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How to stop twins from fighting.

So I have two kids twins,thier always fighting.Its a boy and girl so what should I do

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I'm a twin and I went threw the fighting with her and being her best friend. It changed a lot. But when they get older it gets better. What I can tell you that caused it and she agrees is this
Do you or family members classify them as "the twins"
We were never just Stacy& Tracy. It was always the twins or double trouble.
They're trying to stick out as an individual. I'm serious when I say this, it is hard being a twin. A twin never truly knows what it's like just to be one. It's hard to explain. But sit them down and ask if they feel this way. I knew two other sets of twins and they felt the same way. I think it's common with twins.

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Society is always going to be that way, either grouping them as one or constantly comparing them to each other: "which one is the good one?" "which one is the out going one" etc. its up to parents to take the initiative to boost them up as individuals. But let's be honest, young twins can be overwhelming. Its easy to get stuck in a routine, and we as parents can really make a muck out of things XD
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All true.
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let them duke it out. it relieves stress that they have pent up, and they will get over it once one of them gets hurt. simple life lesson that i learned with my twin brother growing up. we were always at each others' throats, up until i was able to knock him to the ground and sit on him. he stopped trying to fight with me after that, and instead we started to get along. whenever one of us was angry at the other, we had a sparring match in the back yard. no winners, no losers. just stress relief and a good workout. we became best friends over time...and then last month, he was killed..he got hit by a drunk driver and died in the hospital a few days later...but he had no regrets. we loved each other to the end, and we were the best of friends. his final words were "i love you sis, just know that i died a happy man, because i had the privilege of being your brother."

so basically, siblings will get along better over the years if you let them duke it out and solve problems on their own.

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Sorry for your lost :(
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Sorry for your loss. I couldn't imagine losing my twin sister:(
You're right on the fighting though and then being best friends.
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i miss him a lot...but he's still with me in spirit :3
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Same like my cousin!

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Take one away.

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I have twins as well and they are AWFUL! Btw, thanks to the other twins' input on this because those ARE things that mothers of multiples think about. Recently another mother suggested that I give them a "break" from each other. Once a day set up two activities that can be done without supervision in two separate rooms. Set the timer for 20 minutes and then have them switch activities. For example: water color painting inside and bubbles outside. I have done it on days when they were obviously just sick of each other and the rest of the day went MUCH better. Even twins need some alone time to just "be".

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So true. I just seen your answer. One twin always relies on the other on most cases. My twin relied on me. We had two sets of twins other than is in our same class. They all said the same thing. It's strange, but she had issues being split up from me for some reason. We had some knock down drag out fights but always had each others backs:). I promise it'll get better. We still get annoyed with each other at times but like I said I love her dearly.
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Show them Ouran and tell me what happens I'm quite curious!

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Im a twin . were called Brooke (me) and chace! we always fight and were 14 yrs old now a year ago we stopped fighting cuz i beat him up! so now we just fight in words but when were not fighting we have an amazing relationship..

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Put a mirror in between them to confuse them

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Baa! My twins didn't know that the girl in the mirror wasn't sissy until they were 2 1/2!!! That's the funniest thing I've heard all morning!
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You can go to http://www.ehow.com/how_2106479_reduce-sibling-rivalry-between-twins.html
or to http://www.ehow.com/how_2072878_stop-twins-fighting.html?ref=Track2&utm_source=ask and read about ways to make your kids stop fighting. Good luck

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