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I have a crush on someone, but I don't know if I want a relationship with them..(Please read description for full detail).

Okay - My last question that I posted was 'How do I know if he likes me or not, well, this one is slightly different. I was confused on what to do earlier so I took a relationship quiz and just thinking about him made me smile and I had butterflies, etcetera. One of the questions in the quiz, however, asked 'What are you hoping to achieve at the end of telling him you like him?' and it gave options such as marriage, being boyfriend/girlfriends etcetera. That was when I froze. All of the butterflies fled instantly and I just thought 'Hold on now - I'm not ready for a boyfriend, I'm fourteen!' but at the same time, I still have this major crush on him, my friends say I'm 'in love', I can't stop thinking about him, dreaming about him, and I want him to like me too! I'm very confused now...Any suggestions on what I should do? Thank you in advance!xox.

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Here's some good quality advice from my 22 year old sister. Marry a nerd, he'll treat you well in later life and get himself a well paying job. Marry a jock, and he'll treat you like a bag of crap and sit around all day eating Cheetos. All you have to do is wait it out. Get to know him better and see what his personality is towards his friends. Decide from there.

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Love has this really, really annoying way of fading away after a while. Keep it to yourself or tell him you like him is all I can think of - but 14 is a bit young for a boyfriend ( agreed on that ).

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Yes, I agree (like you said), though personally, at least I'm not, say ten or something! I don't want a relationship per-se, I'm fine with being single, I want to live a little, y'know? But I just get these extremely overwhelming feelings for this one guy, I've even cried over him at night, I just can't stop thinking about him. I don't know what to do to be honest. But thanks anyway!xox.
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I know. Just saying you can get over it probably. I got over my first crush - felt really bad about having never talked to her about it.
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Mar9

Hey! I'm going through like the same thing! And to figure it out to see if you want a relationship. During class pass him a note or if you text him play agame called random questions and ask like real deep questions and if you like him even more now then if he likes you back you should go out with him. But take things super slow. =) Hope everything works out for you darling!

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Hello, thanks! Unfortunatly we don't go to the same school, which makes things even more difficult! I was actually thinking about playing 'Twenty Questions' which is practically the same, but I don't want to seem weird or desperate...I have a weird thing about how people view me, I assume people view me the ways I don't want to be, so I struggle grasping the fact that there is a possibility that he likes me to! Everyone is telling me to just ask him out or tell him you like him, but I'm super shy when it comes to confessing things like that and also I'm scared of rejection. I don't wan't to lose him as a friend! They're telling me that if I dont' ask him out soon, someone else will and I'll lose my chance, but I've only known him for 2months, and met twice! Though we text all the time, most nights, it feels like I've known him longer :/ Thanks though! xox.
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O. That stinks that you don't go to the same school. im sorry! :( if you txt a lot you guys should figure out a day to hangout or something
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Ok well You are in love, I can tell i "had" a roommate going through the same thing but he was a boy... He couldn't sleep thinking about her he thought about her a lot... He dreamt about her. He also wasn't the relationship type.... At the time but when he thought about asking her out he was afraid of rejection so that was probably holding him back.... And that's what is probably holding you back you afraid of him saying no So you think a relationship at fourteen is a bad or unready ideal. But fourteen is the prefect age for "dating"
So think about it because some other girl and come and take him away and you'll feel lost inside i know how it feels .-. That why i excluded my self from dating until 3 years at age 18... Because of a dream i have... in Japan/.-./ Well off topic Just go for the chance and ask him out But before that make sure your a friend of his before asking him out...

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Thanks for being understanding, a lot of my friends tell me I'm in love, but I denied it. I am afraid of rejection, but just thinking of having a boyfriend worries me. I wouldn't know how to act, what to say or do or when to do it! I understand I'd be lost though, If another girl took the oppurtunity and asked him out and he agreed I'd be jealous, sad. Recently I haven't been eating proparly, sleeping proparly, and I stay up late and text him. I've taken quizes like 'Does my crush like me back?' and I've asked friends and such like, and the results are varied. The quizes said he did, but thats all they are - quizes. My friends say 'go for it!' but I'm holding myself back. I don't know how much longer to wait though..We've known each other for two months, and we've only met twice, but when I text him and message him, the way we talk, it honestly feels like we are in person. I feel like I truly know him! I'm a very confused person at the moment from this situatuon :( xox.
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keep the feelings for a while and if they get stronger then dive into a relationship.

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Tell him you like him.... :3 worked for me, my current boy friend has been with me for almost 3 yrs

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Thank you for the answer, although we're already together! :D
We've been together for a month and a bit now! <3
Aww that's really sweet! 3 years? That's amazing! I want something like that, but everyone around me doubts it because I'm only 15 (well, I'm almost 15) and he's a month away from being 16...People thing teenagers can have a serious, long lasting relationship :(
I think we're going to prove them all wrong though! Do you mind me asking how old yous are? Just to know if it's possible!
Thanks again <3
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Well I'm currently 15, been dating since I was about 12. He's 16 almost 17 now.
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Aw that's sweet! That's basically our ages now (well, I'm 15 in a few months and he'll be 16 in under a month!) so that's given me hope!
Thanks again :)
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No problem :3 glad I could be of any help
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