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Did I make the right choice?

My ex-best friend, Maddie, says tha she can never see us as "hang-out friends" ever again and she can't see us ever really being that great of friends. She said this because I was dealing with stuff between me and my dad and I took my anger out on her and pushed her away. Not physically but figuratively. I shut her out basically. I wrote her a letter explaining everything because she wouldn't ever talk to me face to face. I had to do something. Did I make the right choice by writing her this letter??

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Yes, because it will allow her to know how you feel. It'll give her a chance to think about what your friendship really means. Face to face is complicated because usually both persons are trying to get their point across thru loud and angry words and no one listens. this way she will hear you out more clearly.

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Yes that was very mature of you to do that. I hope everything works out!

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yes try to get in a situtaion when you HAVE to talk and explain yourself .......I know cause it happened to me at school last week it worked good luck :)

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youre welcome I'm glad i could help you :)
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Well, when it's done, its done. I don't think you should have shut her out and taken your anger out on her, but i also think she shouldn't have taken it so personally. If she really is or "was" a good friend she would understand and respect your private situations. You probably just needed some space, and that's okay. Don't force yourself to go into guilt mode, because she just wants you to. Friendship is about accepting and listening to one another's problems. She wants you to fell sorry. Don't tell her everything, because it doesn't have to be her business.

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Thank you! That was really helpful:)
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Yes i do think you did the right choice. You told her why do did what u did and that you were sorry. If she cant except the fact that you were going through a hard time and didnt mean to hurt her, then she doesnt deserve to be your friends.Because people make misstakes, and nobodies perfect

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You did. She may or may not change her mind. You've done what you can do and now the ball is in her court, so to speak. It's her decision now. Regardless of what she does you did the right thing explaining things to her.

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She wasn't your friend to start with if she chose to not stand with you when you were dealing with issues with your father. You shouldn't have to explain to a true friend in a note, the serious issues you are personally dealing with. The choice you made is irrelevant. Find a better friend, this one seems more concerned about how she appears to others than being a good friend to you.

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I agree, a true friend accepts you, forgives you, etc. because of one incident where you broke down and were upset because you had a personal family issue, it's like she's making it worse. You wrote her a note and explained yourself, if she still acts like she doesn't accept you then move on. You'll find someone who sticks with u always
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that was a good idea, but if you have a phone, you should text her. If she likes a guy, set up a date between them. hope everything works out.

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Well if you can't see her barly any more what is the point of being best friends

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because she was like my sister and it hurts to not be close to her.
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Oh, well maybe try inviting her over for a week or so
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Yes, if she can't accept your explanation, move on. I think she may be upset that you didn't talk to her when you were upset. Apologize for that and maybe you guys can go from there.

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Yes, as long as you put true apologies in it.

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If she didn't stick with you through hard times she wasn't really your friend

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