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GooGooFace

I have a hard time getting along with my family,we're a big fam,12 other kids,and I personally get along with about 2,i feel sorta guilty..

As long as I can remember,my other siblings have gotten on my nerves,of course we have a few good days,but the majority of the time,I'm being drove crazy.I feel a little guilty cause everyone else gets along for the most part,except for me with others,with the exception for about 2 or 3 sibs. What should I do?

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Here's a suggestion: write down what it is about each family member that drives you crazy and be absolutely honest. Ask yourself: "Can I forgive so-n-so for this?" If your answer is yes, then do so. If you can't, ask yourself why. Get to the bottom of how you feel concerning each one. Again ask yourself if you can forgive. Also check with yourself to see if you have done anything to offend anyone in your family. If so, go and apologize. They may not accept your apology. Just you apologizing will ease how you feel. This all may take time, but that's ok. Once you have forgiven each one, do not hold it against them any more. Once you have apologized, make a point not to do whatever offended them again. I know things happen, but you should strive to walk in forgiveness and concern for how others feel. If you have difficulty with any of this, ask Jesus for help. He desires to give it. When you are through doing this, you will find your family less crazy. How do I know this? It is what I have done in the past and continue to do and it works!

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GooGooFace
thank you!
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gabbyapple

Maybe you should try a little harder to get along...I mean, they are your family. :)

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GooGooFace
ive tried. haha they get on my nerves!! I love them regardless,id just like to be able to like them!
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gabbyapple
You may have to love your family (because they are your family), but that doesn't always mean that you have to like them (even though I do love and like mine)! Good luck to you.
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There are a couple of ways to approach it, find out specifically what bugs you and try to change it; like if it's always having someone around, find a place to be alone. If it's the noise, use headphones to drown out the noise. Another thing you could do is dwell on the positives of having a large family, and when you are around some of your siblings, think about what you like about each of them and focus on that instead of what you don't like. I'd have a hard time with that many people around me all the time. I'd be outside, reading a book or hiding in a tree if I was you. Hope you figure something out. Oh, I wanted to add that you may as well not try to change anyone, the only one you have control over is yourself, how you act, and how you react to others. Learn it now, it doesn't change as you grow up.

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Try to get along with them but don't be a different person altogether because you shouldn't act like someone else to get along with people.
Figure out the problems and try to solve them.

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