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How can I help my child sleep all night in his bed?

My son is 3 years old, he has always woken up in the middle of the night to sleep on my wife and my bed. He sleeps very crazy and moves very constantly on top of us, especially my wife. My wife and I have tried many different ways in having out son stay in bed. we are not sure what else to try. We could use some advise from real people that have gone through this before. thank you.

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I never get through this before , but what can I say, maybe he's afraid of something and he need his parents to accompany while he's sleeping, my advice is what if you put another bed in your room, so he'll feel save when he see his parents beside.

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i know some people that did that and the son is older know and throws a fit when they do not sleep near him.
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exactly !
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Tell him that's your room and he can't sleep there without your permission ... then lock your bedroom door at night, so he can't come in without permission.

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thats rude
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He's freaking 3...making his parents unaccessible is terrifying for a child
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They aren't unaccessible ... all he has to do is knock.
3 is old enough to knock on their door.
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well that s good idea he needs to learn his lesson and if he keeps letting him sleep with them its not going to help at all i was like this when i was younger and my parents did the same thing.
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If they do that then he could wander around the house and get into things he shouldn't and maybe even hurt himself. Locking him out would be the worst thing a parent could do.
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Is it really that important that he sleep in a separate room? My 2 year old sleeps with us all the time and he moves around a lot as well. In our case our 1 bedroom apartment does not give us the option of giving our son his own room. This concept of making your kid sleep alone is not an issue in poor countries where everyone lives in one room homes. It was not an issue when our species lived in caves. Not an issue in tepees or wigwams or igloos. Don't make this an issue. Enjoy the time you spend with your kid.

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We are in a single with two kids we love our son but he moves around too much and my wife needs to rest to work in the morning.
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Well said!
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If your wife needs the sleep, then curl up in the childs bed with him until he falls asleep
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He notices it and jumps to our bed since its a foot away.
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You should leave his door open and keep your hall light on. Tell him exactly where you are in the house so he feels comfortable because he knows where you are.

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find out what he's afraid of and SQUASH IT!

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put him some smooth music

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Put his bed in your room,,, or put him in his room, open one light in his room or the hall lights on,,give him a teddy bear to hug when his afraid or tell him its ok we are always with you :)

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The best thing to do is explain to the child that they need to sleep in their own bed and escort them back to their bed. You can sit with them, Maybe rub their back or somehow comfort them, with soft music or a night light and they will go back to sleep. At first it may take a little time but if you do it consistently it will be quicker and quicker. Usually within a week they will be broken of the habit and not even get up anymore. If you let them sleep in your bed it becomes a habit and it will be harder and harder to break.

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With all due respect, you cannot "explain" things to a 3 y old...they're too young to understand
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tell some bedtime stories

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My wife and I read him a story every night before going to sleep.
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then do this, sleep with him for some minutes until he feels asleep. then, go to your room and do whatever you want...
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oggy he said he wakes up in the middle of the night he can just go back with them!
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tell him stories.

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Hug your child anytime he needs you, night or day, be grateful he turns to you for comfort, and trust me, he'll get out of your bed when he feels safe (or when he hits puberty :))

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try sleeping with him in his bed until he falls asleep

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Make sure to have a consistent bed time ritual, since kids rely on a routine to help them feel secure. My kids have always gone to bed at the same time every night, even on the weekends, and I read a bedtime story everynight - they look forward to choosing the story each night. And don't give them the option to sleep with you.

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quit telling him ghost stories,lol jk how bout a night lite or a fav stuffed animal?

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My mum had this problem with my little sister. So my mum would go and sleep with her, then once my little sister fell asleep, my mum went back to her bed. And yes sometimes my little sister woke up and went into my mum's room to sleep. But you can try this and see what happens. Sleep on with him and go back to your bed in the middle of the night or until he falls asleep.

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Help him.

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Tell him that Obama or Romney didn't win and the libertarian party did. He'll realize that America is no longer doomed and will sleep sound.

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When he comes and gets in your bed, let him fall asleep with you when he's asleep carry him back to his bed.

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Tell your wife to sleep in you kids bedroom. it is not unusual for kids to want to sleep with their parent specially with their mother since they spent like 9 month with her. Their mother heart beat calms and relaxes them so they fall asleep by it.

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stay in his room untill he falls asleep. check on him constantly

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oh and read to him before you tuck him in
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when ever he sleeps in his room reward him with toys and candy
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I gave up with my now 16 yo when he was little of not sleeping in my bed. I just got a bigger bed. He always started in his and 9 times out of 10 wound up in mine. Now he is a loving, trusting, kind young man who still hugs his mom, and will lay with her for a couple minutes in bed to talk with me. Then he stands up - all 6'2" 200 lbs of him - and tells me he is gonna go lay down in his bed to sleep or on the sofa to watch television. Where is the baby in footed Buzz Lightyear jammies? Stop fighting the child - and don't blink...babies grow up in a heartbeat.

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the best replied is jimmiysconi. these other people say put his bed in your bedroom. but the problem with that is when its time for them to move on they wont want to. mabey sooth them into bed and sit their untill they fall asleep. dont tell stories or sing because it keeps them wound up.

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START A NEW ROUTINE......MAKE IT ENJOYABLE.....EACH OF YOU HAS A FLASH-
LIGHT; TO KEEP AT YOUR BEDSIDE, EACH NITE YOU 2 LAY IN HIS BED W/ THE
FLASHLIGHTS ON AND READ TOGETHER & PRAY TOGETHER. MAKE SURE THE
STORIES & PRAYERS INSTALL CONFIDENCE & LET YOUR CHILD KNOW THAT
GOD IS ALWAYS THERE IS SHINE HIS LOVING LIGHT. THERE IS NOTHING TO FEAR.
MAKE SURE THIS IS A SPECIAL TIME YOU SET ASIDE WITH NO DISTRACTIONS.
THE CHILD WILL FEEL MORE IMPORTANT AND CONFIDENT & WILL BE ABLE TO
SLEEP W/O FEAR.
ALSO-MAKE SURE HE GETS ENOUGH EXERCISE DURING HIS DAY.
NO SUGAR OR SODA BEFORE BEDTIME.
DO NOT WATCH T.V. @ BEDTIME - EVEN THE COMMERCIALS CAN LEAVE NASTY
THOUGHTS IN A KIDS HEAD.
PRAISE YOUR KID EACH A.M. - EVEN IF HE DOESNT MAKE IT THRU THE NIGHT ALONE.
AND PRAISE GOD TOGETHER THAT YOU HAVE A FAMILY TO LOVE - MANY PEOPLE
ARE ALONE W/ NO HOPE. YOU GUYS HAVE A FUTURE TO MAKE HAPPEN!




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You can make him do a sport before he gose to bed and he will go to sleep In a minute.

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sing him or her wut eva a lula buy

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this takes anywhere from a few days to a week.

DAY1: Do your normal bed time routine, make him comfy and put him to bed. The first time he wakes up/cries out, go to his bed tell him "it's time to sleep" and cover him up and then LEAVE. DO NOT entertain questions, DO NOT allow him to argue. Do this as many times as is necessary the first night. Expect a fight.

DAY2 Do the regular routine and put him to bed. The first time he wakes up ONLY GO TO THE DOOR, NOT INSIDE! say the spiel, then LEAVE. DO NOT entertain questions, DO NOT allow him to argue. Do this as many times as is necessary during the night. Expect a fight. At this point, you are establishing the new normal for your child. If you as the parents can stay consistent, it takes care of itself in a relatively short amount of time. We did this when when both of our sons were about 1 and a half or so... haven't had any issues since!

DAY3: as DAY TWO, except if after the first time you go in, say your spiel and leave the child cries and whatnot, (and this is by far THE hardest part) DO NOT GO BACK IN. BE STRONG
If you can endure a few bad nights on the front end, countless nights of comfortable sleep for all await!

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Rogelio is closest to a possible solution. Playing soft CLASSICAL music soothes the mind and body. Why? Because there’s no sudden bursts of loudness to startle & its excellent for brain development. Bedtime should NOT be a traumatic event. The louder the child gets, the quieter your voice should become; it forces the child to 'hear' you. Once the sound index is BELOW normal, continue to speak softly, tell’g a story or divert’g their attention to something else, like, "listen...do you hear the crickets?” (To force the child to STOP & LISTEN, allow’g YOU to get control) "What do you think they are talk’g about?" Then go from there! Use the ‘listen’g’ technique each time the child starts to ‘elevate’. (Very low key, soft voices, forcing 'down-time') It quiets the child allow’g their body to simmer down & hopefully, fall asleep. Wait before you leave the room...make sure the CLASSICAL music is soft, but enough volume to continue the soothing process; it will actually place them into a deeper sleep. It worked from the time my Twins were born, and the third child, right through high school. House rules…Good Luck!

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read him a story and put nightlite and rub his back if it dosent work then if you have a fan make the air go to him and when he u know gose to bed then it fine

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Sleep in the bed with him until he falls asleep, when he wakes up walk him back to his room and stay there until he falls back to sleep. Make sure he isn't afraid of the dark because if he is, get a nightlight but make sure that it's not too bright where he is up all night but also make sure that it's not too dim where the room is too dark for him.

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tell him calmly "mommy and daddy need to sleep and get ready for a new day and there is nothing to be afraid of."then ask him why.

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Try reading to him in his bed, or playing games there, so it hopefully will become a secure place for him to be.

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get calms forte' for kids. be sure to get the ones that dissolve if he/she cant swallow pills yet

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sing to him and then he should fall asleep if not you should give him milk to drink a cookie 1 only and then tell him a story and tuck him in bed

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ask him what he is afraid of and tell someone about it or handle it yourself. tell him that he will get a treat if he stays in his bed all night long... but make sure you have a treat for him to receive.

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I have a three year old who has just started sleeping through the night in her room.At first she would wake up in the middle of the night too, but now she stays in her bed as long as her light is on turns out she just thought everything looked spooky in the dark. So I would suggest asking what the problem is and what will comfort him whether its a nite light, stuffed animal or music each child is different. For the people who suggest keeping them in your bed I wish they could spend a nite with my child who has busted my lip a couple of times in her sleep and loves to sleep with her feet in my back. I finally get up not feeling or looking like I have been in a fight. lol

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I found the best anwser! Lay a sleeping bag next to your bed and tell him that when he wakes up to come to your room; he must go to the sleeping bag.(Make a big deal about having a "special bed" next to your bed. I did this with my little one and have noticed that she rarely comes in our room now. She realized that her bed is more comfy than the floor....

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Have you and your wife sit next to him and make sure he is completley asleep. When he is sound asleep, get up and leave the room (keeping the door open) If he comes back to your bed, put out a sleeping bag on the floor right next to your bed. Make sure he knows that he needs to be in the sleeping bag and not in your bed.

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Lay down and read a book or sing him to sleep.Lay down with him.If he wakes up walk him back and lay down again with him.Give him something to comfort him and put a nightlight in his room.

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I have an idea I always need to sing or read a book to my baby girl victoria and I always do the both of them maybey you can try it to your son my hosben and I always can sleep in peace.so I hope you try it bye

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If you really need it you need melatonin

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its a drug (not a bad one perfectly safe i use it) that helps you sleep. you can get it at a local store like at wall-greens and safe-way places like that. it makes you relaxed and helps you sleep just do not take it after a meal that makes you really really full. (i stay wide awake) But you're child may not
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Don't immediately think he needs medication. Try sleeping with him or give him a reward if he sleeps in his bed one whole night. It works with my cousin maybe it can help you. But don't let him sleep with you every night. You don't want that to be a habit. Good luck.

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I'm usually a heavy sleeper I try not to be. My wife is tired and so she can get some rest she lets him since he doesn't listen. He needs someone to keep remembering him, I try when I'm lightly sleeping. The reward thing out the window long time ago. Thank you.
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No problem! I pretty much raised my cousin (changed his diapers and such) when I was in fourth grade. Now he is in kindergarten and lives with me. He has one of the most highest cases of ADHD our doctor has dealt with. He and I both take ADHD and sleeping medication. Maybe if you can, see if you can get a family member or someone you can think of maybe to babysit for a few nights so you can get more sleep. I know my Aunt does that. But you and your wife deserve some sleep and maybe a day to be with each other. Maybe take him to a doctor and they WILL give you advice or if its needed, they will give him medication.
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Read him stories, sing calming songs, tell him that he cannot get out of bed unless it's for a drink of water or to go to the restroom. Also, tell him that he can't sleep with mommy and daddy because he's a big boy and big boys belong in their big boy bed.

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if he comes in your room take him back to his room and lay in his bed with him intill he falls back to sleep and eventually he will stop.

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