She is your gf, right? I'm assuming you love her, right? Your relationship cannot be the way it was, not right now anyway. You are right, she is a sea of emotions right now. She blames everyone, especially herself. She doesn't feel safe, and she probably feels disgusting, ugly, and ruined: that nobody could love her. You need to do some reading on the common ways that women deal with rape, and then be there for her. Even of it means just sitting across the room from her, reading to her, telling her she is beautiful. Do it every day. She will love you for this. She may try to dump you saying that you deserve better. If she does, respect her. This is awful, man. And while you are doing this for her, make sure that you do counseling too. Men take rape hard too. You may have questions like: why wasn't I there to protect her, and why is she pushing me away. And in the event that you might lose this relationship, you will harbor a grudge and feelings of inadequacy. Don't be the tough guy, get help outside of ASK, hun. Love and prayers to you.
Be strong, stop crying and try your best to alter the situation . If you've a feeling of guilt, apologize to her and be there for her. It's not too late to get back the affair of the heart. Take care of her sincerely and be the eraser to her tears man. Don't cry too much, try to be brave and concrete.
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Be supportive of her, don't ask too many questions wait until she wants to talk, you can support someone without being all up in their face, quiet support. So they know you care and love them. Sorry for whatever may have occurred.
Man do what I do when I'm sad, I get a bag of barbecue chips, sit on the couch, and watch football. Then have your kids (if you have any) and tell em daddy's sad. Don't be, men like us are tough, we don't wanna be seen crying! Just saying dude.