My discovery .. we live in a society where commitment is not valued. To much emphasis on immediate gratification and results. There are exceptions and I truly applaud you.. But for me it will be along time spent in reflection and contemplation before a friendship will evolve into romance.
Don't waste years trying to fix some one who will not change their ways. There's no excuse for bad behavior in a relationship. Also never lose ones self for some one elses joy. It's a hard thing to get back.