2 years ago
Last edited at 4:23PM on 9/16/2011
Who's running the show, him or you, give him some TV time, and game time, after that, it all shuts down, and then he can figure out what to do with his time, sit and sulk, or read a book.
Parents need to put restrictions on how much time kids spend doing mindless things, and encourage them to do other things that create a positive result, such as reading or learning games, meaning games that teach, and to be interactive with them at the same time creating a strong family bond...
There are graphic novels that some boys really like; sort of like comic books but with more of a plot. And maybe you could have a guideline that says for every hour of tv or video gaming, there has to be an hour of something else, reading, outdoor play, etc. I agree with John's answer; as the parent, you're supposed to be in charge and helping him make smart decisions about how to spend his time. If that means telling him, "no more tv or gaming," then that's what it means. If he says he hates you, well, what parent hasn't heard that a thousand times. You'll have lots of company in that club.
Sooooooo......your the parent. Why even ask. Shut the TV off, put video games in a closet and let him scream for awhile. Eventually he'll get tired. I had a co-worker who went so far as to cut the electric cord on the TV. Set schedule in which he understands he only has like one hour each evening for video games and one fo TV say, then he had to do something else like homework and reading!
Step up and be the parent, for crimenys sake! Your job is to be his parent, not his best friend.
My brother had the same problem. My mom only let's him watch and play vides games during the weekends. She also made him read 30 mins a day to one hour. My brother Is the same age as your son and he really enjoys reading the "How to Train your Dragon" series.
Try getting him a gift card , and taking him to "barnes and noble " and let him search the isles and pick out what he wants. Take him to the library and have him pick out a book. Get him one of the little Clip on book lights and let him read in bed . Offer a prize or privledge if he finishes it . You didn't mention his age,( elementary school?) there are tons of popular book series he would love if he checks them out.
well just give him some incentive. something like if he reads a certain amount of books a month you'll take him out to a game, a movie. or use something else that you know he'll enjoy. just make sure that it's something that you feel is right for your child to have as an incentive. i hope this helps.
Lots of good answers on this one. Book reports really good .....like that.
I've got a 9 year old ( youngest of 6 ) and he loves to read. Bubbles had a great idea on the gift card. It does help to find a book he likes. My son likes the train your dragon book too like totallytallie said. He also loves the " Big Nate " series. Do try to find a series of books like Nate. It gets them to look forward to the next one. Plus you can just buy 5 or 6 at a time and give them one a week or something instead of shopping for a couple of hours once a week. now this is really gonna get ya. he loves MAD magazine too. you may or may not approve but that's up to you. Trenton got a subscription for his b-day... it's better than penthouse and at least he's reading.
I should be dismantling bunk beds but the day's still early & the Lord knows if I'm gonna start preachin'... it'll be over PARENTING (notice, I didn't say kids).
We keep our tv OFF all the time unless we decide to watch something together as a family. One show or movie a day. I know, we're WEIRD!
Reading: I like to encourage by example. (Dave, if you're reading this...skip that part.) I read BOOKS in front of my girls. Also, what Bubs & Charlie said about finding their niche is completely true. Take them to B&N and get a variety of different stuff (ask for help here).
I also make my girls get in bed by 8 but "allow" them to read until 8:30 (or later for older ones).
Now for the kicker. I'm not necessarily sayin' it's too late to start any helpful regime but I believe children must have their perimeters established early. One friend claims they're "baked" by eight. Scary or not? In my house...not.
Ok...I'm hopping off my horse & taking down some bunk beds while my 12 year old reads Brothers Karamazov.