A child cannot be forced to live with someone he or she does not like, because mostly judges decide the case depending on the available facts. If the court chooses you, then you will have no obligation than to take him. If it is the vice versa, then the child will have to go with the non custodial parent. However, you need to talk to a lawyer for more advice.
yes. they can ! they can try to get custody . but the judge looks at your back round and current living environment, and what are the reasons you want to take the child from the other parent ! its a lot of work , & a lawyer will make it easier Good Luck !