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How do I non-verbally tell a person that I'm not interested?

So I'm pretty sure that this girl in my math class likes me, but I don't like her. How do I tell her without using words that I'm not interested in being any more than friends? I'm terrible with using words because I'm a really shy guy.

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Vomit...

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HarleyThorpe
I don't have the ability to do that by will.
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Then LEARN...
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Just say"hey(her name) you're a great person but I'm so sorry I'm not really interested,I just want us to be nothing more than friends...is it ok with you?"
Lol hope this helps

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That would be great advice, exept I'd be using words which I'm trying not to do. Is there any way to give her the message without words? I'm guessing not.
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On a paper sheet
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HarleyThorpe
Still using words, but in a different form. Besides, that's bound to raise some questions verbally.
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Ugh that happened to me recently. When the person asked me out, I just gave them my number and texted them later saying I just wanted to be friends.
If your nice to her and talk to her, you could try pulling back a bit. Talk to her less and make it seem like your not interested in what she's doing/saying (but not in a complete 'I'm ignoring you' type of way).
You could also make it clear to her that you only think of her as a friend, but not very strait forwardly. Say things like "your a good friend" or things along those lines.
And most importantly, don't compliment her. Girls automatically think a guy must be interested in them if they say nice things about them and stuff.
Hope this helps:)

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My specific situation really messed things up. She pretty much is going to to skip the 'friends' stage since we don't even tak to eachother like friends do so we will never quite be "friends" per say. And just today she thought I said she has pretty, black eyes when I meant her eyes were pretty black. But the part about friend-zoning over text, brilliant thank you.
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Haha your welcome, good luck!
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Turn the palm of your hand towards you, and make a fist. Extend your middle finger to REACH its highest point. A frown is recommended but not necessary.

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Really?!?!?! You really should grow up. :-(
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HarleyThorpe
The middle finger? Really? I don't hate her I just don't have any feelings for her.
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It is hard to walk that fine line between being her friend and not giving her any encouragement. Tone down the smiles, just smile politely, don't seek her out, only say hi to her if you pass her closely, don't look at her in class, if she asks you something answer but keep edging away like you need to be somewhere else. I don't know what else to tell you. Well, there is one other thing, if she catches you eye over a distance and waves, jerk your chin at her and casually look away. Good Luck.

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Thanks
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You're welcome.
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Don't have your body faced towards her have it pointed off in a direction near her( if you want to continue to talk to her) as a guy myself I always look for how girls present themselves with their body position. Don't always be shy though go out there and talk to that one your interested in!

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I say, just be honest with her and write her a note or letter good luck.

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