It's hard because anything worth while is hard! The current society is one in which people and relationships are disposable. Just look at the divorce rates! In our past generations, integrity, honesty and commitment were considered positive attributes and those that had them were honored. Now we have women clinging to losers, having a pile of kids by several different fathers, males thinking cheating is a lifestyle, etc. It's not pretty. That being said, there are good, honest people (both guys and gals) who do want real, long lasting love. Join a church, a class or community organization. The kind of people your seeking don't hang out in clubs/bars.