Have patience, that's one of the things I value about my spouse, he doesn't get impatient when I'm slow getting ready, takes the pressure off and makes me want to please him by getting ready efficiently. However, the NUMBER ONE tip is: don't be concerned with who's wrong and who's right, be concerned with understanding the other person's point of view and why they are upset. Why would I want to attack the man I love and make him feel badly for making a mistake, I don't want him to do that to me, so I don't do it to him. This really promotes excellent communication, which like CJ said, is extremely important in a marriage. Always make the bed in the morning, it starts the day right and ends the evening on a peaceful note. Oh, and when you go to bed, tell each other your favorite thing about your day.
Don't sweat the small stuff! Every single day, think of something that he/she does that makes you happy. Even when you're mad. If you are grateful for what you have that's good, more good will come to you.
I married my Best Friend. We know everything about one another, wrongs and rights and we do not have to pretend who we are. We enjoy each other's company. No lies, no jealousy, Who better to have in your life as a partner. Marriage is to work together as 1. You have to have a tough team mate. Loyalty, Respect...ETC. The love just does not go away after the euphoric effect wears off. You have a foundation and that is Your friendship / partnership. I can say I have unconditional love for my husband and he for me. It's a beautiful thing.. You just have to be yourself and start it the right way.. Agree not to always agree because that is ok.. We are all different.. Are some things REALLY worth arguing over? If You have a problem, I promise it is something you CAN work out. We are all human..
Anticipate your partners needs before your own-he in turn enjoys your consideration and love and returns it in kind--and you will have a 50 year marriage or relationship as we had. Believe me it works-
Don't get married at all !!!! I waited till i was 27 did all the right things .Gave my wife the choice to be a stay at home mom for seventeen years which most mothers would kill to do.She went back to college. Had 3 kids one has special needs. She got involved with some younger people , came home asked me what a MILF was stole all my savings 72 grand .Ruined my Credit .The Topper !!!!!!! She left me with the Kids ,I lost my job .to stay with the special needs child who is now 20 years old ! and i'm losing everything i worked for.My Kids went from all honor roll to failing .She comes around once or twice a year ! But does not see the children.You do not have to be married to have a relationship ! I even wrote DR.PHIL three times and he wouldn't help me. GOOD LUCK !!!!!!!
Marry your best friend. Someone you can enjoy life with long after the initial excitement is over and that will end. I married my best friend 20yrs ago and it justs get better everyday! And I only knew him for 6 months before we got married!
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just be honest and love her oh and dont ever try taking a picture of your you know what and sending it to a girl NOT EVEN FOR FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Married your best friend, one that known u inside out and likewise, that way u know they likes and dislike, u can talk school days about and always treat your spouse like if u now getting to know him/her u remember that time when u wanted to ask for a date but did not know how to, and the glow u always show when they near. Don't ever forget to Love, Respect, Communicate, be Honesty at all times then comes TRUST.
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If you are a man You have to prove and show the Wife that you can run everything, (LIKE) the washer, dryer Mop Broom, Shop-vac, and also wash dishes. It helps if you clean the home and keep a neat yard and don't throw everything around, and also have good manners and are not a drunk or mess around with other women and to top everything else You must not whisper from both ends in other company. When the Children come along You will have to Learn the to care for them, in every way, It would be great if you did not smoke. and then be sure after doing all of this you don't forget to give that sweet little thing your paycheck (each one) to manage your house and pleasure's (That she may allow you to have, if while your doing this, you do not every mouth off to her at any time, about any thing. That my friend is what it takes for the man to please his wife, and is the only way to do that . FOR THE WOMAN > She must not worry about this, and she will keep you forever during your LEARNING PERIOD
More important, it would be nice to throw a little humor into your lives! OLE GENO
if you have a problem or your spouse does something to irritate you, tell them about it in a kind way. when your working through problems together, hold hands. it's hard to yell at someone who's meeting your eyes and sitting listening to you
#1 Both in a love relationship w/Jesus; #2 True love=personal sacrifice & hard work; #3 Commitment is a choice not a feeling (commitment=bailing is NON OPTIONAL; and YOU should always working toward being emotionally/mentally/spiritually healthy, so this can work); #4 Don't keep things hidden from the other; #5 Have close relationships outside the marriage, but guys w/guys and women w/women. You'll avoid a TON of potential heartbreak. PROTECT EACH OTHER and PROTECT THE RELATIONSHIP. And my Mom's best advice after 53 years of marriage: Be each other's biggest fan. There's enough people dogging your mate. You should always be on their side!
Never go to bed mad at night. Solve the problem right now.--Tell your wife/husband that you love them every single day. Nobody knows what tomorrow brings--Put God first in everything. The rest will take care of itself.
First always include God in your life, 2nd Never forget how much you loved each other on the day of your marriage and build on that, and last but not least, never assume the responsibility of making your spouse happy, be happy with yourself and always be faithful to yourself and each other. Love conquers all. Ive been happily married to the same man for 27 years and our love is stronger than ever. Hope this helps
*Marry your best friend. Anything else and you will live to regret it. *Take care of yourself 1st. Children and spouse second. It is IMPOSSIBLE to predict the future. At least you will be ready even if your spouse / kids become losers. *If you start screaming and shouting then you already lost the argument. *Some people were raised in a home where screaming and hitting are normal but that doesn't mean that you should be treated that way. *Money is power. By giving your spouse free access to your money, that gives them power as well. Remember, you can always take it back if abused. *With un-married couples the power is often balanced which prevents fights. Married with kids can cause a power shift, specially with only one income the fighting inevitably starts. If you have absolute control of the money, I guarantee you will have problems. *Is it really that important to you that the county clerk sign that piece of paper? If you are truly happy together, will the signature of a government employee change anything?
Communication, patience and the liberal use of tongue-biting. Also, a rich imagination is a great tool for those times you mentally plan the murder of your spouse (and don't kid yourself - there will be days when you'll go there!). Finally, the ability to remember what about that person attracted you in the first place.
don't expect perfection their is no such thing as a perfect marriage every couple has arguments , good days, and bad days. just case you're married don't mean you have to act like it (as long as you're committed to them) hold hands, get all mushy goosey, dress up for no reason every once in a while. live every day like you're never gonna see each other ever again.
keep the little things going....like a note in their lunchbox or on their pillow, an extra something different that will add to the many smiles they should already have from just being with you but you care enough as a best friend to put them 1st!!
you have to be 'in'....all or nothing. the right person will respect your feelings and opinions even if you do not agree with them. it doesn't even matter who is right or wrong...you and your spouse against the world...oh, and be yourself 100 percent...you can only put on a front for so long and that's not fair to either of you.
WANTING ANOTHER'S HAPPINESS MORE THAN YOUR OWN.ALSO MARRIAGE IS NOT 50-50 IT'S A 100 PERCENT FROM YOU AND 100 PERCENT FROM THE OTHER PERSON AND SOMETIMES USUALLY MORE.A LISTENING HEART AND A FORGIVING SPIRIT AND A FOUNDATION BUILT ON GOD SO YOU CAN PRAY TOGETHER.THERE IS ALWAYS SOMEBODY PRAYING YOU THROUGH.REMEMBER TO KEEP LOOKING UP!!!!
#1. Make Christ Lord. Put each other first, that is, seek to love more than to be loved, seek to serve more than to be served, seek to understand more than to be understood, seek to forgive more than to be forgiven. I can't love that way without Christ (see #1).