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I broke up with my kids dad a month ago because he was always cheating. Now I'm dating his friend. How long should we wait to tell him?

me and his friend get along great we both want the same things in life and were both falling hard or each other and we don't want to hide for much longer

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dustee

Not his business.... stop hiding and if asked TELL THE TRUTH...HONEST POINT BLANK TRUTH. then move on.

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Hi Dustee!! Hope you're doing well!!
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You're asking for trouble. There is a bro-code that your BF broke, and a no go code that you broke. You have fun with that one.

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green lima beans and good nite :)
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A month REALLY is NOT a long enough time to figure out what went wrong with your relationship so it doesnt possibly happen again. A couple questions .. this friend of you and your ex a reason for the breakup were you cheating as well? That's why you jumped into another relationship so quickly? WHAT ABOUT YOUR KIDS? Make really certain that you and this Guy want to persue this relationship before you go opening doors you may not want opened! BE careful! The question is how good friends are YOur ex and his friend! how long have they know each other? that's the real ? question...in the long run YOU deserve to be happy with whomever you chose to be with. best wishes :)

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We were broke up for a year then got back together because he said he changed but he still continued to be abusive and cheat n brag to my friends about it. I was tryn to make him leave long before a month ago he jus wouldn't go. An he works with the guy a couple days out of the month
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I didn't start talking to the new guy until a week after we broke up it wasn't planned and I've never been with anyone besides my daughters dad.
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you need to take a time out for yourself and your kids adjust to the breakup cause it affects the children more..and if this new Guy is around thru all this then that's purely ur decision and you do what makes YOU & ur kids happy and move on from there! ITS YOUR LIFE NOT EVERYONE'S! YOU have the RIGHT TO BE JUST AS HAPPY so be who with whoever YOU WISH best wishes for you and the kids!
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oh ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATRR!
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: ) thanks and he's good with my daughter. He hasn't been around my daughter since the break up i plan on waiting for that
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You got involved in a month
So much for reflection time huh?
Don't evpect a happy ending

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We were to together 3 years broke up a year got back together for a few months n he's been abusive and cheating the whole time and bragging to my friends about it. I reflected enough when i was with him. Im over it me and my daughter deserve to be treated right.
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yepper, you are in a pickle. best to keep it to yourself, just deal with the childrens father on seeing them and let time go by. he could fly off the handle if finds out to soon.

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I would say gat a divorce first but on second thought it sounds like you were never married to the father of your children.
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How about taking a break between guys? If the friend really is that wild about you, he can wait for 6 months.
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Your main concern should be the emotional well-being of your children and how soon before you bring the new guy around them.
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Oh! I forgot! This is the "good friend" who has been hanging around waiting for the perfect opportunity to get-it-on with his friend's woman.
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Tell him next time you see him.

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EXACTLY! ! Well said
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I'm pretty sure you left nothing out (except maybe the expletives). Good work. :)
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Hello! Nice to hear from you!
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What he did wasn't right.. I went through the same thing except my ex wife except he was my best friend .. Have you went to counseling to try to fix the problem with the baby's dad?? These days people don't want to work for anything.. It's easier for people to just move on to a new flavor!! Your story doesn't make sense in the fact you said that he would brag to your friends about cheating on you or being abusive or both?? Why would anybody go bragging to their girlfriends friends about either?? Also you didn't mention a single thing that you did wrong.. One thing you are doing wrong is being with his friend.. There are soo many people in this world and you have to get one out of your boyfriends friends.. It's only been a month since you broke up.. Sounds like you and your boy toy had this planned!!

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He only bragged about cheating and we have the same friends we grew up in the same neighborhood he jus didn't expect any of them to tell me what he was doing. Me and the new guy didn't talk until a week after when i ran into him. I never payed much attention to him he never really came around much... And i the only thing that i feel I'm doing wrong is dating his friend but i cant help how i feel and i want to be happy i jus wana know how long we should wait to tell him.
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How would you feel if one day he told you that he is dating you sister and that they love each other very much?? It's not right for his friend to do that to your ex either
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Hm, you say your ex was abusive? I'd be careful when and where I was when I told him. If your kids already know this guy, that is helpful, if not then I'd say your main concern should be how long before they meet him. Other than your personal safety, I wouldn't give a hairy rat's ass when I told him, or what he thought. He doesn't deserve any consideration. The trouble is going to be between your new one and your ex one. Keep your head down.

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Her story doesn't seem truthful to me because she said that he is abusive to her and would brag to her friends about it.. Doesn't make sense.. And only 1 month from the time she broke up with her ex she is head over heels in love with this new guy. It sounds like they had a relationship before she had broken up with her ex
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I respect your right to have your own opinion, but she also said this new guy was a friend of her ex, so she has most likely known him for longer than a month (this is speculation on my part.) I find it completely believable that a man who abuses his woman, and cheats on her brags about it to his loser friends. I was in love with my husband within 24 hours of meeting him, sometimes it just works. We've been married almost 15 years and just as happy and enthralled with each other as we were the minute we met. Yes, I believe in love at first sight, rare but possible. Anyway, I'm just explaining why I said what I did, you have thought out your position too, so I guess we'll just agree to disagree? Right?
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Wow its tricky cause he started it by cheating .. You don't have to hide nobody deserves that don't be afraid just tell him i moved on and it is what it is

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