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JollyRogre: 7 months ago via iPhone

Here's a Q for women over 35:

When do women typically gain their self-confidence and stand up for themselves with an over-bearing mother? If ever?

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TheHarem: 7 months ago via iPhone | Last edited at 7:08PM on 10/24/2012

Lol.....usually "with the straw the breaks the camels back," and not a moment sooner and I'm 60.

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FreudianSlip: 7 months ago via iPhone

Ayup!

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TheHarem: 7 months ago via iPhone

Smiling :)

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JollyRogre: 7 months ago via iPhone

I'm trying to determine when that straw is going to land. If it is a 10-20 year wait, I will move on now.
Thanks for the input.

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AuroraDragon93: 7 months ago

i'm not over 35, but i stood up to my mother just a few months ago. i am 19. i have confidence in myself because i do not let others push me around, and i know how i should be treated and by whom i should be treated in that way by.

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JollyRogre: 7 months ago via iPhone

That is the way it is supposed to happen, but it didn't work out that way in this case. Thanks for the input.

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cb42: 7 months ago via iPhone

Well, it started for me when I had a child of my own. I had so many other things to think about, stress about & Do other than worry about my mother and what she thought & how she felt. Before that there's no way I would've ever stood up against her. I hope this helps. Sorry I'm not quite 35 but I am 33!

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jacqueline3: 7 months ago via iPhone

Nothing like a child to bring out the mother in you :-)

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cb42: 7 months ago via iPhone

Exactly my point, At least someone gets me!!!

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JollyRogre: 7 months ago via iPhone

Darn. Everybody is confirming my suspicion, that some life-altering event must occur, like a child or a death.
Guess I've got to let go and move on. :-(

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JollyRogre: 7 months ago via iPhone

Thanks, for your 2cents.

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FarmerGirlMaryJo: 7 months ago

For me, the break came when my daddy died. My mother spent the next two weeks getting rid of his tractors, equipment and combine, and even had his beautiful 125-year old barn torn down. She has shunned the three of us kids who resemble him, and clings to her "golden children" who resemble her side of the family. I went to see her recently, and after I inquired about her health, she asked me how I was. I replied, "Oh, I'm fine", to which she remarked, "Well you sure don't LOOK fine". At one time that would have reduced me to tears, but not anymore. I have MS, Fibromyalgia, two ruptured discs and other health problems.... but I still manage to run a good-sized farm on my own. If that's not good enough for her, nothing ever will be... and I've finally made my peace with that. (Btw, my daddy died when I was 41)

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jacqueline3: 7 months ago via iPhone

She is a fool not to respect you... Sorry for your loss. I miss my departed father too, our dads can be a real support.

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FreudianSlip: 7 months ago via iPhone

She's a fool, and will one day regret it.. For now, we'll all enjoy and luv ya! Hugs, MJ.. Big fat hugs..

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FarmerGirlMaryJo: 7 months ago

Luv you too, FS. And thanks, Jacqueline. There's nothing like being a daddy's girl... and I'm one for life.

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JollyRogre: 7 months ago via iPhone

Seems like twisted I the norm for the majority of families. Thanks for your thoughts.

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