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How many couples in longterm marriages finally divorce over money issues?

To say over money issues alone would be to unfair, over the past 25 + years there have been so many more lies about money, difference about how to deal with bills, I think they should be paid and paid off as soon as possible, he thinks "bills no big deal I'll pay the least I can just enough to keep them off my back" and he really does not care if they are off our backs or not. He has had loans from his mom that he has never paid back. He has had a friend of ours who is a D. D. S. do work for us and offer to let us pay him (a little at a time) that was over 18 years ago we now live in a different state and the guy has never seen one dime from us. I have been a stay at home mom with no income of my own. My husband has "taken care of all the bills" he has known what we had and did not have in the bank most of our married live. It was not until the last two years I knew he was not telling me truth.

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Wow, this is not a small thing. I would hate to find something like this out. I was a stay at home mom too but as soon as we married I did all the bookkeeping and took care of all the shopping, bills and bank issues....so I always knew what was going on. I don't understand how someone can live with themselves not paying debts back.....this must be such a shocker for you. Is the rest of your marriage good? If so, you have to sit down and put some rules down and start paying those people back. You have to start taking the finances in YOUR hands. If he does not want to do this then tell him you are seriously considering leaving him because you cant live like this. I also always made some money on the side even when raising 5 kids so try to make some money for yourself and put it aside so you have something just in case you need some.

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I think some women do leave when they can or cannot change this problem. You have to look at the other life if you do divorce, unfortunately you will be responsible for half of the debt, in the state of Ca.

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