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Are you who you appear to be on Ask? It has come to my attention that many people are taking on personas that are frauds. Why would ...

...anyone put effort into doing this (the behavior is widespread all over the net)? Is it pleasurable to deceive? Is it fear of self-revelation? Is it a kind of wishful thinking as to what you'd like to be - or make others believe you are? If you've done this - or have observed it - what do you suppose the motivation is for such a deception? It actually takes effort to "become" a different online persona than you actually are - why would anyone put this effort into deceiving total strangers - people that typically don't even have real names (mine is actually "James" - great revelation!) - what's your take on this shape-shifting behavior? I have some theories - but I'd like to read your input. Thanks!

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I am ALWAYS 100% for real, yes, I do like to joke around, but I NEVER flat out lie about things and expect them to be perceived as truth and accepted as such......you are right about the people that do come here (or anywhere on the web) and put up a false front, I just don't understand why all the effort to mask their true-self...seems like WAAAAY TOOOO much effort to put forth for a joke that only you would be aware of.....but, more power to'em, I know who I am and that's all I can control....8)

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thanks for your HONESTY scott
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Ur right. Why be fake. Real people don't have time for that.
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dustee
I'm a b on ask and a b off ask...bees rock!!!!

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Lol. Got that right:) I have 3 boys. I have to be
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NAFTA: thanks for your input.
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Absolutely!
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Great answer, NAFTA!
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Indeed.
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candybar
I weeded out about 2-3 in the past couple hours!
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Damn right it does

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I am who you read or see about

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L0sAngeles1996

I'm real but a lot of people put fake pictures from google and say it's them but then someone else gas the same picture and they get caught and still try to say it's them maybe it takes them away from their reality that isn't as nice as their life online

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Good point LA.
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To be very open and at the same time to stay totally private.

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Some people feel like they aren't good enough in real life, so they fulfill themselves with a fake identity on here

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Since none of us are getting off this rock alive - it makes you wonder - why bother? ;-)
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joshuabagel
No clue, you've stumped me on that one lol
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It's more common than even we think.. Sad, truly..
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Zoe- So you're really a man...? lol
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Only on Monday's, Joshua!! Lol..
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What ever are you talking about?

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hahahaha
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well so much for the adults?
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They ALL float down here.......
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Creepy Naf.. ^^ Damn that SK and Pennywise!!
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it's me you see in my profile the peace symbol is for truth and honesty that is my real name!

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Thanks Scott - admirable characteristics.
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your welcome' great ?!!!
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My picture isn't the physical me, but it represents a part of my life. I am give answers that I would if I were face to face. I don't like pretensions. I do get how some people on here do change their persona. Some people aren't very brave in person and when they have a the anonymity of a computer screen can take out their frustrations in their real life.

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Preach it, sista!
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True that.
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Those passive aggressive people!!! Now I can finally get things off my chest ;-)
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I was married to a passive-aggressive who quickly turned into an aggressive-aggressive with IED. Fun fun fun.
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Sorry, MJ-what's an IED ? sorry I don't know...
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Intermittent-Explosive Disorder. They simply blow up for no reason. (Considering that an IED in combat parlance is an Improved Explosive Device, I really think the analogy is quite fitting.) They are miserable people to be around; the most common, everyday thing can suddenly set them off.
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*Improvised... honestly, my typing lately.
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thats what the internet is filled with... its easy to tell fibs here and there because of their anonymity, none of their friends are on here to prove it wrong. the reason why people do it? couldnt give you an accurate answer.

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My take is self-loathing and other identity issues.
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agreed. also caught up too far in thr materialistic world, easier to portray having nice things/success than gaining it yourself. consistant liars continue to brag and show others how sucessful they portray themselves as.
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Well I'm not in real life an abstract painting of a cat:D I'm a girl

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Somehow I figured that out all on my own ;-)
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:) hahaha
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My picture is now my cats
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Am I a dark blue blank space? No. But the answers I give are based on what I know or what I believe. If I'm not sure of a fact, I check Wikipedia; if there's nothing there, I don't answer. If I say I believe something, then I believe it. I give encouragement or discouragement where I think it's needed. I don't judge people; I will judge actions.

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Thanks Deep. It seems that only those with high integrity are responding to this question. I should have re-phrased it.
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I hate it when people lie online, that's why you can never trust the internet... Cause there are pedobears out there. But I am who I say I am and I want to be me so I don't lie. I think that people just feel insecure about themselves and they want friends on the internet by not being who they are.

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Thanks Kwass: interesting point about insecurity - we seem to have a lot of it in this country and in this Century.
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Oooh yes, yes we do.
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I'm the same b here and the same b off ....a b is a b all the b time.. bees rock....lol lol

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Yes, you have been changing your pic a lot lately.....it's kinda confusing, but I'll get over it 8)
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I found the memes and I like them....lol...
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Lol.. True dat!!
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nice new pic...cob
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I'm exactly who I present myself to be on here; to dispel any notions to the contrary, I have some Ask Family members who are also Facebook friends. I think it would be really difficult to maintain any sort of deception with that crossover, even if I was so inclined. Living a transparent life is the easiest way to go; I don't have a good enough memory to be a liar, lol.

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Thanks MJ: I may have miss-worded the question, judging by the responses. Besides online predators, I'm trying to figure out why persona changes - along with photo changes - are so common - on the net at large. Yet, Facebook completely contradicts this - or does it? Many FB users actually pose in exotic locales or for some other nefarious purpose than to simply share photos and comments with friends. In almost every case of bullying suicides by teens - FB was an integral component. Others use FB for "social surveillance" - besides self-promotion. The CIA called it the greatest "data mining" tool ever invented - subscribers actually reveal an incredible amount of details about themselves - no high-tech surveillance tools necessary.
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I hear you, girl!! Stay you!!
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Too true about the FB revelations. I had a niece air some family dirty laundry on my page and I'm still furious about it. But now Naf, Chill and candybar all know my deepest darkest secret, so it's all good. I know that there are a lot of horrible people who use the internet for their own nefarious purposes; I was engaged to just such a man for 11 years. Long story short, I learned that it is very easy for long-haul truckers to lead double (or triple) lives. If only for the reason that I've been lied to I would never lie to another.
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Thanks, truckerlady! So good to see you!
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Don't Chang anything, MaryJo. You are perfect the way you are.
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Thanks, Rathkeale, but I woud like to give away some of my PollyAnna naivety.

Truckerlady, I just now realized what I said about long-haul truckers... I didn't mean you of course. I am so sorry; that's not the way I feel about you.
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Aww.. I LOVED Pollyanna!! don't ever change that quality.. I play the glad game all the time..
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PollyAnna gets her heart broken... a LOT.
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Aww.. True.. :/
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Like Popeye always said..."I am what I am"

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And that's all what I am.. :0)
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I yam what I yam .... lol
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Hiii C.. People feed off of acceptance, it actually makes the world go 'round. when someone creates a persona and puts it on the Internet, it appears relatively harmless to them, after all, a persona is a "story", they don't HAVE to be who they truly are and who would know? The problem with that is it starts creating a "reality" when they do it long enough, and this tear in the truth of who they are and what they do starts to unravel, because they start blending their stories/personas/ruses.. Then when uncovered, they become angry, emotional, they cut others down to take focus off the truth of their identity.. They talk in circles because they're trying to keep up with every lie, untruth, story, ruse, they've ever told others.. This self-destructive behavior is learned at a very early age.. The problem with these charlatans, is that they suck in unsuspecting people and befriend them, creating multiple layers of lies, truly hurting those that cared about the person they thought they knew..

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As long as you tell the truth...you don't need a good memory.
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Absolutely! Best practice, always!
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Wow is right! Hey JD.. Done with the plumbing for the night?
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Oh yeah! Almost done with the whole job. Putting the house back together now. It sure is nice to have running water. I hope I never have to do that again!
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I read that all the way through, even at this late hour. :)
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Lol.. Lol.. Then thanks.. I can't believe I wrote all that.. At this late hour.. Lol.. hey medic..
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Yeah.. JD. For some reason, I really like running water! Weird! Well, I'm sure you did a great job, after all, you know who to blame.. ;0)
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I agree...wow!!!
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Very good analysis FS... Makes sense.
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Thanks Jacqueline :0)
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FS: and I know who has to fix it if something happens.
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FS: dead on and thank you for spending the time to write this (as well as updating your photo - I commented elsewhere) - I have a person I know that fits your description - my cousin's 20 year old young man - but is lost in his identity - actually spent many years practicing vocal inflections, gestures, charming interactions - in the bathroom mirror - perfecting various personas - which I actually saw him use so effectively that only I was aware that it was all an act (I finally told my cousin that this was aberrant behavior - he needed therapy). Now at 20 these personas are fully integrated into his social interactions - I saw him yesterday and he confessed to me that he felt "identity-less" - he can't pick a college major and he's a sophomore, he has nothing that excites him or gives him ambition - except that he's exceptionally buffed (my fault for training him) and handsome - he models for A&F shirtless for $150 an hour - which is making him the prototypical "Vegas Guy" - all superficiality - lonely and lost inside -no matter how many girls throw themselves at him. I feel bad for the kid - but it's outside my league to help him - and the parents are anti-therapy types. I thought he might have NPD - but I'd need a professional to assess this and offer treatment.
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Fantastic!
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Sad and true, true and sad....
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Z, you mean I'm NOT really a FarmerGirl? Oh thank God, what a relief.
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Lol.. Lol..
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Never ever stops
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who a scam artist? Happydays? I was thinking same. Happy if you real pic you should take a pic holding todays newspaper to prove people wrong. but you won't
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1988 after you get out if jail for harrassment.
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Yes MJ.. "happy" "Carrie" "Jessie" "nitemare" and the MANY other fraudulent personas..
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Well, it IS a relief to find out I'm not a FarmerGirl... but who is going to break it to all these animals around here? Dem cows iz gonna be pizzlemacated.
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Deyz gunna protest, MJ!! Either no milk, or no filet.. :0)
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Darn. Those steaks are pretty yummy.
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Lol.. Don't I know it.. It's weird how people affect you. Now, any time I eat steak, I think about you.. ;0)
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Freud you are crazy. Why don't you go after some real ones. Today was my birthday. Was Cancer a lie as well? Well, when the oncologist calls California after what they read-the worm will turn. You know who is and who is not and there are loads of them and they are your friends. You get off on this? I thought if you wanted to discuss this you would have the courtesy to do it off line. MJ1988 has been flagged by many and his filthy remarks removed on my questions. I know "I disrespected you"
And that us why you do not like me. When a person (you) answer a question and then in comments puts the diagnosis from the DSM as to what you think their problem is mentally...I feel it is a horrible thing to do. I brought it to your attention and you were po'ed at me. The people you made this assumption in front are people I like. I was Beautifulnitemare and legitimately changed to HappyDays. You do not like it it too bad. josh, MJ, TL, are good people. Some I do not know. You have embarrassed me to no end. Are you happy? I have never been anyone but me. I will not leave this site. That is your goal. My questions and answers were mine and I hoped I helped others. That is all I have ever done here.
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Carrie is my sister. SportsGuy wanted to know if she would get as many votes if her avatar was a lizard. She left the sight. You have made my brother cry because of your accusations. I do not know any Jessie. If you will, please take it somewhere else. Any person would be upset...you just think you are "God knows what"
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You are a liar as well.. The only dx I EVER gave on this site was asked of me by farmergirlmaryjo.. She GAVE me the DSM numbers and ASKED what they meant, I told her.. She is on this Q, so I wouldn't say it if it weren't true.. NO other person has been given a dx from me.. NO ONE.. I have been asked to contact people off site to discuss my professional opinion and have politely declined stating it wouldn't be ethical.. I have told people what their symptoms mean in terms of psychological studies, but I have NEVER diagnosed anyone.. you are a sham and a pathological liar.. You are the one following me around, be gone fraud..
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I'm tired of your lies.. You are obsessed with me.. Be gone, fraud..
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No more comments. I do not wish to converse any longer with you. We all have problems. Helping others is sure better than making such a stupid deal over fallacies. Thanks for a great birthday and I will be sure to send Ask a postcard from the hospital if I even want to go ahead with the surgery.
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Try to get along here folks....Happy B-day HappyDays.
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Thanks Chris.
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Girls. I am gone a couple of days and you 2 are still at it?! Talking about beating a dead horse. Please, go the Beatles way and "Let it Be." You are not gonna reconcile your differences, and it is not healthy to keep going at it. Can I then call truce, please?
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BTW, Happy B, Happy. Hope things go better this years.
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I'm whom I am.I love when their is peace and try to help answer people. People say I'm sweet and I'm happy to be my initials are S for Sarah and I'm happy to B be it!!! Their is no shame what so ever but I'm here to try to help out people who are looking for answers and its not fair for other people to disrespect and just do fraud....

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Very true, Sarah.
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Thanks for bringing up this subject!!!
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I don't pretend to be someone I'm not. It would be too hard to keep my story straight. There are things I avoid talking about either because this isn't a forum that is conducive to an adequate explanation or they are no one else's business. I also prefer to avoid arguments which can lead to hostility or make me look bad.
I'm not really Clint Eastwood but my username is a nickname I've had for many years.

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Niiiice!!
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You are smart to avoid the hostility, and once written you cannot take back your words (or posted comment)... People can take apart your words and make all sorts of judgments.
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Yes they can and I have gotten into it a couple of times when I should have let it go. I'll get into it if I need to but try to avoid saying something that I may regret.
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JD, I am only me and no one else. That is the truth and I have never indicated anything otherwise. I cannot stop you from believing either way. Please do not blame Freud. She has been upset with me a long time. I was trying to tell her to stop making fun of people as some other psychologist would see it and hurt her and there goes years of study and her license.
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Happy: I have never thought that you were anyone other than you said you were. I have never read anything from FS claiming anything about you either. I like both you and her.
I read on another thread that you have received some bad news. I hope things turn out 100% great for you.
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Happy: I just read the comments on her answer. I don't know what to say. Please consider me Switzerland on this issue. I don't know if it's appropriate but I wish you a Happy Birthday. You don't have to prove anything to me.
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Thanks JD...friends needed here. The birthday I am thankful for cause how many more will I get? It was a bad day. That comes with life. If this makes her happy then there is nothing I can do. MJ 1988 is a filthy guy. His questions deleted. His comments to my questions were awful. He can do what he wishes. He needs a newspaper.
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Yes I've never read any of his comments. Never heard of him before yesterday. Try not to let things people say get you down. Take care of yourself. Do you know what your prognosis is?
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I post true statements and true personal details about myself to strengthen a point I'm trying to make. I only do this because I'm anonymous. I've posted things on here my own family and closest friends know nothing about. I think it's easier to be the real "you," when you are anonymous.

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That is an interesting spin on being the real you. Good point.
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Medic: isn't that the theory underlying 12-Step programs like AA and NA?
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Maybe the same result, but for a different reason and a different direction to reach that result.
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Well I am nothing more than you see on here...a tired somewhat cranky truckdriver. I've got too much work to do than to waste time pretending to be someone that I'm not.
I have some real life friends on here, and can happily say that they are about as twisted as I am...but they are real!

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Amen, sister!!
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Who you calling twisted? lol
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That brother of mine...you know...you married him!!!
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Hell of a cook, too!
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What you see is what you get!

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A nautilus shell?
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I think Rolly is nice
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Oh Happy, you make me blush...
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Yes C, if you stand close enough, you actually hear the ocean!
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I'm a rock star with sun glasses. I enjoy my anonymous lifestyle here on ask. Kidding :-) I've noticed and wondered the same myself. Some stories are really far fetched, and it is apparent their questions contradict each other. Apart from the blatant out and out fake, I think this question is more complex. Even if I say I am my true self here on ask, if I analyzed my persona I might find differences. Besides, the written word is such a small part of actually communicating with someone, how can anyone know when I write ":-)" I am really smiling? Or the tone of my voice, the frown on my face, etc.... So, in a way, how can any of us be our "true" selves? (thinking in a different direction) As for the "identity thefts"I think it might be helpful to some. Taking on a distinct internet identity might help them learn how to express different perspectives, practice being more outgoing, aggressive, compassionate, etc... I don't see any harm in this. I don't agree with deceiving people, and I'm trying to remember this is not a social sight, but a question and answer one.

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Great point Jacqueline. Of course the next logical question is - how well do you really know someone you've actually met and socialized with? How many "couples" are actually complete strangers to each other but stay in the relationship because of social reassures or just physical attraction? How many wealthy older guys have hot beautiful young women on their arms - as trophies - and what does that make her and her integrity to herself by letting and even advocating for these types of hook-ups? You also caught the more subtle question buried in the larger question - which is also the next logical question - are we are whom we think we are or what society defines us as? Is identity in fact an amalgamam of bits and pieces of other identity components that eventuate in what we call "personality"?
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J I really liked your answer. I think these types of forums, would help a person express themselves more freely than person to person. I know I am one deeply flawed character, but I kind of like who I am and don't really have any remorse about how I have represented myself. i spent most of my childhood in a repressed environment and refuse to spend my adult life the same way. Great answer to a great question. Merry Christmas!
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Thanks! WTG, I too am one flawed character... Aren't we all? And if we think not, we're in denial! Lol. Nah maybe there are some, but I bet it's few and far. Wish we could be less busy pointing fingers and more open hearted right? There are a million reasons one would say, lie on ask.com to get a bit of attention... And let's just say they received a bit of attention that lifted their spirit and it caused them in return to show trust or kindness to another. Haha, not saying its good to lie, but who am I to judge. Later they might realize they didn't need to lie, and in the end it's a win win situation. Who knows, people are so damn judgmental and full of rules of how we should be, I am trying to free myself from that mediocracy and broaden my horizons. Only one way but up right :-) thank you for your encouragement and I hope you have a great Christmas too. And may I say I'm glad to know you on this limit sight :-)
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I yam what I yam 'cuz I yam! (Popeye).
Cerebro, I think people fabricate identities to have a bit of adventure from the safety of their homes. The American people are a fearful population, with good reason. Most don't ever travel past the next state, so going outside one's own identity is a form of exploration. As you can see, some are not good at the experiment. Some have ulterior motives. Some use Ask to play with a more sinister, ruder side of identity. It's not hard to see through all that.
I am who I say I am. I'm old enough to have lived through major change, various careers, loss of family members, and I have travelled. My imagination is very active and I know what to do with it. I know the boundaries. Great question.

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Ah, Popeye. One of the great sages of the postmodern era.
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Rath: great observation. The whole provincial thing suffocates the growth of a bigger worldview. I got this clear when I lived in Europe for a few years - in different parts - and noticed that when we argue politics here - it often looks like we're electing a high school class president - a nation full of fear - and that fear exploited by unscrupulous journalists that know exactly what they're doing: pandering for profit.
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It's clear that you are internationally and nationally informed, Cerebro. I'm so glad you are on Ask.
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R, better clean up spelling. You nailed me yesterday. My brother said follow this person because they are so nice. I think we got off on the wrong foot. I will apologize if you can as well.
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Rhere, there is no need for apologies. I corrected your spelling so you would know the right way to use those words. Knowing how to spell ordinary words right is part of learning how to make an intelligent idea more accessible to more people. As offensive as it might have been, I was doing something nice for you because I thought you were worth the effort. Writing properly makes a good impression. I hope this makes sense to you.
Who is your brother?
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Online discussion forums are much like a sporting arena. We expect entirely different interpersonal exchanges from football or rugby players when on the field than when they are off the field.

While my profile and the essence of what I say on Ask.com are reality-based, the "voice" in my responses is not the same voice I would use in an face-to-face encounter. That means I am far more forward in commenting to strangers here than in real life. One reason is that I have all the time I need to research and formulate my responses. And while I try to remain civil (and generally do a fairly good job of it), I am far more likely to be uncivil online than face-to-face. But on the other hand, I am far more likely to be prompted to incivility by encountering the incivility of others than in a face-to-face world.

When people choose to compete in an online arena, they need to be aware that they are competing with players from around the world who come from very diverse cultures and life experiences. It can get rough from time to time, and they must not take real or perceived slights to heart.

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From Canada, thanks for another great answer.
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Dead on Cal - and extremely candid - thank you.
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Yes, I'm an actual walking talking tasty cookieman. I drive a truck, as well. So you can imagine all the looks that I get and all the cops that chase me down with a full mug of coffee.

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What kind of looks do you get and from who, not counting the cops?
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Diabetics fear me. Husky folks eye me up hard and l
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Lick their lips. Kinda like those cops, too...
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@ cerebrogasm:are you??

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Fortunately or unfortunately, I'm stuck with me. ;-)
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Thanks that was the end of my birthday. C: I cannot believe this. I did not lie not be anything more than I am. I did not lie about Cancer, my beliefs or anything...you listen to the pros. I hope your comeback is better than your assumption.
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Hey, I really am an Orange Silhouette!

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Nope this is my beautiful puppy and what you see/read is what you get! ;o)

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Yup, this is me. There is just one me. I have no other profiles. No other personalities. I can't keep up with the one I have. I have a good reason for not showing my personal photo and it has to do with protection. As most can tell, I answer just like someone speaks . I give advice based on either what I've been through or have seen. I have lost my temper on here just like everyone else and sorry about that Rathkeale!!! . If I had to do it over , I wouldn't share so many personal things but that's what came out. I do know of and have seen others say on here they have other profile name pages, sometimes up to 4-5. I remember one long argument on here about someone doing it to give themselves points for their own answers, along with others having other profile names and pages to use while they're on time out for answering too many questions in a time period. The ones who do the second usually admit it. I figure if you have more than one page , and have to chose a different name, it would be hard for me not to sound exactly the same..like a teacher, but some do try and sound different.

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I DO WANT to say that some have decided to "start over" on Ask and they take down their old profile and start another one. I personally find this highly ethical. They have decided maybe they'd like to handle things differently. Well, everyone deserves this right and option. But these still just have one page . I have even considered it myself at times. I do not see that as hiding anything. I see it as realizing things didn't work out the best way because people are so unpredictable-and they have used something you've shared on here against
you. Restart button...live and learn ...but learn .
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Hi Sincerity: thank you for your response - I still find it peculiar to seek out "points" air "green thumbs" by setting up multiple Ask logins. I have a cgi tutorial site that requires logins - which track IP numbers, not email addresses. Payments for tutorials are linked to the IP - of which I make clear that dynamic IP's are going to cause login problems. Ask is not a pay-site and apparently have decided to use email addresses to open accounts. The downside to this is that one "nut" could create an apparent crowd that all supports some position on an issue - which, beyond being a colossal waste of time, is indicative of someone that takes this online arguing far too seriously - I'm not referring to actual authentic questions such as medical or science questions - but questions that are answered from ones's personal opinion. Thanks again, R-A.
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I like the reset button :-) And it is strange how far some will go to give themselves approval ratings... And agree with each of their different personalities haha. They must have a lot of extra time on their hands huh?
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Sincerity, it was so nice to read your answer. I hope you are feeling fine and ready to be the wonderful daily guidance wizard that you are.
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C: so many do it here it is stupid. You spoke with some. This is the only site I have I told the truth.
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Happy, you have always told who you were when you rejoined. Ask does not allow the same name to be used to there is no choice bit the have to think of a new one and we were glad to see you back! Didn't you get Hall of Fame your first month for your great advice ? I mean it was my first month I saw you...in May or June...
I was referring to a good friend of mine who came back on with a different name (because you have to choose a different name) but she will not be sharing her old name with this new one. And I think she has that right. Ghats a big difference between what I think Cereb is talking about with some on here having different profiles set up and appearing to be different people , but they are actually one person. He is wondering why someone would do that and I don't think I answered that part of his question. First, I really don't know why. Second, if I was to take a guess , I would say to play games...head games...with the people on Ask and themselves. It is a source of enjoyment. It has to be or they wouldn't do it-OR it's a way to keep others from knowing how much one person is really on here so it doesn't look like this is a habit?? Beats me. I just know that many people feel "used" when they don't know they are really talking to the same person when they appear as many different avatars. They are using one name and putting themselves all out there, like I do making a fool of myself over and over...but I am real...and they feel others should have the same standards. But the ones who have more than one and sometimes up to 5 different accounts don't see it as a standard thing, I guess.
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@Jaqueline3-I just have always used an iPhone so I don't know what a reset button is or what it's for. I can sign in or out, that's all. So can you see people give themselves points if you know their different names? Oh don't answer it. I don't care. All I know is I will always have one name and be one person . This whole thing makes my head hurt. I will be taking a break from here I think.
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Sincerity, please please don't go!
I, along with so many others, would miss you terribly. You keep people grounded. You make sense and are honest. Please don't go . . .
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@Cereb-because I don't think that way, it has never occurred to me that that's what could be happening ...someone, excuse me...some PEOPLE, setting up a small community with a few other people to cause "trouble" on here for their belief system! And because you have mentioned that, I am going to try MY BEST to never get sucked into you know whos, with a plural, web again.
Dumb dumb me. Now I know why there are certain people I NEVER seen those "trap questions". Because with those people there is no argument -itt's a belief system and boy do I feel dumb but I appreciate you pointing that out . I thought I was smart enough to see something like that, but I wasn't .
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You're right...it could be a dangerous thing to be able to have multiple accounts. But I do see A lLOT of good good people on here and I just have to believe that they are really for real.
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@Rathkeale-okaaay! Since I got invited to the zombie hideout, I won't go.
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Whew! Beckie, don't leave (me)! It's such a comfort and education to have you here!
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I'd like to weigh in one the FB aspect of things that was touched on above. Well, neither on this site, nor FB do I pretend to be someone I'm not, but my FB doesn't really give much away as to my personality or interests. It is very boring as I don't post very much information/statuses for the public view. I don't feel comfortable with disclosing personal details on the net for no apparent reason, the main influential factors are potential employers, and strangers finding things out about me that I didn't decide to tell them myself, or trying to talk to me. I'm not interested in making additional friends through FB, but rather, If they knew me already, then they wouldn't need to see any personal details. I mainly use FB just for private messaging (as an email alternative), and only have 1 photo of me- in which is a class photo in which I haven't indicated which one I am.

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Its not an attempt at going under the radar or intentionally misrepresenting myself, i'm just staying in my comfort zone. In person however, I am one of the most extroverted people I've ever encountered, I'll blurt anything out, because there is not much i'm ashamed of having done so far in my life, and sharing 'secrets' with friends makes me feel closer to them. I feel i'm too extroverted to keep many personal lies, because i'd blurt out the truth before planning what to say first- just whats on my mind, so knowing I have a lie usually makes me nervous- and I can't help the nervousness. Keeping other people's secrets however, is a different kettle of fish, because it's not my secret to decide with whom it's shared. I know this isn't a direct answer as to why people try to portray a different persona- I just hope this perspective provides a relatively valid contribution to the discussion.
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Estelle: thanks - an excellent description of healthy psychological balance. Unfortunately, a significant amount of others use FB for other, more sinister reasons: social surveillance is a big one. FB itself data-mines its users and sells packaged information to the highest bidder - the CIA has complete access to all FB details of any user, despite whatever "privacy" settings have been made. That packaged data is not only given to consumer businesses for marketing - but to other entities most FB would be deeply disturbed to discover how their personal details have been analyzed and sent to shady buyers.
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Cere, this is quite distressing. Do they have access to profiles of non-Americans? As a high school teacher, I'm not on FB except for a fake name. I'm so concerned about abuse of information that I never go on.
But on Ask, intelligent people can read other intelligent people so well. It's such a delight. I just started following Estelle. She gives good answers every time.
I'm on a bit of a crusade right now accusing some regulars of racism when they post anti-atheist crap.
Cere, I don't always comment, but I always give you stars.
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Oh wow, thanks for the compliment Rathkeale :)
Omg Cere, I had no idea it was thaaat invasive, I suppose it doesn't have to affect me excessively though, phewf. Well I hope they do use it to track down psycho's. If they put it out there, they should be prepared to deal with the ramifications.
Rathkeale, I'd assume that there would be other companies doing surveillance stuff of other countries as well (not specifically the CIA only maybe), because seeing that the internet is a global thing, it could be done from any country I suppose. And they likely do it on more sites than just FB alone. I've been told a rumor that if I was to look up how to make a bomb on the internet (like all the ingredients to make an explosive, plus how to set it up etc.) some government person would probably come knocking on my door and investigate me. I don't have an urge to see if it's true though. And with these drones etc. that they would like to bring out, it would be more than just our computer activities that could be monitored. Drones and internet surveillance would feel a bit annoying or a bit of a bummer, but anyone with a clean conscious shouldn't have to feel too bothered. At most, I'd just feel a bit concerned that maybe some guy was perving on me in my yard for no good reason. I'd support the use of drones etc. if they would assist with prosecuting criminals and preventing/reducing crime. If they didn't really bother with that aspect though, I'd feel a bit less supportive of it.
Cere, I wonder what sort of things companies are selling about us, any ideas? I've heard Instagram can use photos for advertising because they worded their privacy policy in such a way that they "technically" can use it without the posters' consent, and without having to give them a commission of the profits. But that doesn't strike me as excessively "sinister". Do you mean like scammers etc.?
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Rathkeale, yeah those religious conversations can get a bit frustrating hey, and don't seem to really get anywhere very fast. I'm pretty strongly opinionated about my point of view though.
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My name isn't ILMD (which stands for I love my dog) but I use my real current photo. I would never give out my real name.

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I have been on here before and quit using it and forgot my password and I also closed an account in disgust a time or two. But I would never do anything to cheat or have different personas.
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You are cool!!'
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I don't feed off of acceptance, 99.9 percent IM honest. Im always thinking peoples lies always catch up to them one way or another. plus I like helping people If im able . another thing James is a really nice name, and my name is really Maricella.
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Great answer!
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Second that Maricella...
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yea, I guess lol
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