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Is dating a 31 year old man bad when you are 21?

I'm 21 my bf is 31 he wants a to settle down and so do I. I'm currently in school and working but I also want to settle down . my mom doesn't of his age. she also has an issue because he's Muslim (he doesn't follow his religion strongly but he believes) so I won't have to worry about converting. but my family's not vet accepting

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no

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nope

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is that a farit .....i cant spell it
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lol yesh it was. justins ferret perry :3 i kissed him
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lol well it was cute
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a lil

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Who cares if he is Muslim? Who cares what your mom thinks? If you really like him, then remain boyfriend and girlfriend; finish school first, save money, and definitely make sure to get a job before thinking about marriage! Tell your mom his age; no lying here. That is a large gap, though, but you never know. Let it go on and play out naturally, but don't get too serious now. :) Good luck!

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Wengu21

no, not really

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Follow your heart to wherever it takes you,age is just a number.

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No I don't think so. Your both adults. If your happy and compatible with each other that's what matters

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No. if you really like him and you trust him then I'm sure its not bad. Just be carefull getting involved with a Muslim, they may say that they won't try to convert you but most likely they will. Trust me I know.

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As long as he has God hes good. haha

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theres nothing wrong with it. age is but a number. you cant help your feelings

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you are an adult make your own decisions who are we to tell you what is right where your love life is concerned?

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Well i think of it this way a 10 year old going out with a new born!

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Your saying I'm like a new born an he's like a 10 year old cause if so this comparison is way off and almost a little stupid but please explain
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ya wat fightlover said!!haha

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It isn't bad....Just wait until you're done with school though! (seems weird because you're older than me)

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Bad? More like not a good match probably, he is in a different place in his maturity, he should know this :) there is a BIG difference from early 20's to 30's Thats what your Mom knows you and maybe her intuition can see somethings
He isn't practicing his faith right now, but you said a key word, it will eventually come into the relationship, probably when it comes time to get married and the ceremony and when comes to raising children.That's when she can see it as 'bad'. Unless you are willing to convert, it isn't likely he will.
Your going to look at things differently at 29 than you are now. enjoy where you are now. at 21 :)

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harold808

I am a 46 year old man and going out with a 26 year old woman and it is by far the best relationship I have ever had and I have dated a women in her 60's and some my age. I don't think age makes any difference when it comes to love and who you want to be with.

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Wow really and there's no complications in your relationship .. And her parents were they approving
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We have been going out for only three months so far. She hasn't told her parents yet. They live in a far-away state and she doesn't want to put any facebook photos of us together up so that they don't find out. She tells me that it will be easier to introduce to them when we have been together longer, because her mother freaks out and worries about her at the beginning of her relationships. Her last boyfriend was 32 when they met and she was 20 and they were together for 3 years and separated but still seeing each other for the last 2 or 3 years. She is still friends with him but says they are incompatible for a relationship. There are some complications in our relationship, because she is a bit flaky which worries be sometimes, but the good far outweighs the bad. She pushes some of my boundaries in a good direction and fills me with a childlike joy. I am extremely nice to her, cook for her, and treat her like an angel, completely emotionally support and trust her, never try to control her, and accept her for who she and I wouldn't have the maturity to do that when I was younger. What I like about her is that she is genuine and trusting and doesn't play games with me like not all, but many women my age do.
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Yeah me and my boyfriend have been together for a while now I'm taking it day by day but I already know we are meant to be I'm not like most females my age I know what I want in my life and dating some one older helps because we are on the same level mentally
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As long as it's true love.

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10 yrs diifference
what do you think?
im limiting mine to the max. of 3 yrs

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If you thought you can live happily with him and if you are really interested in him..
Then Go for it..Or else Dont..

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honestly nothing should matter, im 18 and my guy is 28... we live together so... yeah

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