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Why does my older brother hate me?

I am 13 and my older brother is 15. He HATES me ... every time i talk he tells me to shut up.. he calls me fat everyday and constantly makes me hate my self. i will always love him but he has hated me for a while now. Sometimes he's nice like he won't say anything mean but the next day its like he was never nice. he just continues making me feel like no one loves me and unwanted.. i really do love him.. Please tell me what i should do...

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This is normal. Sometimes, older siblings like to have someone to put their rage on. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, it's just they need to get his anger out (everything he's been put through).

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All brothers hate eachother. My bro hates me for no reason. I asked him why and he said 'I dont know. I just do.'

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My bro and I are friends and dont hate eachother
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He is just jealous,tell your parents

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Punch him in the face and tell him that you love him.

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Lol
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Now we're talkin my language!
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if only everybody was just that smart
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LuckyLucky7
Are you?
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swag lol
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LuckyLucky7
I'm still here seth.
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what?????
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who are u
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MOOHahahaha.
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well it is in my ask name
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you saw my name from sethdaboss305 rite??
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why
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see what?
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just tell me
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what is that soposed to mean
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um nothing
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i did
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inquiry
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i dont know what was it
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just tell me what this all means
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sooo
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how do u know my name!!!!!!!!
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u just looked at my ask.com name just tell me
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ok
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what do u mean slenderman has nothing to do with anything
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j really j come on!!
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r u there
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Well, that's what teenagers do. But deep, deep down, he still loves you :)

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he takes advantage of being older

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He does NOT hate you, he is simply being a 15 year old boy, just support him, that's all you really can do!

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He is just trying to start love ( not that kind of love lol) He is trying to get closer to you he thinks if you think he hates you then he will start like you know being nicer plus he is a BOY!

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he may be in having trouble of his own and taking it out on you. just ask him about it and if that doesn't work tell your parents and discuss it with them.

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tell your parents and by the way me and my bro exact situation same age and everything so it might just be a phase

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he doesn't hate you, just tell him to shut up, and stop being a douche

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My brother did the exact same to me. :) He wasn't THAT harsh, but he would threaten to hit me and he would get really ticked off at me. And in fact he was 15 too. But then once he ran away, he really missed me and he would call me all the time and tell me he loved me. Trust me, he loves you. He's just a 15 year old boy who doesn't know how to show his love for you. I know it doesn't seem like it at all, but it's true. Lol.

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stand up for yourself man

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dude i'm a girl :P
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well ya...........................? um stand up for yourself as i said

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I was just like this with my younger brother mate and trust me , he doesn't hate you at all he's fifteen. He'll grow out of that stage and then he'll be ya mate ok?

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Your brother does not hate you. When I get angry, I usually say hurtful things to my oldest sister, but I do not mean them. We all say stuff, but we don't mean anything we do say. Tell your parents if the problem enlarges. Also, since he's upsetting you, try to at least talk to him and tell him how what he's saying and doing, is making you feel. Make him listen to what you have to say.

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He doesn't hate you..maybe he's going through a tuff time? Try to figure something out with him..or leave him alone for a while. He'll always love you too.

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This is normal...he should get over it...

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Welcome to the world of teen siblings! Raging hormones and insecurities flying in every direction! He may think you are handling growing up better then he is, and is jealous. Or he has a friend who has a crush on you and by being mean to you it will keep you away from him and his friend. There are a lot of reasons. But know this, if anyone outside your family is mean to you he will be the first one on line to take care of it. And as you get older you will reconnect again.

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he is just being a older brother all bros dont like their siblings but even though they are mean it s sometimes how they say i love you

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This Question to me I can Defently Relate to But with My sister , Growing Up i was always out down about how i looked my weight and everything ... My older sister is a model she is beautiful and well it was always a competition with her i HATED IT !!! , because it lowerd my self assteem .. I was called fat , ugly , Uselss , Hoe ? ... But little did they know i WAS NONE OF THOSE THINGS , because w.e they could say they will say just so they can see there evil words sink intooo Us , They get pleasure from it , ..... But that depression led me to Suicidal attemps , but look im still here right .... so there will be days werre you WONT UNDERSTAND WHY THEY TREAT YOU LIKE CRAP ! , but maybe have you thought about there jelous of you ? maybe they want to be you have an easier life like you , they may be going threw personal things that u prob dont know so dont take it to heart talk to him ....... get on his level DONT EVER DO ANYTHING TO BE SOMEBODY YOUR NOT ! , JUST TO GET HIS LOVE , cause he will love you no matter what :) ..... Teens now a days are assholes lol <3 give it time then he will be needing you more than anythingg ...

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I know you love him but its still no excuse to take his crap. Turn it around on him, play his own game talk crap about him, cut him down when he tries to speak, maybe he'll get it then. Last resort fight dirty, when he least expects it jump him, pop him in the mouth, show him you ain't taking his crap. This doesn't mean you hate him, just mean you have limits.

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because u stick random stuff up his butthole at night and tell him random stuff other wise because u ruin his chances with girls and video games hope this helps

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In my household, me, the younger sister, pushed my older brother around. I'm a very nice person to everyone, but for some reason whenever I even heard my brother talk, I freaked out. I didn't even like being in the same room with him. Quite a while after I began showing this dislike to my brother, my parents divorced, and I didn't live with my big brother anymore. Due to the separation, I began to miss him and when I got the chance to see him every now and then, I treasured every moment with my big brother.
The point I'm trying to get at is, when your forced to be around someone for a long time, you get sick of their presence.
Yes, truth hurts, but it's reality. Maybe if you guys keep a distance for a while, it can resolve itself.
But, if it doesn't fix itself, I highly recommend you guys see a family therapist. Once things get too bad, it'll be hard to reverse it.

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never stop loving your brother no matter what cause some day he will find it in his heart to love you the same as you do him!

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My brother is the same I have something wrong in my back , knee hand and he hates me he doesn't support me he complains about I do nothing he pushes me out of his friends but he buys me presents but he is horrible to me I am miserable I want it to end what should I do
I wanna run away he is that mean help



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can someone help me please
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I have a similar situation with my older brother. My brother is 17 and I'm 13. For some reason he has always hated me. I have absolutely no fond memories of my brother, and that isn't an exaggeration. He will insult me when I do something wrong and stay silent when I do something right, vice versa for other people. No matter how much I hate him I always find myself helping him in some way (I guess I was just raised that way?). Although my mother understands my deep hatred towards him, she hollowly threatens to kick him out. However, she gives me permission to punch him in the face whenever I deem necessary. If I were you I would never forgive him. He doesn't love you, and you shouldn't love him, If he's so heartless as to insult you and physically abuse in such ways then he isn't your brother, he's as good as anyone else who would attack you on the streets. I never feel safe around my brother and one day when he's lying in his death bed, I'll make sure I'm there to tell Satan hello for me. I wish I had more vivid words to describe my absolute hatred for my brother, but sadly no such words exist.

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Im 11 my brother 13 he'd throw me under a bus if he could he calls me A brat a spaz a ettiot Annoying Stupid Fat tells me i have no Friends tells me im slow he's bullied me since i was born

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