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How can I gain legal custody of someone else's children whom the parent is neglectful and shows no interest of supporting her children?

My brother and his wife has two children together. My brother passed away this year in May. His wife has shown no interest in getting a job, home or anything to support and raise these children. She currently is living with one person then another. I am very concerned for these children and their well-being. What do I need to do to get custody of these kids. Do I start off with filling a report with social service, or the police or just hire a lawyer??? I need to know the for sure way to get things started. We live in the state of Kentucky and I'm not for sure if the laws are different is each state.

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Okay first: you have no legal right to adopt or become guardian of the children without her consent. It stinks but it's the law. You'll have to have evidence to back up what you're saying & having others to corroborate what you report is also helpful. If you walk in & say, she's neglectful & has no interest in supporting her kids. They'll look at you & say how. You need to have proof that the children aren't being feed, bathed, watched, cared for, no medical treatment or care. Things like mom is picking up guys at the local bar bringing them home etc. The first step would be to speak to an attorney, 1 that practices family law, divorce & custody battles in the state where the children reside, if you can find 1 that's licensed in your state & the state where the children are great--if they to are in KY great. They'll be able to direct you as to what needs to be done. Don't do anything on your own, just follow the advice given, best of luck

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Thank you, all I want is whats best for the kids. I would never in the world take a child away from its mother, being a mother myself. But, I know those kids aren't properly being taken care of and Im not the only one that knows this. I am surprised myself that Social Services havent stepped in themselves.
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Please understand I'm not trying to be rude, nor trying to sway your decision. I think what you're doing is wonderful & a blessing. They don't allow much space so I apologize for being terse, but in my line of work candy coating is nice but not my forte. You're not taking the kids away from a mother from the sound of things, sadly in the world today we have an overabundance of people that had no business ever getting pregnant. Social Service is another government office that is over burdened, understaffed & in my opinion a typical failure, but at least it exists. If nobody calls & complains repeatedly it gets lost in the shuffle. The first move is the attorney, I'm no fan of theirs but the judges are also attorneys & they're in bed together. If you go by what they tell you it is your best hope for success. God bless & I wish there were more folks like you-go get those kids
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take her to court and show them evidence that she is neglectful. if they don't do anything, i really feel for you but there isn't much you can do unless she hands over the legal custody to you. good luck!

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Ask the police to do a welfare check on the children and then if they think the children are not being cared for, they will have the children removed and at that point they will be looking for relatives that could give the kids a good home as well as keep them together and then the mother will be given tasks to complete to get the children back by the court and if the court decides she isn't a fit parent-the children will be eligible to adopt.

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