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PeruvianPanda: 6 months ago

Would you break up with your partner if they cheated on you?

Some people believe in second chances, while others believe in "once a cheater, always a cheater." What about you? Would you give your partner a second chance, or toss them to the curve?

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CanadianCookie: 6 months ago

I'd give them ONE second chance, but my trust for them world be greatly damaged. Trust is like a mirror, if its broke, you can fix it, but you can still see the crack in it.

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tbrand344: 6 months ago

I agree with you

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roroquestion: 6 months ago

I third that. the phrase evolved from ' I second that' .

If you have doubts going through your mind ''if you should trust him'' maybe you shouldn't

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reneebond: 6 months ago via Android | Last edited at 10:22PM on 11/10/2012

Yes no doubt! if you stay its letting them know its ok to cheat and do it again.

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cutsandscars: 6 months ago

"Screw you, we're done." That's what I would do.

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xo_xo_xo: 6 months ago via Android

Once a cheater always a cheater!! So NO!

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M360: 6 months ago

Of course it's not easy. You should see signs of sorrow, shouldn't you?

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areyoumyzombie: 6 months ago

totally if he cheated on you then he obviously doesnt see you as enough so find someone who would never cheat on you

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arabearisme333: 6 months ago

I believe in second chances. Sometimes, when there's a problem in someone's life, it's just what they do. Of course after that chance if I caught them again, there would be some problems. c: there was actually a study that even though cheating ends relationships, some that stay together may even spice up the romance. :)

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Zaruna: 6 months ago

No second chances. Messed up once? So sorry, but we're done.

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greenthumbme: 6 months ago | Last edited at 10:24PM on 11/10/2012

Yup. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. I might forgive them over time, but subject myself to a relationship that holds no trust? No. I believe in second chances with the exception of THAT.

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ThatGirlMARZ: 6 months ago

Leave. Let them know cheating is wrong to you.

If it were me I would dump them. Now if they came back later and apologized I would THEN give them a second chance.
That would be my only acception of a "second chance"

Hope I helped.

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1cblegoboy: 6 months ago

Move on!!!!

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tishi12: 6 months ago via iPhone

It would be over. I could never trust him again

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EdwardGoodman: 6 months ago

I was willing to give my first wife a second chance but she just liked bed hopping too much.

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Ellipsical: 6 months ago

You may as well stay if the relationship is good, because everyone cheats. It's not a fairy tale.

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BrownEyedGirl123: 6 months ago

Not everyone cheats !

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Girlpower106: 6 months ago

Duh

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Dawn13: 6 months ago

yes, because u r good enough, he/she doesn't need anything from any one else

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mjdehunt: 6 months ago via iPhone | Last edited at 10:50PM on 11/10/2012

Look I don't know you so I'm Just going to talk to you straight you must be very young and you sound like a nice up front type of person okay I was married when I was very young and very much in love he was my everything he cheated on me I don't know why I was not enough now 26 yrs later looking back I should have drop him as soon as I found out but I did not I thought like you love can forgive anything and people make mistake and should get another chance I drove myself crazy trying to make sure he did not cheat on me again you say you forgive him you want to forgive him but you live with that scary feel in the pit of your stomach you call him all the time you check his phone it will drive you crazy cheating is a character flaw in that person it just who they are if your okay with sharing your man for always then fine if not save yourself and cut and run now good luck

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bernie81000: 6 months ago via iPhone

I would Only give her a second chance if she ate the beating heart of the person she cheated on me with.

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Katiestyles_3: 6 months ago via Android

Yes, you break up with your partner. if yhey cheat it most likely can mean that they are unhappy with you or that they want more. They are obviously not the right one for you because you dont want your partner to cheat. It may not be easy because you might love your partner but thats just not okayy. Trust is such an important aspect in a relationship.

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Jambo123: 6 months ago

I would give him 1 more week and if I found any evidence that he was cheating on my me in that little of time I would be gone in less then half hour!

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cali83: 6 months ago via iPhone

I would leave and never look back

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Lylah: 6 months ago

I am with a guy we have been together for 8 years and he cheated on me and i broke it off with him for 18 months but i couldnt get him out of my head we talked things out and now we have been happy and strong for 8 years now! The only thing i regret is loosing so much time with him...

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xXBaByDoLLXx: 6 months ago via iPhone

Good for you, everyone makes mistakes

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joemanftw: 6 months ago via iPhone

DUMP HIM!! He cheated on you and you deserve better then that!:)

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lsrnoso: 6 months ago via iPhone

Yes

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tbrand344: 6 months ago

No I would ask them how they really feel about the other person and also give another chance to the person

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Rose98: 6 months ago

If he is truly sorry for what he did, i would give him a second chance..

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celata1026: 6 months ago

unfortunately i found out 10 days after i proposed we have a son together gave her second chance but got in trouble almost killed guy with one punch now getting sued talk sbout gettin kicked in nuts

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AlexandriaLouisiana: 6 months ago

Yes I would.

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gigglekitty12: 6 months ago

i would give my partner a second chance because he was probably just in the heat of the moment and didn't know what he was doing

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katelynbourque: 6 months ago

welllll, i believe in second chances, i got a second chance.

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Star20488: 6 months ago

Once a cheater, always a cheater...

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tasmaniandevilkid: 6 months ago

i never give people second chances...

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kritikaaswal: 6 months ago

no ways

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Curious_One: 6 months ago

I can honestly say. I've cheated on my ex girlfriend a long time ago. I was 16 years old. She took me back but the relationship was never the same. The drama and pain from both sides of the relationship is never worth cheating . I don't believe in the saying once a cheater always a cheater because I've never cheated since and I am in a 4 year relationship with my current gf. It all depends on the person that cheated on you. Whether he learned his lesson or not but I will tell you, your relationship will never be the same. So unless you want more pain and stress I recommend moving on. It's more of if you go back to the person that cheated on you, you must forgive him/her for cheating on you and if you can't do that. Don't give second chance.

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gamergirl2214: 6 months ago | Last edited at 11:28AM on 11/18/2012

I wouldn't take him back, but if i still had feelings for him I would put him to an unknown test. (ex. Getting cute girls to stand around, plant hidden cameras and watch what happens when I leave.)

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adviceisrich89: 6 months ago

Yes I would

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ethancage: 6 months ago

I would definitely looking for break up but before that I would like to check the background of those (through online check) who have cheated before.

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HellpMeHellpYou: 6 months ago

umm.. well depends on a couple of different factors like.. why they behaved that way.. and if they were caught or confest/came clean ect. ''i'd more than likely move on thou cus if they cheeted on you then they dont love you or they dont know what real love is,

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Jessica1008: 6 months ago

Yes !

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5579: 6 months ago

Don't give your partner another chance because a guy in my town gave her a second chance and then she did it again they are now in a mess and divorced with 2 kids.

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amberloveslee: 6 months ago

yes

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Ash9285: 6 months ago

for me it would depend on how it happened and how many times. if the person i was dating was having an affair i wouldnt take him back because in my opinion if the person is having an affair they know what theyre doing so i wouldnt give someone another chance. if it was a one night stand i would hear the person out and understand the circumstances of the insident. it also for me depends on how many times the person cheated and the circumstances. if anyone has seen sex and the city the movie steve's cheating insident for me would be an example of giving a second chance. yes it would be very hard forgiving someone who cheated but sometimes the person is truly sorry and it wont happen again.

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ag21359: 6 months ago

I agree with CanadianCookie. It's hard to move past it, but if the person who cheated is willing to work on the relationship on their end and you TRULY want to be with them you should try working things out. My boyfriend cheated on me twice before I found out. Afterwards, we worked on our relationship and decided to move in together. We are definitely in a better place than we were. Now we are celebrating 6 years together.

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RosenMooralian: 6 months ago

I give him second chance.

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Lovesucks21: 6 months ago

No second chances, the relationship will never be the same again. The seed has been planted. A leopard never changes it spots!

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Allaura: 6 months ago

A year ago, I would have said yes out of common sense, but experience is different. I mean, you can say that jumping out of an airplane is a piece of cake when you haven't tried it yet, but when you're thousands of feet in the air about to do it, odds are you're gonna chicken out. My boyfriend has cheated on me more than once, but I'm still with him. Stupid, yes, but it'd be hard to let go after all that we've been through.

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danni_delight: 6 months ago

Well I am not really worried if a guy cheats or not cause I have had many guys that has had fun with me while they have girlfriends but it is just for fun and not anything more.

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katie14633: 6 months ago

It depends on who I'm dating but I would probably brake up with him.

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Britiney44: 6 months ago

once a cheater. always a cheater.

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NintendoGirl02: 6 months ago

I would probably break up with him.

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LeeJames: 6 months ago

i dont know what cheating feels so i cant answer it

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VanillaCalm: 6 months ago

It's always a hard one because you've put in much emotion and bonding into the relationship. However if a person cheats, the respect for the relationship has gone out the window. If you give them a second chance, they can easily repeat their actions. It usually DOES happen.

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kg2812: 6 months ago

I believe you should give only ONE second chance. If he or she screws that up, then it's over

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zoey1786: 6 months ago | Last edited at 7:22PM on 11/23/2012

Yes, you should break up with them. In my opinion it is hard to trust someone when you know their with someone else or they are thinking about another person, and if they are you should NOT trust them, Maybe ( depends on you) over time you can forgive them and then trust them again.

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Milix: 6 months ago

Lost of trust is a lost of trust. Unless he is the goose which lays golden eggs or he's the only man in the world. Likewise, the only woman in the world.

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majesticunicorn: 6 months ago

i'd not only break up with them but i'd take my grandmothers rifle and shoot them in the head

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lovedforever: 6 months ago

well if you really want to heal your marriage you would forgive, right?
God says the only reason for divorce would be because of adultery. yet i seem to think if i were married, i would try to heal

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dineydatsme: 6 months ago

yes because if the do it once they would probably do it again, plus you can't 'accidentally' cheat on someone it's a choice

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MISSseptember926: 6 months ago

I believe that once a cheater, always a cheater. I do not know from experience, i have never been cheated on. But i do know many couples where one person has cheated and i have seen how it ruins relationships, full trust can never be gained back after that. And also, if the person could do it to you once, who's to say they can't do it again? Others may think differently, but i think that if someone really loved and cared for you then they would not do such a thing to begin with. btw, i think the expression is "kick them to the curb", not curve.

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jamie123123: 5 months ago

yes/no haha idk

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