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How can I get my son to read books. He is 9 years old and reads fluently but won't tear himself away from the TV or video games to read.

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Who's running the show, him or you, give him some TV time, and game time, after that, it all shuts down, and then he can figure out what to do with his time, sit and sulk, or read a book.

Parents need to put restrictions on how much time kids spend doing mindless things, and encourage them to do other things that create a positive result, such as reading or learning games, meaning games that teach, and to be interactive with them at the same time creating a strong family bond...

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samanthajune21
Great answer John! Kids are missing out on some great literature these days!
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They are, and when I said learning games, I meant games that teach, and thanks Sam...
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I agree 100%!
(And you can call me Mandy, Samanthajune is just a user name)
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Ok, thanks Mandy... :~)
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well said, John Numerical
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Hi Squatch, welcome back, you have missed a lot of action !!!
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Hi, yourself, John. Glad to see you back out here with your well-reasoned, sane answers. I already gave you a thumbs up on this one. :-)
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You got 1 2 from me Kim !!!
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Great answer, John. I'm always saying parents forget who's in charge! Just blows my mind!
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Thanks Raleigh...
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A couple of years ago one of my neighbours invited his teen-aged nephew for a holiday. The kid flew unaccompanied from England to Australia and spent the whole month of his stay glued to a TV. He didn't want to see anything or do anything. He might as well have stayed at home.
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I was that kid, lol, and don't interupt my my make out session, get your own bird...
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Kidding aside David, I grew up with 3 channels, and at midnight you got the indian until 6 in the morning, then on Saturday cartoons til noon, and real toons, Foghorn, Bugs, Daffy, you know, the real deal.

I had my bike, and a playing card I stuck between the spokes with a clothes pin, grab my fishing pole and I was gone for the day...
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Ahh, those were the days...
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Yes they were...
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Put the penthouse forum in his hands. He's at that age now. Guarantee it will work.

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there you are again... saying something funny. This post won't last long:)
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Hi Sas. None of the other have, but this might just survive. I think this'll be a short term member.
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... I see his username has been changed-- it was "pissoff" but I'm guessing it offended the mods
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Now THAT'S some home schoolin'.
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I flagged it myself, Sas.
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There are graphic novels that some boys really like; sort of like comic books but with more of a plot. And maybe you could have a guideline that says for every hour of tv or video gaming, there has to be an hour of something else, reading, outdoor play, etc.
I agree with John's answer; as the parent, you're supposed to be in charge and helping him make smart decisions about how to spend his time. If that means telling him, "no more tv or gaming," then that's what it means. If he says he hates you, well, what parent hasn't heard that a thousand times. You'll have lots of company in that club.

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Hi Kim...
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Sooooooo......your the parent. Why even ask. Shut the TV off, put video games in a closet and let him scream for awhile. Eventually he'll get tired. I had a co-worker who went so far as to cut the electric cord on the TV. Set schedule in which he understands he only has like one hour each evening for video games and one fo TV say, then he had to do something else like homework and reading!

Step up and be the parent, for crimenys sake! Your job is to be his parent, not his best friend.

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Wow smart friend.
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Yep !!
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I have 4 children and I have them to read a book and turn in a book report to me in order to get new games or to be able to watch tv for more than one hour a day and its working very well for them.

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So your the parent?

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Dear HBelap,
Here is a suggestion...assuming your little guy does not feel he is too grown-up for this...

Read books outloud together with him at night before bed!

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My brother had the same problem. My mom only let's him watch and play vides games during the weekends. She also made him read 30 mins a day to one hour. My brother Is the same age as your son and he really enjoys reading the "How to Train your Dragon" series.

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what wonderful advice...
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Thank you. :)
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Try getting him a gift card , and taking him to "barnes and noble " and let him search the isles and pick out what he wants. Take him to the library and have him pick out a book. Get him one of the little Clip on book lights and let him read in bed . Offer a prize or privledge if he finishes it . You didn't mention his age,( elementary school?) there are tons of popular book series he would love if he checks them out.

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Bubbles, do you have kids?
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(hates saying this )
That's being to soft on him.
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well just give him some incentive.
something like if he reads a certain amount of books a month you'll take him out to a game, a movie. or use something else that you know he'll enjoy. just make sure that it's something that you feel is right for your child to have as an incentive.
i hope this helps.

- D.F.F

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Lots of good answers on this one. Book reports really good .....like that.

I've got a 9 year old ( youngest of 6 ) and he loves to read. Bubbles had a great idea on the gift card. It does help to find a book he likes. My son likes the train your dragon book too like totallytallie said. He also loves the " Big Nate " series. Do try to find a series of books like Nate. It gets them to look forward to the next one. Plus you can just buy 5 or 6 at a time and give them one a week or something instead of shopping for a couple of hours once a week.
now this is really gonna get ya. he loves MAD magazine too. you may or may not approve but that's up to you. Trenton got a subscription for his b-day... it's better than penthouse and at least he's reading.

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I should be dismantling bunk beds but the day's still early & the Lord knows if I'm gonna start preachin'... it'll be over PARENTING (notice, I didn't say kids).

We keep our tv OFF all the time unless we decide to watch something together as a family. One show or movie a day. I know, we're WEIRD!

Reading: I like to encourage by example. (Dave, if you're reading this...skip that part.) I read BOOKS in front of my girls. Also, what Bubs & Charlie said about finding their niche is completely true. Take them to B&N and get a variety of different stuff (ask for help here).

I also make my girls get in bed by 8 but "allow" them to read until 8:30 (or later for older ones).

Now for the kicker. I'm not necessarily sayin' it's too late to start any helpful regime but I believe children must have their perimeters established early. One friend claims they're "baked" by eight. Scary or not? In my house...not.

Ok...I'm hopping off my horse & taking down some bunk beds while my 12 year old reads Brothers Karamazov.

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T's up 4 you always Raleigh... :~)
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I didn't know what you meant until the 3rd read-thru. Hee-hee
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