One should ask, "who should I be," versus, "what should i do," when faced with a difficult decision. For example a student in class is sleepy. This student stayed up all night sick, only receiving 30 minutes of sleep. If one asks what should I do (sleep in class or stay awake) one can justify sleeping in class because of the circumstances. If one asks who should I be (one who gives in to the circumstance and sleeps in class or one who is strong enough to stay awake a do my best no matter what life through a at me) it becomes a little bit harder to justify sleeping in class. But, it is not always this easy. You see a friend still. Who do you want to be: the one who tells on the friend (great citizen but not a very good friend to that individual) or the one who lets your friend get away with it (a great friend, but a questionable citizen). Finally, it doesn't stop at to labels, I just kept tried to keep the explanation simple. But I believe if we begin asking ourselves, who do I want to be, versus what should I do, we will become better people. God bless.
Is your desire to be good? If so, why? Are you looking for praise from men? Do you believe that by being good, God will bless you? Is your goodness a sort of currency, or a bargaining chip? Or, is your desire to be happy being bad? Do you want to justify your bad behavior by belittling the goodness of God, and of His Word? Is it that you know that your actions are sinful, but fail to hate those actions the way you should? Or is your desire for God? If you desire God above all else, you won?t be worried about how to be a good Christian, because you?ll be too busy loving a good God.