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Am I to Young to Get Married?

Lately, my sister Sam has been saying I am to young to get married. Do you think I'm to young to get married right now?

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You're definitely not too YOUNG to get married. You're over 18 and legally entitled to make that decision for yourself. Whether you're fully PREPARED to get married is another matter. A lot of people who marry at your age have tough times that end in divorce and strife. I personally know of one guy who married at 19, had 5 daughters by the time he was 30, and was a happily devoted husband and family man. It depends on your own level of maturity and that of your fiance rather than the number of birthdays you've had. If you go into it realizing there will be challenges and hardships to face together, and if you're both fully committed to making it work then you might both be ready. A successful marriage doesn't just happen, it takes work and compromise. If you realize that ahead of time you're more prepared than most.

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Very true... I am 20 and I got married 20 days before my 19th birthday. We are happily married. The divorce rates are high regardless of the age of the people getting married. If you have found someone that loves and RESPECTS and adores you as a beautiful and intelligent woman.... you both are ready to get married.
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I would say age is only a factor in that young people are more likely than older people to make rash decisions. That said, you're right. Being older and (hopefully) more mature is no guarantee against ending in divorce.
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I agree! If you are mature to take on the strife and positives that come with marriage..then sure be married. However, I believe life is soo wonderful, it's soo beautiful to be committed so early. Experience what life has to offer before wanting to settle down. Because trust me..you never want to marry and then have at the back of your mind..those what if questions. Those are total DESTROYERS!
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I was also going to add..get to know him some more. Know what you are getting yourself into first!
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Depends on how old you are..

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then you are, but a guy, ought to be 21 for marriage, so wait till your man becomes of age
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well how old are you?

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ohhh thats definalty fine (:
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How old are you?

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19
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ok so how old are you and how old is you're boyfriend?

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I'm 19 & He is 19
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We need your age hun. Or we can't answer XD

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How old are you?

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19
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No my mom got married at 18

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My grandma had my mom when she was 18
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It doesn't matter if you're 19, what matters is if you're mature enough to handle such a huge responsibility that will change your life. if you have a good job and are financially stable enough to support a family, then go for it

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No! You're 19 right? You can get married whenever you want. As long as you know for sure that he's the one.

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At nineteen? No, not if you found the right guy.

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my moms brother got maried at 17

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I would be more worried why your sister is named Sam.... Much more.

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Samantha...wow
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Sam = Samantha. It's a nickname
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I'm trying to talk to you. Refer to your previous answers. (Metal music).... Don't leave me hanging..
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Ok .................. in case You didn't get my other response, i am going to post a question that you will know is directed to You.
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well if there's grass on the field play ball

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Yea you should my mom got married when she was 19:)

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Do u love him? Is he the right guy? Well I guess u can get married but don't have kids yet you a little young for that...

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19??? Too young.

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tooo young

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Legally your not to young but logically there is no reason to get married at 19. With the divorce rates being 50% for your age range I would really think about waiting a while...

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I met my husband when I was barely 20 years old. We were together 6 years before we got married. We've been married for 8 years now and going strong. I'm so glad we didn't get married that young. Because we had so much time to get to know one another this way. And to make sure we were really ready to take on all that marriage (usually) entails. Like living together, sharing bills and housework and caring for children together. We were able to do a lot of growing up together. By the time we got married and then started having kids, we KNEW for sure that we could make it as a couple. You have to do what is right for YOU. But my advice is to stay together with him, but wait to get married.

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i think thats the right thing to do. I don't want to marry someone I met a year ago. I want out relationship to grow.
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Raising a child at any age is a long hard road but at the same time is rewarding. Marriage is hard at times but f you both remember to work at it and remember everyday why you chose to get married in the first place then it should work out. I wish both of you luck in your marriage and health and happiness to your expected family.

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Well how old are you. You never said your age. And it depend how old are ya.

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Um idk then. A
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If you have to ask, you are too young.

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How old are you lets start with that yeah!

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Well yeah but I can't play mom/dad with you so do as you like.
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No one can answer that but you. I was 19 when I got married. I am married to my soul mate!!! Evaluate your relationship and the maturity level of yourself and your partner. Age is not a factor. Your feelings are.

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Back in the day my grandma was 13 and papaw was 20. That's too young now of course, but I think if you're 19 and ready, go for it. Btw when my grandma passed in her 60s, they were still married, had 15 kids and were the best example anyone could have. My papaw passed in his 80s. Miss them so much! Sorry for rambling.

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Yes u are.... Just be sure he's the right person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

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if its with me no

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ikr im corny ha ha lol :)
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Age is not the biggest issue. Personally, I think there's no rush in getting married. And marriage is only necessary if you want to have kids (or buy property together). Otherwise, how does NOT being married affect your relationship?

Being married does not automatically lead to fidelity. Marriage does not solve most problems in a relationship (like distrust and poor communication). It does create legal commitments that works both ways. So marriage can be both a liability and an asset (depending on your situation).

Marriage is a brand new experience (bringing both joy and challenges). It can get complicated because you will be taking on more legal obligations (financially and family-wise). So if you are still not sure about whether to get married now, why not take a pre-marital class? Such classes will give you more information on what marriage is about.

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No if you are in love go for it but bee true to yourself and him

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Nope my cousin got married at 17

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My best friend got married at 19 right before graduation and i support her 110%!! try it!

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If you are younger than 21 and have never lived outside of your hometown Yes I think you are to young. Young in an experienced the world kinda young.

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lol i moved out and away from my parents when i was 17
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if you are legally fit, you are the better judge.

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how old are you

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Your not too young to get married but the best advise i can give you as a divorced at 24 is just be ready to deal with different age issues if you can go to a bar and he can't or vise versa. Little things that come up and the changes that come along with the age growth seem to be a bump on the road.

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i hope i get married, would be amazing to see my own wife and kids
do what you want, the point is that as long as your happy, that is what counts

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yes. wait as long as you can.the real you will get "lost" in him. people cease recognizing you as an individual. u'll never be able to retrieve yourself.

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no your not to youn well at least i think ur not how old are you
is what u need to know

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I got married at 18 to an older man whom i'd been with since i was 15. Go for it, it's your choice :)

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Love doesnt have a age requirement.long as you are over 17.you're fine.follow your heart

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if you really love him then no

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your not to young as long as your over 18 and u really love him...not just marry him because you want that diamond on your finger!!(: but your not and if u love him and he loves you then go for it girly!!! :))

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Well my dad always told me "If you're searching for answers to life's great mysteries and difficult decisions from strangers on the internet, then you're too young to make any major life choice and not regret it later." That advice has helped me through a lot of potentially disastrous moments.

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Another helpful rule of thumb:
Learn the difference between too, to, and two; and there, their, and they're before you procreate. For example.

The TWO young lovers think that THEIR love is true, but they will sit THERE in divorce court six months from now realizing that THEY'RE way TOO young and immature TO fully comprehend the commitment they made.
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How old are you?

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your sister Sam may be jealous get married live your life

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dont get married. u dont need a paper to say how much u love someone. plus if things happen to not work out you gonna spend hundreds maybe thousands of dollars goin through a divorce.

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How old are you? I got married right after I turned 18

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Yeah you are!!!

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Yeah i guess?
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are you from Tennessee cause your the only ten i see.
god your hot wanna go out

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if she dont get married i call dibs
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whoaaaa lol
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Do you respect and like the prospective spouse, as a friend?
Are you ready to sacrifice what you want for the benefit of the union?
Are you willing to stay calm and kindly when you are not at fault?
Are you willing to suppress your desires to those of your spouse?
If you are basically a selfless person, then you may be mature enough to work at a relationship.
All men are incompatible with all women, that is the nature of the two different genders. It takes a lot of effort and giving up your own wants to keep a marriage flourishing.
If you are basically a selfish person, then wait until you have matured enough to treat well those who do not deserve to be treated well, because all of us do not deserve good treatment at all times, and we want to be treated well when we have a bad day too, so we need to treat our spouse well on their bad days. Hopefully, they will not be many.

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i think its too soon. im 19 too and my bf has asked to marry many times but we both feel that we should wait till after college. we want to live together for a few years and see how we get long. we been dating for almost 4 years. we already know were gonna get married, one day, just wanna make sure were gonna stay together. and i think peopple change every 7 years ;) so just wait till your 25 to make it paper offical

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no its whats feels right

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Hey, love is love. If you found the one, then you can. But Guys aren't fully mature untill 24 years of age. I would play it safe though.

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Absolutely. You are 19 years old, and tons of people get married at 19, so its absolutely fine. (at least thats what your profile says, not sure if its current). Plus, if your still pregnant, and you want to marry the father, then that will help clear at least a few things up. Just make sure you are really committed to this guy and that he treats you right. Best of luck!

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its not the dad. he was a d bag
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Yes dear, your still young for the marriage. First you must finished your college and then think about the marriage. At an age of 19 girls are not that mush mature, that they can gives their own decisions.

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well i think u might be a little to young but soon.

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how old r you
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it depends how old you are personally in my opinion just know hes the right one and if he isnt date me

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it depends, how old are you?

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