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I'm 14 and my girlfriend is 17, do you think that's ok?

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Sorry.. I fully disagree.. The maturity level between a 14 year old boy and a 17 year old girl is a huge chasm.. Either she is EXTREMELY immature, or you are mature beyond your years.. The point, however, is moot.. When she turns 18.. 15 will get her 20 (as they saying goes). Three years is only a number when people are of legal age to make it just a number..

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Finally, someone who I agree with! So what do you knew of your president being reelected?
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so lets say they work together, whats the big deal?
i mean i get the legal issue, but no one really gets caught for that kind of thing.
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Thanks momo.. I voted for him in 2008 and have been disappointed since, but it is what it is, now, so I'll support my country and continue making my voice heard.. Where are you from?
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Im from Montreal, Canada. It's not like I could have legally vote for him, but I still support him as the president.
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I mean Obama nailed this election, as he did in the other. Thanks to Cali! Dam they are enjoying the sun, well we are awating for our first snow this year. Where you from?
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Cali.. Lol.. And yes, it's still sunny! Oh Can a da.. Something something.. (was singing to you :0)
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I wish I lived there, but Montreal is still a beautiful city. In fact, it's the 2nd largest city in NA.
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I've been to Victoria in BC when I lived in Washington State, but I've never been anywhere else in Canada..
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Wow, red, your post finally showed up.. I'm not talking about a "working" relationship.. I'm talking about the differences in emotional stability, maturity and an equality in cognitive thought processes.. From 14 to 17 is huge in terms of these aspects..
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You've got to visit Montreal one day. You'll be attached to our night life. Cali is waaay to hot for an eskimos like me LOL!
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Lol.. Ok momo.. I ever get over to Montreal, I'll shoot you a hello. :0) (you do know we get snow in Cali? Honest injun, we have mountains!!)
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What snow in Cali? Hell to global warming.
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But how cold does it get when it snows in your area? In our city the temp goes down -18
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Def NOT -18.. Normal temps in San Francisco are around 30's in the winter.. But when I lived in Colorado, it would get that low with the wind chill factor.. if I was a boy, I'd have frozen off my.. ummm.. jewels.. Damn that's cold..
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freudian-even people who are the same age think very differently, on different levels. and thats ok, because we learn from each other and grow together. so if theres a big age gap, but the two get along and can carry intelligent conversations, what the problem?
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Red.. I am not talking about intelligence, I'm talking about an ENORMOUS amount of maturity.. My comment says what I feel the problem is at that age..
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Dude, she's like a cougar in training!

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I guess it weirds me out a bit, the girl being older. I know that I have an 18-year-old interested in me, and it feels strange.
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I am NOT a cougar, btw, lol.
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haha exactly my thoughts!
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Lmao some guys are into that.
Me, I'm into chubby blondes.
Everyone has their thing.
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Lol... too funny. I am old enough to be this guy's mother, for pity's sake!
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Apparently HE does, lol.
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lol, ugh i love coougars,, js
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Lmoao. (that's my OLD ___, lol)
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Wow. TRUE!
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Laughing all over again. I had completely forgotten about this question. When I was 17, I know that I had younger guys interested in me (I always have had, for some reason... maybe they're looking for mommy-replacements?) but I would have felt more like their babysitter than their girlfriend, lol.
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This had me rollin' ...
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Yeah it's fine

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you rebel ;)
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If it is legal in your state YOUR A LUCKY GUY!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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As long as its not based on looks, its fine, just concentrate on school.

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I would prefer to have an older guy, but yeah I think it's ok, as long as she isn't using you or anything

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Most definitely, age is just a number

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Yeah, and jail is just a room!
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haha iv heard that before, but how often do they actually get caught?
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A lot
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Red, you moral values are very low. It is wrong regardless of whether you get caught or not.
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Rolly29 yes i know that sounded bad-but actaully my moral values are high. In this particular case though, i dont think there is a problem with a 14 year old dating a 17 year old. or any of that age difference stuff. The law is definitely needed and good, but i dont think it is always wrong.
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I think your hella lucky dude. I would have killed for your position at that age.

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olol
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It's fine. Long as you guys like each other.

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yes. i dont think age should get in the way of two peoples feelings for each other. i had a friend who dated guys waaayyy older than her, she just like mature men i guess :P nothing wrong w it.

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I'm 7 years older than my husband. I was 28 when we met and he was 21. We have been married for 25 years. Age is just a number.

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Props dude ;) haha

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Yes my son... I admire that you respect me enough to seek my permission, so I give it along with my blessings.

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You his dad?
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Wow your like the wisest person on Ask. I like it
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Haha no I'm not His dad but you would think it from the way he treats me right??
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I'm his grandpa(:
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hahaha
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im bigtobys future son
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Yea only 3 years older

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Score! For now anyways. In twenty years it wont be as cool.

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Sure, as long as she sends you to College ; ,

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Age is an issue of mind over matter if you don't mind it doesn't matter.

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Quote by mark twain. he has some good one
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I know. He's pretty cool huh? And dead.
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yeah its fine! =] ..

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**cyber fist bump**

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right?? kudos to him. age is just a number, if a 14 yo guy can score a 17 y/o, all i can do is applaud him.
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Grrr..
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Oops!!! **Faded runs away in serpentine motion** Woob! Woob! Woob! Woob! Woob! Woob! Woob! Woob!
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Lol.. Off to bed.. Night Faded!!
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Nighty night
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there isnt anything wrong with that...absolutely nothing, i read about a couple who is like 20 years apart like the woman is 20 years older. its your own decision if you want to be with her and you shouldnt really care what people think :)

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Now it's not. When you're 30 and she'll be 27, yes it will be ok.

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Yep :)
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It's ok till she turns 18, then your jailbait buddy!

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This will not last. But enjoy it while you can.

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She's 3 years older than you. In some states, 18 years old is considered as being an adult. In other states, 19 years old is considered as an adult, however, your girlfriend can be thrown in jail if you two ever had sexual intercourse. She is older than you and will be older than you. Don't even think about having sexual intercourse before you're 18 or 19 years old. Also, the chances of you both being together for a long time is slim.

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Ellipsical

It's natural for guys to like older women, but society doesn't approve...

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What is her problem as she obviously has one. I'd run for the hills if I were you.

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That's kind of weird. It would be fine if you were like 23 & 26, but you shouldn't be dating anyway because of maturity reasons. Any relationship you have now is most likely going to be short-lived.

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Its fine dude.. Honestly you must be chill and mature and she actually likes you.. Cause not many girls go for younger dudes... So keep being that dude

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Eh. My ex, hopefully soon to be gf again, is a year and 9 months older than me. But everyone says I act a lot older than my age...

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good luck
how u planning on getting her back?
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Wow, it scares me that these people with these type of low moral values are the ones who are going to inherit the country.

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1st does she know your age and if so than that makes this borderline molestation.... Just think how people feel about a 14yr old girl being with a 17 yr old guy! It's wrong she's interested in a more mature relationship than you're ready for!!!! DON'T RUIN UR YOUTH RUNNING AFTER SOMEONE WHO WISHES THEY STILL HAD THEIRS!!

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honestly i think that it depends on the maturity level, but keep in mind that if you guys do have intercourse and people find out she can get into trouble and possibly go to jail.

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i dont get it why its considered inappropriate to date someone who is 17 while you are 14 i mean there are many people who are married and have a three year age difference. Actually, there are people who are married and are 10 or even more age difference from each other. so yah i think you two are alright. but that is just my opinion

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dude maybe you may like be a legend to your friends or telling to other guys,but to be honest its not worth it.be with a girl closer to your age!

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I was 15 with an 18 year old girl.. Never dated just messed around.. Fun as hell lol

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Uh well I guess that is just a personal preference I personally think the guy should be older

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Seems not OK. You are too young and you are not ready for love and relationships. If you are 20+ and she is 3 years older than you, then there will not be a big problem.

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if it was the other way around this would be attacked so quickly

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age is just numbers.its doesnt matter how old are you or she if you likes each other no matter dude just keep it up.

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No it's not ALRIGHT? Are you people crazy? That can be against the law if she turns 18 soon and they have sex because it can be listed as RAPE. Besides, seniors have no business messing with someone that age.

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sorry i fully disagree man that stupid

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Babysitting

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its his life people, love has no age limit.

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Is that what they should tell the cops when she's too old to be dating him?
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i think you got some serious prowness! Congrats!

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its fine until she turns 18

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yeah when i was 17 (im a girl) i dated a 14 year old boy. he was mature. i dont think age matters all the time. :)

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yes , it's ok dont think age matters :)

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She is beautiful so yes

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I think so. I'm 15 dating an 18 year old. We've been dating since I was 14 and he was 17. So I think it's perfectly normal c: as long as you love each other that's all that counts I guess.

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Hmmmmm.....if youre alright with tht and shes alright with tht and both your parents r than yeah

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ya for now ur fine. doubt will work in the future

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honestly i don't think it matters.

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sounds more like baby sitting....haha

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welll i personally think a guy dating a girl older than them is stupid and your 14 dude she 17 let her go dude just let her go shes too old for you

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Yes, i believe that is completly okay. I am 15 almost 16 and my bf is 17 almost 18. We have our problems on occastions but as long as you take it as slow as YOU need you should be fine. Make sure she really relizes your maturity levels are diffrent so she needs to take it slower with you even if you dont always want to, its a good idea to take your time and wait. and if she is not willing to do that then you shouldnt be with her. i hope this helped(: -CH

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Although it does not matter if your girlfriend is more aged than you or not, but it definitely matters if you ever feel guilty for that. If your love is true then nothing is wrong.

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my uncle and aunt are five years apart and she is older. if you too really like each other, it shouldn't matter the age difference.

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i am biased cuz my bf is 11 and i am 13...but i say it's o.k. cuz u two luv each other but on the other hand when she is 18 u can't date until u r 18...so enjoy while it lasts

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It is ok cause the guys that I am with are mostly over 17 and I am 14.

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