years and we are best friends. Always.secondly I'll say that my husband often tells me his old dating stories about the shy, timid women he met that never challenged him. Thirdly let me say that my hubby is a huge Star Trek fan. That being said, I think one of the coolest compliments he ever gave me was a quote from Star Trek. In his best Klingon voice he said," I am proud to say Imzadi( life partner), you are a most formidable opponent". It fits, what can I say?

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From what I know about you Belly, you are all that, purple bangs and all !!!
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I think that's pretty cool!
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Seems there is a perfect match for everyone right? LOL. What a fun question this turned out to be.
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Cool!!!
Perfect match, where o' where?
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One that lives by her vows plus!

My husband and I have been married almost 31 years. I fulfill his ALL of my wifely duties, with pleasure!, and he fulfills ALL of his manly duties plus!

We talk calmly, quietly and communicate as our own daily rule. No exceptions, holding back, mind playing or guessing games. We tell each other how we feel about everything. We play games together, walk, laugh, and lots of other things.

No matter what, we alway's say, "goodnight, I love you"!!!!!!!!

Never ever, go to bed mad!--alway's compromise!--communicate!---Don't say word's, communicate!!!!!!!!!!---Do not just hear word's, listen and understand them!--- Alway's say what you mean and never anything you will be sorry for later!--- always think, before you speak or act!

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Nice! Very Nice!
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Beautiful.
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Wow... :~)
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NICE!

You wouldn't have a twin sister, would you?
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Thanks John.
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focus21, Sorry, I do have a sister, she's not a twin but, she is taken.
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truckerlady. Thank you.
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bellydncr. Thank you!
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focus21. Thank you.
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Without trying, she makes me want to be a better man!

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That's awesome! I take that as though you're implying you wouldn't rely on her to jump through hurdles in order for you to "be a better man". Maybe I didn't word that quite right. Anyways, I like your answer... Imagine 2 people together that just brought out the best in each other.....(sigh)
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True that!
Two joined by their commitment of love, and knowing that "in over the head" love is for me as mine for her, makes me want to be her all at my best.
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Nice!
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