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GIRLS HELP PLEASE! My trust is at stake.

Alright well my ex and I were dating for just shy of a month, long story short, we both cheated on eachother. needless to say I didn't find out about it til just recently. So I decided to txt her and we have now been talking again for about a month. during one of our face to face conversations we agreed to completely restart everything and forget about either of us cheating (keep in mind that i still like her, ALOT). I still find myself thinking about the past though, and thinking about what she could be doing or not, in other words i'm having a major trust problem with her and I don't want to because I still like her so much. She's easily forgives, so i'm basically forgiven, but I want to get rid of this distrust feeling I keep getting. Can anyone provide any relief with this? or solutions? and should i forgive her? sorry this was so long but anything would be greatly appreciated! thank you!

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Well you should talk to her again and tell her your feelings. Make sure she's still not cheating on you and your not cheating in her:) you should forgive her, because you cheated too, and she forgave you. You need your relationship to get stronger, do you can trust each other. talking is the key right now. a lot of talking. and feelings! you also need to know how shes feeling about all of this, too.

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I'm not sure if shes hiding it but shes acting as if none of that happened. thats why i feel like i should be acting the same way
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Talk to her! Follow your gut.

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you need to talk face to face and tell her how you feel

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I've talked to her face to face and told her my serious feelings, there we even tears involved on both sides, I know for a fact that we both still have feelings for eachother now i'm just trying to gain the jist of the trust b/c i cheated with one person and lied about it. she cheated with one person and lied about 3 things, so there a little unfair balance to this whole thing and ik i should have put that in the main question im sorry.
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It's ok it's ok
Just try to forget it and say
U know what I really like you it's just the trust
You just have to tell her your feelings
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u know, it seems like her and i r closer now then we were when we were dating before. but remember, her and i agreed to forget what happened, so if i mention it shes gonna say "now didn't we talk about this and agree to forget it?"
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then tell her you can't forget it it's to heartbreaking
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I think i may but i don't want to ruin any other oportunities to be with her again
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you really do love her
Don't you?
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Yes i do! she doesn't realize how much i do, that's why i'm trying to preserve any type of relationship we stil have so i can use that later on when we get back together.
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can u email me about this? email is on my profile, u can kik me too if u like
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sure
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If you like her so much, why'd you cheat? Maybe you both don't like each other as much as you thought you did.

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There's a reason you broke up in the first place, don't hurt yourself again..

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k so if u both want to start over i think u should give it a try but go easy at first

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Keep your mind on your heart and your heart on your sleeve.

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