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Would this make you mad?

Your mom goes to work and while she's gone you decide you're going to do something nice for her. So you clean the entire house. Sweep the floors, do all the dishes, clear off the table, clean the entire bathroom, clean your room, clean HER room, clean the kitchen, do about 6 loads of laundry(washing drying and putting away). You finish and you're very proud of yourself so you sit down to browse the web, check your fb. Your mom gets home looks at the house and says,"You didn't do your F***ing chore list. You were supposed to sweep the stairs! Why are you such a F***ing lazy @$$?! Instead of doing your chores you sat on your @SS all day using your laptop!" She doesn't even notice the rest of the stuff you did. She just B****es that you didn't do the chore on your chore list that she put amongst her giant@SS pile of paperwork that she doesn't want you to touch.
My mom does this often, not exact scenario but basically the same thing and my brother says I have no right to be pissed off because she's the parent.

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I would be bummed too, so here is how you can help not make her reaction happen on a regular bases like this.
Do Your responsibilities/ chores first, then do extra nice stuff, if your boss wants you to do a job and you do other things and not do asked, he will see it as being irresponsible and will make your boss mad, and can get fired.
You make people happy/surprised by doing above and beyond what is expected or asked. Try it this way and you WILL get the reaction you are looking for. Happy Halloween :)

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Umm that's exactly how i am trying it. She doesn't even TELL me what my chores are. She has a rule that I'm not to touch her pile of paperwork so I just stay away from it altogether, cause if i so much as just knock it over by walking by she get's pissed. But she goes and put the chore list there. She goes to work before I'm up so she doesn't give it to me. When my older brother is home she gives it to him to show to me but he never does and she gets pissed at me not him.
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I see, some of us can be better organized, me too. You know keep doing the right thing and I promise you will see the pay off in your life ;) Blessings to you :)
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Yes ..you have a right to be pissed .. of course you do ... I'm thinking the NEVER expected you to do any of that stuff, and probably didn't even take the time to notice ... But .. when she was finished venting .. you could have politely pointed out all those things you DID do, and further did a lot more than you were expected to do .. I'm sure, she would have a tough time apologizing with that big ol'foot stuck in her mouth.

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I've tried that. Doesn't work with her. At this point I'm honestly beginning to think she has some mental problems. Or she's beginning to go senile. She's in her late 50's but sometimes younger people do go senile.
She's recently begun hearing things and imagining things that don't happen. Just last week I was at a school football game and she said she saw me making out with a girl at Hannaford and grounded me. She's even the one who dropped me off at the game. It's getting really frustrating to the point where I HATE coming home from school. I absolutely despise fridays cause there's no school the next day.
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I empathize with you .. considering how you've illustrating how you are trying to appease her .. I can only imagine how long THAT will go on before you stop trying. Eventually, if you bang your head against the wall repeatedly, you will eventually stop because it feels better.

She 'could' very well have some issues going on .. senility, I'm thinking no .. but menopause might certainly have some influence on her. I don't like to suggest anything without knowing more about someone .. but, could she be abusing drugs or alcohol? Could THAT even be a factor? It would certainly explain her strange reaction to things.

In any event, do you have any other family members that you can talk to .. you father, grandparents, older siblings, aunts / uncles???

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Not really they all see me how she describes me. So they don't believe anything I say. Illegal drugs? No. Prescribed? Possibly. She's taking meds for thyroid, heart problems, she has diabetes but doesn't use insulin she's just supposed to monitor her diet carefully(which she doesn't) deppresion meds, anxiety meds, and more that I don't know what they're for. She hasn't had alchohol since college, She just finished menopause about a year ago. She has academic short comings but I'm not sure about whether she's been diagnosed with anything mental. Basically all I can talk to are friends and I hate doing that cause I don't want to vent my problems to them all the time. And I can only talk to friends at school cause I'm always grounded.
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I feel your pain .. and I don't know what else to tell ya. You are going to have to work this out with your mom .. Perhaps by talking .. when she's calm, and not overtired.

When it's something serious like this, the requires a 'heart to heart' .. It's a good idea to ask " Is this a good time ,,, Can we talk?" See if you can connect with her that way. It can't hurt, right?
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idk.
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thanks. :)
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