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I want to break up with my boyfriend but I'm worried what our mutual friends will think, has anyone got any suggestions?

The two of us meet up regularly with a group of friends every week, and I'm worried if it will create tension among our friends after we break up. This is going to be my first break up so I'm really nervous and confused. I realize couples who split up shouldn't see each other for a while immediately after, but I don't want to abandon my friends just because of a failed relationship, and he probably doesn't want to either. What can we do in this case?

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I know it's a tough situation, but you have to do what is best for you. Sometimes, ya gotta put your needs at the top of the list....or stay with this guy & end up married and miserable in order to try to keep everyone else happy. It won't be easy, but hang in there!

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Thank you for your encouragement! I'm still trying to work up the courage to break up with him in the meanwhile...I feel so bad. :(
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It probably will be awkward, no matter what you do. Sadly, what often happens is the mutual friends will choose one side over the other.

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I know at least one of them will understand, as we've been long time friends, but I don't know about the others. :( It'll be a pity if they end up choosing sides...
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Could you still hang out with these friends, or are they all paired-up like Noah's ark? If they judge you for breaking up, maybe you should start meeting new people.

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There're two couples in the group, but one of them is a very good friend of mine so she probably will understand...and I guess you're right about them not worth my time if they judge me just for ending a relationship. Thank you :)
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You're welcome.
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For whatever reason it is that is time for you to break up, the real friends will still continue to be your friends no matter what, after all, you are breaking up with the boyfriend only! Good Luck & be wise!!

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I hope they won't it take it badly and start taking sides. That's the worst scenario that could happen. Thank you though.
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