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Do I have a right to be angry and blow up at my dad?

My dad and I got into a fight and I blow up but it was bound to happen because I believe he's a bully. So what happened was he was going on about how I do nothing and mooch of if him not helping out with bills, the house and whatnot and how I'm 18 although I'm actually 19 years old still living at home. I blew up because it's all untrue. I go to college full time- I'm taking 13hrs and i've had jobs except since the past month because like I said I'm a full time student (which he says driving me to is a waste of time- Mind you he only does that) so I really have no time now until next semester when I plan on going to school part time so I can work again. I've paid bills for the house, even bills that weren't my responsibility like half his car payment and putting gas in BOTH cars, I've also helped pay the electric bill, and put food in the fridge/table. I've taken my siblings out for fun during the weekend so they'd have something fun to do-he's never taken us out except once to a park when I was about 8 years old I have also given him money plenty of times and he's never payed me back. He kept on saying how I'm lazy and provide nothing and calling me a b**** so I blew up. he was just so ungrateful for everything I have done and made me feel like a loser. he said he could do all those things like taking money I worked for because he's raised me, I have little memory of him growing up because he was gone a lot so my mom did more for my siblings and I, so I have no qualms about giving her anything. Was I right to blow up?

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It sounds like your Dad is a little jealous of what you are accomplishing. You don't need to point that out to him, but keep that in mind. It would be better to not have that kind of distraction, while you are in school. Can you live in a dorm or get an apartment with roommates?

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The school I attend doesn't have on campus housing, only off campus. I don't have enough money to move yet
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Do the best that you can, until you can.
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get out of that house and see about getting a place with some roommates that'll treat you with the respect you deserve... you worked too hard at school to be treated like dirt by someone who doesnt know how to treat his son properly... i wouldve done the same thing :(

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I wish I could but I barely have enough money to even pay a downpayment on an apt. because it all goes here. If I don't do it I feel so guilty- my mom even told me I have such a soft heart but I can't help it
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he's a man and you shouldnt have to take care of him if it was ur mom or grandma then it would be okay to help a little but i mean if you did everything you said he shouldnt be complaining. dont worry your in the right hope things get better

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Thank you, right now I'm avoiding him because I still have so much anger
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Wow that sounds like my dad. I think you definitely had a right to me mad at him.

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you are only human and your dad should of not of said what he did.

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Your dad sounds like a douche. You need to get out of that house as soon as possible.

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The siblings are too important to ditch though...
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That's true. But you need to know when to stand on your own to feet. I wouldn't ditch them necessarily. But I defiantly wouldn't want to live in the same house as him.
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You can pick your nose, and you and pick your friends...but you can't pick your family...AND there are two sides to every story.

It's unfortunate that you both can't get together to make this cohabitation work more smoothly. Sounds as you have both hit a breaking point..and understandably so. There seems to be no formal living arrangement .. your paying some sort of rent to help with household expenses. Giving the fact that you are still in school, that amount should be feasible for you to earn AND still be able to continue with your studies.

You should both be supportive of each other. If he can not handle the household bills, and you are working to put your self through school, you should come up with a deal that you can both live with. He 'should' be more supportive of you .. no question about that. My guess is he is frustrated in his own life...and you are the easiest target to vent. I don't think anyone can fault you for standing up for yourself.

You are definitely doing your fair share considering you are still in school. I applaud you for the effort you are extending to try to make something of yourself.

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Get a roommate and get the hell out of there! Your dad's a pompous ass.

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Have you considered getting some loans that enable you to attend school, rent a place to live, and support yourself? Might be worth it just to get out of the house. Your dad sounds like an abusive man, don't let him manipulate you into doing something you'll regret. If you put all your energy into school, you'll be in a better position some day to really help your family out! You are a fine young man, I applaud your character--your mom must be something!

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Get out now! I know you are not totally without blame but the situation has deteriorated to the point that there is no way that you can fix it. When any man starts calling a lady the "B" word, the next step is usually he going upside her head. Abusers usually break their victims down first by diminishing them as people by constant criticism and demeaning references. It will be easy for you to find somewhere to stay since you don't mind paying your way and doing your part. Get out and move on because nothing good will come out of this situation. Maybe you have a family member or friend who has extra space but is going through hard times?

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