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How do I keep my sister from ruining my holidays?

I love my sister and I have tried hard to get along with her. Every holiday I have hoped maybe we could put aside our issues and forgive and forget, but it never happens. She always comes over to my house, with something snotty and snide to say and hurts me deeply. Our parents are both abusive full blown alcoholics and I have distanced myself from them. But I had high hopes for my sister and I to at least get along, especially during the holidays. I want to have a happy holiday with her, but I just can't take her negative comments and negative attitude any more. I feel put down, hurt and angry, what can I do?

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Clear the air. Get your grief out in the open with her, but stay cool. Let her know you would like a pleasant visit, but if she can't get with the program, then hit the door. It's your holiday too, you should be able to enjoy it drama free.

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Have a quiet lunch with your nuclear family, and then invite your sister over in the evening for dinner or maybe after dinner snacks. That way she has less time to start arguments, and even if she does she won't ruin the whole day.

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Be very, very patient with her. Don't let her attitude affect you. Spend the holidays your way (good way) :D If she attempts to ruin you, or the good time, let her be. Either you stand up and tell her what's wrong and what's right, or just take a deep breath. One day, she'll learn her mistake herself. Or, go somewhere else and chill. If possible, just be nice to her because when you're not there for her anymore, she'll miss you :)

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go somewhere else for that holiday

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But she is coming to my house and making me and everyone else miserable.
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just Ignore her..be above letting her get to You...i have to do the same thing around some people...we all do...just part of life...
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Peace has got to come from two sides.
Try to discuss it with her, but if it doesn't work out take your loss.
It will be hard, but it will be worth it.

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